Preparing To Be A Help Meet – Debi and Michael’s Love Story Part One

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideTo be clear, Debi and Michael's story is NOT a love story.  There is precious little love involved and a whole heap of red flags.I had just turned thirteen when I first saw him and knew, just simply knew, he was my man.  If he had glanced over and been able to read my mind he would have surely laughed.  (...)The whole community had been talking about the famous, young preacher who had been invited to speak at First Baptist Church's Teen Retreat.  (...) My young mind quickly assessed him.  He seemed bigger than life, a super, in charge type of man. I guessed he must have been at least 21 years old. (...) … [Read more...]

News: Is ‘Sleeping Beauty’ a Tale of Female Submission?

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from Buzz Feed's Ariane Lange - How Maleficent Became The Mistress of all Evil in Just 600 Years But perhaps the explanation for Maleficent’s cruelty has been in the centuries of patriarchal history all along.In Disney’s 1959 version and its source material, Maleficent curses a baby princess to seek revenge for a real or perceived insult. Despite being harsh, this villain is, remarkably, the only female character who is consistently pursuing her own agenda in every version of these stories. … [Read more...]

News: Duggars Dealing With Bill Gothard Fallout

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Jezebel.Com has written a horribly funny but thought-provoking  piece on the changes through the years in the Duggar family along with how they are answering the criticisms for following Bill "Grabby Hands" Gothard - How are the Duggars dealing with the Gothard Sex Scandal?So, what follows may be the greatest Duggar based conspiracy theory that you've read this month. Ok, it's not that great but it's a theory. Now, it is well known among Gothard's that the kind of crunchy, curly home-permed hair favored by Michelle and the clan in the early season is based on preferences of Gothard, who loved long, wavy womanly hair and damn the woman who does not possess sacred this crown. Now it may … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet – Background Information

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideI've been learning about the Pearls for the last two years as I've learned more about the Christian Patriarchy movement.    I have found Michael and Debi's books to be laughably bad - at best- and horribly abusive at worst. … [Read more...]

The Six Inch Rule: Thou Shalt Not Touch

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by Bruce Genercser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardImagine for a moment, that you are sitting in the pew of an Independent Fundamentalist Baptist (IFB) church. You are 16 years old and sitting next to you is your 17-year-old girlfriend. Like normal teenagers, you are sitting as close as possible to your girlfriend and you are discreetly, cleverly holding handsThe pastor is getting ready to preach and he asks everyone to turn to 1 Corinthians 7:1,2. With a thunderous voice, the pastor says, THE BIBLE SAYS: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Can Men and Women Simply Be ‘Friends’?

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Did you know that Debi Pearl has another book out "Preparing To Be A Helpmeet"? At the No Greater Joy Ministries website there is a small site for the book where you can ask questions and get answers about all those things plaguing you about your role as a helpmeet.Someone named Pumpkindoodle asked a question about non-sexual/non-romantic friendships between men and women and someone named Daddysgirlleh replied. … [Read more...]

Seven Phases of a Godly (Gothard) Courtship

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismSo I’m going to dip my toes into Bill Gothard’s Advanced Seminar Textbook once again, this time looking at a section titled “Seven Phases of a Godly Courtship” (pages 160—164). This, too, is a teaching I am unfamiliar with. Yes, I was taught courtship, but without specific “phases.” … [Read more...]

Purity. It’s For Girls

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismGrowing up, my brothers got purity rings too. They, too, were expected to stay pure until marriage. I have often taken comfort in the seeming egalitarian application of purity teachings in my own upbringing. Or so I’ve told myself.But I’m getting frustrated. Because let’s face it, the emphasis is on the girls. … [Read more...]

More Purity Ball Photos

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Last week when NLQ posted the purity ball photos by photography David Magnusson it seemed that was a lone example of creepy purity portraits. At least until another site managed to collect a pile of random ones including a purity contract to be signed by the father and daughter.Such a sad contrast, beautiful little girls, inappropriately intimate fathers. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Winning Souls More Important Than Sexual Abuse?

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by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy - Debi Pearl Weighs in on the IBLP Situation What I am saying is that God raised up a man, a fallen sinful man, and used that man to pull together thousands of believers for a greater good. What I am saying is that someday soon we will all stand before the throne of God to give an answer. All of us. The man. The folks on the website that rejoiced in the fall. Me. … [Read more...]


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