Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Holding Hands

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Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Male Blame Shifting Over Immodest Dress

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by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog What Would Roger Sterling Do?So a couple of weeks ago I mentioned I have my alarm clock set to American Family Radio for the purposes of jolting my butt out of bed quickly on those days I must be somewhere in a timely fashion.This week I kept waking up to a man being interviewed by a ministry about his slide down the slippery slope of lust and fornication. He copped to a long list of sexual peccadilloes over the course of a few days time. It seemed like the second he left his home and homeschooling for a 'worldly' university he went from chaste to trying to insert his naughty bits into any open hole attached to a woman. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Immodest Pants Wearing Started by Feminism Post WW2?

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by Melissa  from Far Above Rubies - Modesty and My Changing WardrobeEditor's note: Another evangelical Christian mommy-blogger who thinks pants are the devil and likes to lump them in as a feminist device by selfish selfish women that want to do outrageous things like *gasp* earn their own money and be be comfortable when they do tasks ill suited for dresses. Sorry, but women started wearing pants before World War Two, it only became wide spread for reasons of practicality in the 50s and 60s. Women didn't suddenly live in pants and start demanding rights immediately following WW2. According to historical research the average American woman didn't start wearing pants most of the time … [Read more...]

Dianna Anderson’s ‘Damaged Goods’ Book Review

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons I’ve been looking forward to Dianna Anderson’s Damaged Goods: New Perspectives on Christian Purity for well over a year now, so when it came in the mail a few weeks ago I was thrilled to pieces. I have so much respect for Dianna’s writing (today’s piece on Christianity and Empire is a must-read), and I was happy that someone like her would be tackling evangelical purity culture in a book. … [Read more...]

Excessive Modesty Makes Me Feel Objectified

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission To Live This last weekend we went to a large park with the kids and as we piled out of the van I noticed a Mennonite family was there. A teenage girl followed a toddler around the park, both of them wearing the long plain dresses that hid every shape of their young bodies. The mother sat on a park bench quietly watching while the husband and brother stood nearby arms folded, grimly surveying the area. I watched a young girl about age 9 climbing quietly up and down the play structures, her ankle-length dress billowing around her, her hair tucked into a small bonnet. … [Read more...]

Christian Cliches “Don’t Cause Your Brother to Stumble”

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by Kristen Rosser cross posted from her blog Wordgazer's WordsThis is the beginning of a series on various catchwords and cliches that Christians (particularly evangelical ones) are fond of using.  Like most oversimplifications, however, they usually give an inaccurate or one-sided view of the particular issue they purport to be about-- and often, they are based on misunderstandings of the Bible text(s) they are taken from. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: No Personal Agency in Chosing Your Clothes?

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by Shoshanna Pearl Easling from No Greater Joy magazine - Prudent but not a PrudeEditor's note: This reads so sad on so many levels. The kids in the Pearl household had only used clothing four sizes too big? Based upon this I cannot ever see mother and daughter buying that perfect outfit for the special occasion together, or the joy that comes when you finally get that one piece of clothing you'd been longing for forever. There's nothing wrong with being thrifty or even buying second hand, but it sounds like all clothing choices for the Pearl children were practical only. And the claims of not being a prude? Has anyone ever seen a Pearl women in anything but a longish skirt and loose … [Read more...]

Buckling That Swash – Please?

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by SJ Reidhead cross posted from her blog The Pink Flamingo Last week, the operatic world was in something of a flutter, at least many female opera fans were.  It was quite simple.  You take 1 incredibly good looking man with the best baritone voice of our generation, and put him in that shirt, and we lose our minds. Trust me, part of it is THE SHIRT.  There should be a law requiring men wear shirts like this. They are romantic, in every sense of the word: romance. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Rules For Modesty?

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by Kate Schell from her blog kateschell.comEditor's note: Kate is not a quiverfull evangelical Christian but she is doing an interesting series on the whole Modesty movement in evangelical Christianity called 'Immodest Proposals' that is a great read for anyone in recovery from toxic modesty teachings in Christianity. Featuring the list of 'don'ts' from her site. … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: Dressing So Men Will Notice?

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by Dianne E. Anderson - What Christian Men Don't Understand About BoobsEditor's note: Dianne has a book coming out in little more than a week about the whole Purity Culture - Rape Culture theology endemic to Evangelical Christianity. The book is titled 'Damaged Goods: New Perspectives on Christian Purity' and it is available for preorder now on Anderson's website. … [Read more...]


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