NLQ Question of the Week: Why Do Fundamentalists Obsess About Modesty?

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This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.First we have many different ladies and ministries calling modesty anything from floor length skirts to blending with the crowd in such a way that doesn't draw attention to yourself. Of course, in some Muslim countries modesty is defined by the burqa, but in fundamentalist Christianity modesty is a sliding scale, whatever your pastor decrees. Knee to collar bone covered with no short sleeves? Mennonite caped dresses disguising the shape of the breasts and bottom? Denim skirts and loose tees? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Even Completely Covering Up Can Be Immodest?

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by Christy Peterson from A Lovely Calling - ModestyEditor's note: So now extremist Christianity and Quiverfull are seeking to move the goalposts yet again on modesty? It's not enough to cover up almost completely, you now cannot wear anything that makes you stand out or draws attention to you. But isn't that what many of the adherents to the Christian modesty people do, stand out from the crowd as oddly dressed? So confusing. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Your Body Is Only For Your Future Husband’s Eyes?

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by Beecher Proch from Girl Defined - Guy Thoughts: Come on Girl, Keep it Modest (thanks to Bruce Gerencser for posting about Beecher Good catch!)Editor's note: Lots and lots of slut-shaming/women-blaming at the original link even if the author admits that men at 100% responsible for where they put their gaze. Guessing he has no one around to yell 'Nike' for him to look at his shoes when some half-dressed temptress crosses his path. He fails to realize that no matter how much a pretty girl, or any girl, covers up there's always going to be a squad of guys sitting in the pews popping pocket rockets when they go by. It's NORMAL!!! … [Read more...]

To The Moms Who Want To Hate On Middle-School Girls

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons [this post is in response to Kristen Welch’s “To the Middle School Girls at the Pool who Told my Son He was Hot“] Listen, moms, I get it.You live in a culture where anything goes. Where the public shaming of girls is acceptable. We sacrifice their education on the altar of “not distracting boys,” and we joke about how their “Instagram feed has more duck faces than a pond.” As mean and petty as those jokes are, our culture says they’re hilarious. You live in a time when we’ve figured out another way to shame women, and this time it’s not for reading “sentimental nonsense” like Jane Austen, it’s for having a twitter handle … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Look ‘Hot’ But Not Too ‘Hot’?

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by Bethany Baird at Lies Young Women Believe - When Looking Hot Gets You More AttentionEditor's note: So many times we've discussed the dangerous implications of the whole modesty culture that surrounds Quiverfull and Evangelical Christianity, the shaming and blaming that's done in the name of modesty, how it all plays into the purity culture/rape culture dichotomy and how destroying it can be to your inner self. Now they've come up with a different angle, the hot selfie, that thing many do on social media, they're making it all about your relationship with Jesus. Gah, just wear what you feel comfortable and confident wearing and leave poor Jesus out of it. Life is a much happier place … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – How Can I Please The Whole Family?

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Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Poisonous Christian Purity Culture Even In Africa?

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by DE FC Jonnpedro from Facebook as quoted by Vyckie GarrisonEditor's note: Make sure you look at the photo accompanying this post at Facebook. It's set so that it cannot be copied and shared here and it's a representation of slut shaming in the church. He compares a woman's unseen parts to a mine filled with gold and gems, not realizing that mines can collapse, can kill people and are deadly places to be, not always some wonderment filled with treasures untold like in Disney's movie "Aladdin" … [Read more...]

Male Blame Shifting Over Immodest Dress

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by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog What Would Roger Sterling Do?So a couple of weeks ago I mentioned I have my alarm clock set to American Family Radio for the purposes of jolting my butt out of bed quickly on those days I must be somewhere in a timely fashion.This week I kept waking up to a man being interviewed by a ministry about his slide down the slippery slope of lust and fornication. He copped to a long list of sexual peccadilloes over the course of a few days time. It seemed like the second he left his home and homeschooling for a 'worldly' university he went from chaste to trying to insert his naughty bits into any open hole attached to a woman. … [Read more...]

Dianna Anderson’s ‘Damaged Goods’ Book Review

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons I’ve been looking forward to Dianna Anderson’s Damaged Goods: New Perspectives on Christian Purity for well over a year now, so when it came in the mail a few weeks ago I was thrilled to pieces. I have so much respect for Dianna’s writing (today’s piece on Christianity and Empire is a must-read), and I was happy that someone like her would be tackling evangelical purity culture in a book. … [Read more...]

Excessive Modesty Makes Me Feel Objectified

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission To Live This last weekend we went to a large park with the kids and as we piled out of the van I noticed a Mennonite family was there. A teenage girl followed a toddler around the park, both of them wearing the long plain dresses that hid every shape of their young bodies. The mother sat on a park bench quietly watching while the husband and brother stood nearby arms folded, grimly surveying the area. I watched a young girl about age 9 climbing quietly up and down the play structures, her ankle-length dress billowing around her, her hair tucked into a small bonnet. … [Read more...]


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