Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Help! I Keep Getting Hit On!

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Cover Up You Temptress?

by Lisa Jacobson as reposted by Daughters of the King - Avert Your EyesEditor's note: We've shared this piece of shaming and blaming before, but it bears revisiting in light of the sexual scandals in many churches and the budding rape culture in the worlds of fundamentalism, evangelical and quiverfull Christianity.  What about teaching young men to not think of women's bodies as pieces of meat meant for sex or sexual temptation, and to treat them like genuine people? Do you think that might end this sort of torment for this poor kid if he wasn't hyper-sexualized by purity culture? … [Read more...]

Two Male Patrick Henry College Students Blame Females For Their Lust

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserAs I have shared before, Evangelical young men are taught that they are weak, pathetic creatures easily led astray by mere exposure to too much female flesh. A little cleavage or a tight blouse has led many an Evangelical man to the slaughter.  Instead of being taught to own and control their sexuality, many Evangelical men whine, moan, and complain about women “tempting” them to sin. Well, the moaning part is them masturbating after seeing too much of Sister Sue. Let me give an example of this kind of thinking. A year ago, Homeschooler’s Anonymous published a 2006 letter written by two Patrick Henry Colleg … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: So God Invented Clothing?

by Kristen Clark from Girl Defined - The Bikini is Destroying the Christian Girl's View of ModestyEditor's note: First, it's been considered 'normal' to swim nude by most Europeans for a lot longer than the advent of the bikini. Europeans are much less sexualized or hung up on the idea of unclothed body parts. Also, correct me if I'm wrong but weren't Adam and Eve nude in the Garden of Eden until they ate from the tree of knowledge, which made them feel shame over their nakedness, leading to them donning leaves? God seemed totally cool with the two of them hanging out in their birthday suits in the garden. Their own shame led to the clothing, not God suddenly opening up a ancient Brooks … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Sports Uniforms Are Not Modest?

by Bethany Baird from Girl Defined - Having Courage When the Bathing Suit is Way Too SmallEditor's note: Should the modesty level of a uniform worn for group sports really be that much of a problem? Why is everything in the world of fundamentalist / evangelical world so much more difficult than out in the world? You play basketball, then you don the shorts and shirt, you swim you wear your team swimsuit. It is really not that hard. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Women Cannot Have Male Doctors and Be Modest?

by Steven L. Anderson from Faithful Word Baptist Church - The Lust of the EyesEditor's note: Found this gem linked to Biblical Gender Roles blog. Wonder if Anderson feels the same way now that a male doctor saved the life of his wife and youngest child. … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Does An Immodest Culture Allow For Less Modesty?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Ex-Homeschooler Fashion

by Latebloomer cross posted from her blog Past Tense, Present ProgressiveAs a former fundamentalist homeschooled kid, one of many aspects of life that I've had to do a lot of catch up in is fashion.  I grew up choosing clothing based solely on modesty, which in my circles meant that I was shopping in clothing sections meant for the elderly and basically wearing fabric sacks.  Often, I had to make things for myself when even the grandmotherly clothing options failed me.  Everything I wore was at least 4 sizes too big and several inches too short, and I had no idea about choosing colors that complemented my skin tone, no idea about hair, no idea about makeup, no idea about skin and nail ca … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Girls Wearing What They Want Are Sinning Against Jesus?

by Reagan Ramm from his site Reagan Ramm.com - Modesty: A Guy's Opinion Part 2Editor's note: Several of the blogs we quote here for the Quoting Quiverfull feature have used Reagan Ramm's Part 1 on Modesty to justify all sorts of shaming. Here's the second part and it gets no better. Now he's claiming that if you wear something you want to wear and it causes someone to stumble you've lost the freedom to make clothing choices plus sinned against Jesus. Then he goes on in his blog to list what is and isn't modest. What gives him this right? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Telling Someone Else To Cover Up?

by Trish Ramos from Fish With Trish - "Uh Oh!"Editor's note: Several stories at Ramos site that explain how she and one of her readers confronted and shamed women dressed in what they considered an 'immodest' manner. I can't even... just horrified thinking of how badly the recipient of their tracts and unsolicited advice must have felt, ashamed, blamed and all sorts of negative things. Intolerance, hate disguised as love and a number of other things Jesus never said to inflict upon others. … [Read more...]


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