Nightline Prime and Purity Balls

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons I’ve seen a few documentaries about “Purity Balls” (which, every time I say that, my partner sniggers and I glare at him), and some are better than others. ABC’s Nightline Prime 20-minute documentary of the Wilson’s “14th Annual Father-Daughter Purity Ball” is not one of the better ones. The interviewer seemed to be either amused or baffled, and the only questions featured during the program seem to indicate a lack of awareness of what the underlying culture is– although she seemed to be catching on toward the end. … [Read more...]

PCC Has Released a Statement

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons   When I was writing my post “‘God is Done with You’: Pensacola Christian College and Sexual Violence“, I tried contacting four different departments at the school. All refused to speak with me, citing policy, and referred me to Amy Glenn, the Chief Communications Officer. It took me several days to reach her (she was out sick and very busy when she got back), but when I did eventually get in touch with her I asked her to confirm some very basic facts about the administration and their policies. When she got back with me, she stated that she could not answer most of my questions and that PCC did not comment … [Read more...]

No Blurred Lines

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission To Live We were picking up toys in the living room, and the radio switched to Robin Thicke’s song “blurred lines.” After a minute I walked over and changed the station, MS Action stopped her be-bopping and asked “Why’d you turn off that song mom? It’s good for dancing.” … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Think About Sex EVER If You Are Unmarried?

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by India Irving with quotes from Jessa, Jinger, Jill and Jana Duggar posted at Hollywood Life - '19 Kids & Counting' Girls 'Avoid Men' & 'Censor Thoughts' To Stay Virgins However, until they are married, they aren’t even supposed to THINK about anything associated with baby making! “It’s easy to put yourself into physical and moral danger and give into those emotions or sensual thoughts that promise pleasant, but only temporary, fulfillment,” the girls explain in their tell-all book Growing Up Duggar. … [Read more...]

Church Statistics and Abuse

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons [trigger warning for child sexual abuse, rape, domestic violence] I’m not entirely sure when it happened, but from the reading I’ve been doing, sometime in the last 30 or so years there’s been a subtle shift in how churches talk about growth. What my reading tells me is that this is at least somewhat connected to the rise of the “mega church,” with it becoming impossible for pastoral staffs to simply look around their churches and understand who their congregation is. … [Read more...]

25 Lies My Church Told Me

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by Boze Herrington cross posted from his blog The Talking Llama Last month in the week leading up to Christmas I and some of my friends on Twitter started our own hashtag trend, #LiesMyChurchToldMe. For two and a half days people tweeted the bewildering, puzzling, hilarious, and occasionally disturbing things that had been presented to them in church as the “plain teaching of Scripture.” … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Were We Even Watching the Same Program?

This is the Macklemore performance she's talking about. For more great Grammy photos be sure to check out Buzzfeed

by Laurie Higgins of Illinois Family Association, part of the American Family Association in an email that went out yesterday This past Sunday night's Grammy awards was a tragic freak show that demonstrated the entertainment industry's arrogance, ignorance of marriage, and disregard for children. It was a gawdy (sic) spitball hurled in the all-seeing eye of a holy God. … [Read more...]

Motley Crue and Christian Fundamentalists would get on great

Tommy Lee in 2012 (Photo credit: Wikimedia commons) It seems relevant to mention that Lee has also served time for spousal battery

by Jonny Scaramanga cross posted from his blog Leaving Fundamentalism I love Mötley Crüe. They were one of the bands that were instrumental in helping me to break out from the fundamentalist bubble I grew up in. “Dr Feelgood” was incredible; it made the Christian music I used to love seem anaemic and pathetic by comparison. And when I finally got to the point where I could sing “Shout at the Devil” without fearing that I might burn in hell, it was a huge personal breakthrough. … [Read more...]

True Love Doesn’t Wait

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by Rosie Franklin cross posted from her blog Disrupting Dinner Parties Trigger warning- Christian virginity/purity culture throughout (which is absolutely not sarcasm as a trigger warning). __________________Also, I told you not to read this, Mom._______________  I talked a bit Tuesday about how I lost my virginity, in my post on rape culture. I sort of mentioned but didn’t go into detail about the fact that the loss of my virginity was somewhat emotionally unmooring for me, in addition to the manner in which I “lost” it being awful. So today I’m going to talk about what I was taught about sex and virginity. … [Read more...]

Religious Counsel

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by Anais Chartschenko cross posted from her blog The Monsterium (Please welcome Anais to NLQ and to the SASBN! We're glad she's here!) My rapist had listened to me. I had warned him I was thinking of telling on him. I was getting tired of being his rag doll. He explained very gently that no one would believe me, or if they did they would tell me it was my fault. He decided to demonstrate this. He was very sensitive this way. … [Read more...]