It’s Not That Complicated: Part 4 Chapter 6

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAll quotes from the book are in blue textLast section in Chapter Six!  Yay!Overarching Themes:You've probably become afraid of dressing attractively since you read the section on modesty. … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 3 Chapter 6

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideQuotes from the book in blue textChapter 5 went really fast.  Chapter 6 feels like it will never end.Overarching Themes:Modesty in women starts with denying your own skills.... "The subject of modesty has already been covered from head to toe by other, much wiser authors, so we'll keep this short." (pg. 102) … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Touching Before Marriage?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 1 Chapter 5

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAll quotes from the book are in blue textNew chapter: Wounding Friends or Kissing Enemy? Reforming our Philosophy of RelationshipsAre "wounding friends" and "kissing enemies" two existing categories?  Are they mutually exclusive?  This doesn't bode well.... … [Read more...]

Godly Gertrude and the Harding University Dress Code

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserThis graphic perfectly illustrates the puritanical culture found in many Evangelical churches. Women are considered lust magnets, sure to attract weak, pathetic Christian men who have little control over their sexual desires. Starting with primary school age, females are taught to never, ever expose any of the sexual parts of their bodies–breasts, cleavage, bare shoulders, legs, and ass. In other words, girls and women are expected to dress similar to burka-wearing Muslims. The only difference is the head covering. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Dressing ‘Modestly’ Protects You From Creeps?

by Zack Clark from Girl Defined - Smart Dudes Aren't Looking at Your BodyEditor's note: I beg to differ. I don't care if you're covered up from neck to ankle, there are always going to be some men that will look and lust over that exposed inch of ankle skin. Cover that ankle skin and some guys will be drooling over your ear lobes. Plus creepy guys are going to approach you no matter what. Better to teach about sexual consent and how to deal gracefully with pushy guys that will be trying to hit on you uninvited than to claim if you dress modestly enough you'll be protected against those types. … [Read more...]

Why Do Fundamentalist Men and Women Dress Differently?

by Bruce Gerencser from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserWithin Evangelicalism, especially on the far right of the Evangelical spectrum, women are considered subservient, second class, whoring Jezebels out to rob men and teenage boys of their virtue. Listen to enough sermons at the local Independent Fundamentalist Baptist church and you will likely conclude that seductive women are lurking in the shadows ready to expose a bit of leg and cleavage, bringing weak, helpless men to their knees and hopefully to their bed. After all, the Bible does have a story that warns of this very behavior: … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Help! I Keep Getting Hit On!

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Cover Up You Temptress?

by Lisa Jacobson as reposted by Daughters of the King - Avert Your EyesEditor's note: We've shared this piece of shaming and blaming before, but it bears revisiting in light of the sexual scandals in many churches and the budding rape culture in the worlds of fundamentalism, evangelical and quiverfull Christianity.  What about teaching young men to not think of women's bodies as pieces of meat meant for sex or sexual temptation, and to treat them like genuine people? Do you think that might end this sort of torment for this poor kid if he wasn't hyper-sexualized by purity culture? … [Read more...]

Two Male Patrick Henry College Students Blame Females For Their Lust

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserAs I have shared before, Evangelical young men are taught that they are weak, pathetic creatures easily led astray by mere exposure to too much female flesh. A little cleavage or a tight blouse has led many an Evangelical man to the slaughter.  Instead of being taught to own and control their sexuality, many Evangelical men whine, moan, and complain about women “tempting” them to sin. Well, the moaning part is them masturbating after seeing too much of Sister Sue. Let me give an example of this kind of thinking. A year ago, Homeschooler’s Anonymous published a 2006 letter written by two Patrick Henry Colleg … [Read more...]