Christian Reconstruction, ATI, Abuse and Submission: Modesty and Lust Part 4

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by SJ Reidhead cross posted from her blog The Pink Flamingo “…When I think about my clothing choices in college it simultaneously convicts me of immodesty and helps me understand the struggle girls face trying to be modest. I wasn’t trying to be inappropriate. I just wanted to look good. I was single. I wanted to be attractive to girls and I wanted to be affirmed by other guys. For me to be modest I would have needed to wear looser shirts that I didn’t think looked as good on me. That would have been tough. And making that tough decision would have made me much more appreciative and considerate of my sisters in Christ….” … [Read more...]

“Modesty is Hottest” and Girls’ Self Confidence

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismBy now, you’ve probably heard “modest is hottest” thrown around like a mantra. There are “modest is hottest” fashion shows and “modest is hottest”conferences for girls. It’s about time I weighed in.Frankly, I’m conflicted. When I was a teen striving to dress modestly, I struggled with body image. I covered my body in baggy clothing. I felt unattractive, and that affected how I carried and viewed myself. So I like the idea that in many churches girls like I was are now being encouraged to think about fashion and dress in a way that makes them feel confident and good about themselves. That’s a good thing! … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: Protecting Sons?

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Blogger Bunker Down has written an excellent rant about modesty - How the modesty police are hurting my son If you want your daughter (and hopefully son) to dress modestly because you want them to value their intrinsic self over their outer self?  Fabulous.  If you want your daughter (and hopefully son) to dress modestly to create healthy attitudes toward sexuality?  Great.  If you want your daughter (and hopefully son) to dress modestly to glorify the Creator of all things?  Boo-ya.  If you want your daughter (and hopefully son) to dress modestly because it is a long standing tradition of your church/synagogue/people/culture/or group?  Awesome possum. … [Read more...]

The Female Body, a Source of Contamination

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismI recently came upon a blog post titled “How the Modesty Police Are Hurting My Son,” in which blogger Ami writes about trying to teach her son that he is responsible for his own actions even as those around her tell him that girls are responsible for covering up so as to “protect” him. As I looked through the mostly positive comments on her post, I was struck by this one: I think it’s great that you teach your child all these things—and I think it’s great that parents teach their children modesty. And sometimes it is to protect boys—they can’t un-see a girl’s body once it’s been seen barely clad. Many parents teach their childre … [Read more...]

Christian Reconstruction, ATI, Abuse and Submission: Modesty and Lust Part 3

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by SJ Reidhead cross posted from her blog The Pink FlamingoSo-called ‘Christian’ Modesty is a strange critter, at best.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with any group implementing a dress code. Feeling like a rank hypocrite and jerk, where I was once dead set against school uniforms (when I was in school) I now think they are the only answer to any number of problems schools and students face.  If a church or sect, or cult wants to have their plain dress, head pieces, or sailor suits of a Hubbard rear admiral or something, that’s fine.  It is still a somewhat free country where we should be somewhat free to practice what ever form or religion, or no religion, as long as we don’t harm o … [Read more...]

Christian Reconstruction, ATI, Abuse and Submission: Modesty and Lust Part 2

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by SJ Reidhead cross posted from her blog The Pink FlamingoWhat does Randy the guinea pig have in common with the men of ATI, patriarchy, and Christian Reconstruction?Thanks to No Longer Quivering, the pieces of what modesty is doing to the culture in general, and the perversions of Bill Gothard are finally fitting into the Christian Reconstruction puzzle. Supposedly the piece is a letter from a father to his daughters. It is sick, disgusting, and basically incestuous. No NORMAL father would even begin to discuss this with his daughters. … [Read more...]

Christian Reconstruction, ATI, Abuse & Submission – Modesty & Lust: Part 1

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by SJ Reidhead cross posted from her blog The Pink Flamingo“…A large majority of women may very well stand before God one day with a sea of men around her whom she caused to stumble by modeling her body in a sexy form in front of them….” Stephanus BlignautRemember the very first episode of WKRP in Cincinnati? Dr. Johnny Fever had just been hired, after wondering up and down the dial.  He had lost his big LA DJ job after saying the forbidden word: booger!  Well, that’s how I feel with this post. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: If You’re Living and Breathing You’re Making Some Man Stumble?

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by unknown from Go Tell My People - A Letter to my Daughter: Aroused by the Skin of my Wife The more “right” your figure is, the more careful you have to be. And you are a poor judge as to what is “right”. Those breasts or those hips you think are “too big” or “gross”, and positively hate, are the very things that will turn on a man. And again, you are a poor judge to determine how big is too big. That is because there is virtually no female set of hips, ample as they may be, that will not cause a man’s heart to pitter-patter, especially when draped over with a soft clingy fabric. And how beautiful, if that is the man’s wife. But what if she isn’t? She becomes a snare and a fiery dart in the … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Fashion Leads to Lust?

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by Stephanus Blignaut from Go Tell My People - Modesty: Discouraging Lust and Encouraging Godliness Women are so easily caught up in “what everyone is doing” or what is available in the shops and what is promoted in magazines and TV. They don’t think about how their body is portrayed and what it causes in men – the stumbling block it becomes for men. Women condemn lust in a man when they see it but somehow they don’t make the connection between the condemnable lust and their own clothes that they are wearing. Not realizing this makes them stand guilty before God as a stumbling stone because of the lust they caused. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Sexlessness and the Single Woman?

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by Colleen Chao from Ladies Against Feminism and True Woman - Sexual Desire and the Single Girl Imagine keeping a lion in a small cat-carrier. For years. Day after day. Night after night. He roars. He eats. (A lot.) His energy is endless. And yet you keep him caged. If sex is the highest good in life, the greatest pleasure we can experience, we're in trouble. … [Read more...]


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