Quoting Quiverfull: Sports Uniforms Are Not Modest?

by Bethany Baird from Girl Defined - Having Courage When the Bathing Suit is Way Too SmallEditor's note: Should the modesty level of a uniform worn for group sports really be that much of a problem? Why is everything in the world of fundamentalist / evangelical world so much more difficult than out in the world? You play basketball, then you don the shorts and shirt, you swim you wear your team swimsuit. It is really not that hard. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Women Cannot Have Male Doctors and Be Modest?

by Steven L. Anderson from Faithful Word Baptist Church - The Lust of the EyesEditor's note: Found this gem linked to Biblical Gender Roles blog. Wonder if Anderson feels the same way now that a male doctor saved the life of his wife and youngest child. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Representing Your King?

by Elizabeth Botkin from Visionary Daughters - What Every Christian Girl Can Learn From KateEditor's note: Almost two years of radio silence from the Botkin sisters, save for the occasional paid online seminar. Neither of them married in that time frame and no one really knows why they suddenly went quiet instead of continually flogging their restrictive lifestyle. But in this piece Elizabeth says that Kate Middleton, wife of the future king of England Prince William, represents the crown in how she dresses, that she doesn't dress or style for her own tastes but to bring glory to the British royal house. I doubt that she picks everything she wears with no amount of her own personal taste … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Does An Immodest Culture Allow For Less Modesty?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Ex-Homeschooler Fashion

by Latebloomer cross posted from her blog Past Tense, Present ProgressiveAs a former fundamentalist homeschooled kid, one of many aspects of life that I've had to do a lot of catch up in is fashion.  I grew up choosing clothing based solely on modesty, which in my circles meant that I was shopping in clothing sections meant for the elderly and basically wearing fabric sacks.  Often, I had to make things for myself when even the grandmotherly clothing options failed me.  Everything I wore was at least 4 sizes too big and several inches too short, and I had no idea about choosing colors that complemented my skin tone, no idea about hair, no idea about makeup, no idea about skin and nail ca … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Girls Wearing What They Want Are Sinning Against Jesus?

by Reagan Ramm from his site Reagan Ramm.com - Modesty: A Guy's Opinion Part 2Editor's note: Several of the blogs we quote here for the Quoting Quiverfull feature have used Reagan Ramm's Part 1 on Modesty to justify all sorts of shaming. Here's the second part and it gets no better. Now he's claiming that if you wear something you want to wear and it causes someone to stumble you've lost the freedom to make clothing choices plus sinned against Jesus. Then he goes on in his blog to list what is and isn't modest. What gives him this right? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Telling Someone Else To Cover Up?

by Trish Ramos from Fish With Trish - "Uh Oh!"Editor's note: Several stories at Ramos site that explain how she and one of her readers confronted and shamed women dressed in what they considered an 'immodest' manner. I can't even... just horrified thinking of how badly the recipient of their tracts and unsolicited advice must have felt, ashamed, blamed and all sorts of negative things. Intolerance, hate disguised as love and a number of other things Jesus never said to inflict upon others. … [Read more...]

Dear Christian Woman: Is Your Facebook Profile Photo Causing Men to Lust?

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserFundamentalist Christians rarely miss an opportunity to point out ANOTHER behavior that is a sin or causes others to sin.Several years ago, Trisha Ramos  wrote: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Only Make Yourself Attractive While Husband-Hunting?

by Laurel  J. Davis from Whole Magazine - What a God-Fearing Man Really Wants From a WomanEditor's note: This starts off sort of okay with a church survey asking the men what they want in a wife but then takes a severe right-hand turn right into a word salad pile of modesty shaming/blaming liberally dressed in cognitive dissonance. Don't dress in anyway that calls attention to yourself but dress to catch the eye when you are husband hunting seems to be one of the major themes. Funny, the article does not say one thing about the men who were polled requesting that their women dress to these false modesty standards of the author. … [Read more...]

How Abstinence Only Sex Education Led Me Down An Unexpected Path

by Amber Barnhill cross posted with permission from her blog Atheist By Accident.This was posted earlier in the week at Hemant Mehta's Patheos blog The Friendly AtheistWhen talking about my religious past, I often find myself referencing movies. How else are mainstream humans going to relate? Neo waking up in The Matrix. The barely-audible Asian chick in Pitch Perfect. And, in this case, Drew Barrymore‘s role in Never Been Kissed. If you’ve never seen the movie, the title really says it all.Imagine being an almost-24-year-old, intelligent, moderately-attractive-yet-socially-awkward female venturing into the real world for the first time, having never even held hands with a guy an … [Read more...]