Quoting Quiverfull: Brothers As Matchmakers Pre Screening Dudes So Dad Doesn’t Have To?

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by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy - Need a Spouse...ANYONE?Editor's note: So now Debi's adding another layer that a potential spouse for a daughter must go through, the brothers. In one breath she decries the 'current complicated courtship hoops' that young men must go through to get to know a young woman and in the next breath adds this new complication of brothers. Why is it that things which are uncomplicated, simple and natural out in the world of unsaved heathens take on a convoluted crazy form in Evangelical Quiverfull? It's exhausting just thinking about it. … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Where Can I Find A Godly Wife?

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Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Help! I’m Falling In Love With ‘GASP’! An Atheist!?

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by Paula Hendricks from Lies Young Women Believe - I'm Falling in Love with an AtheistEditor's note: Oh no! Because it's just not possible that two people could ever possibly respect and love one another if they don't agree on faith? I'm sure that will come as a huge surprise to the many inter faith couples out there that have been successfully married for many years. If your faith is so shallow that it's challenged by anyone not of the same faith then perhaps you need to examine exactly why that is. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Being Careful

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Our series of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – I Don’t Like Him Anymore

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Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 3 – The Wedding

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideToday, we get to meet Yetta, the bride that Debi was so impressed by.  She's been married for two weeks at the time of the interview. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Physical & Emotional Attraction?

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Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: When is it ‘Intentionally Available’ and When is it ‘Stalking’?

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by Kristen Clark from Girl Defined - How to be Intentionally Available Without Chasing BoysEditor's note: Remember all those screeds by the Botkin sisters, Von Ohlman and others in the Quiverfull Evangelical Christian movement about girls keeping their hearts pure waiting for courtship?  This is a bit different. The author started out by pointing out that Ruth pursued Boaz in a serious way to indicate she wanted him for her husband and she goes on to explain how a 'mature' Christian girl is allowed to do the same. The problem being is that some of this advice comes across like something someone obsessed might do instead of  a 'mature' person. Life is so much simpler outside the E … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Avoiding An Abuser?

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by Natalie from Visionary Womanhood - Deal Breakers: Advice to Unmarried Women (and Daughters) How To Avoid Marrying An Abuser … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Courtship Isn’t Spiritual But It Is Sexual?

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by Doug Wilson of Blog and Mablog from 'His Hand in Marriage' as quoted by Vaughn Ohlman at his blog True Love Doesn't Wait - Courtship: That Volatile Sexual RelationshipEditor's note: This is one of those few times I don't entirely disagree with Vaughn Ohlman. Yes, sexual attraction and chemistry exist and they do play an important part in marriage and who we chose to marry. But life outside the Fundamentalist Christian Bubble is just not as sexually charged and focused as it is inside. Most people don't walk around thinking about sex all the time, unless they are a certain sort of sexually repressed Christian man. … [Read more...]


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