Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Being Careful

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Our series of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – I Don’t Like Him Anymore

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Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 3 – The Wedding

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideToday, we get to meet Yetta, the bride that Debi was so impressed by.  She's been married for two weeks at the time of the interview. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Physical & Emotional Attraction?

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Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: When is it ‘Intentionally Available’ and When is it ‘Stalking’?

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by Kristen Clark from Girl Defined - How to be Intentionally Available Without Chasing BoysEditor's note: Remember all those screeds by the Botkin sisters, Von Ohlman and others in the Quiverfull Evangelical Christian movement about girls keeping their hearts pure waiting for courtship?  This is a bit different. The author started out by pointing out that Ruth pursued Boaz in a serious way to indicate she wanted him for her husband and she goes on to explain how a 'mature' Christian girl is allowed to do the same. The problem being is that some of this advice comes across like something someone obsessed might do instead of  a 'mature' person. Life is so much simpler outside the E … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Avoiding An Abuser?

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by Natalie from Visionary Womanhood - Deal Breakers: Advice to Unmarried Women (and Daughters) How To Avoid Marrying An Abuser … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Courtship Isn’t Spiritual But It Is Sexual?

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by Doug Wilson of Blog and Mablog from 'His Hand in Marriage' as quoted by Vaughn Ohlman at his blog True Love Doesn't Wait - Courtship: That Volatile Sexual RelationshipEditor's note: This is one of those few times I don't entirely disagree with Vaughn Ohlman. Yes, sexual attraction and chemistry exist and they do play an important part in marriage and who we chose to marry. But life outside the Fundamentalist Christian Bubble is just not as sexually charged and focused as it is inside. Most people don't walk around thinking about sex all the time, unless they are a certain sort of sexually repressed Christian man. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Voddie Baucham Thinks Marriage is More Important Than Education?

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by Voddie Baucham from his 'Child Training' sermon at Hardin Baptist Church bravely transcribed by R.L. Stollar from Homeschoolers AnonymousEditor's notes: Apparently Mr. Baucham does not consider parents behaving in a responsible way and modeling a good marriage in front of their children to be any sort of preparation for marriage. Which is sad, because no matter how much you lecture, hector or try to teach someone any concept sometimes the best way of all is to simply be an example. Where did this concept in Fundigelicalism that higher education for your child is wrong come from? … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 3 – Cinderella

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideI found this next part confusing. Leah is the author, but spends most of the time talking about David. I'm pretty sure Leah is an actual person - not a Debi character - because bits of the story seem plausible. David flew to Papua New Guinea for a two-month mission trip with orphans when he was 13 years old. Did David go to Papau New Guinea to work with orphans OR take a group of orphans on a two-month mission trip to Papau New Guinea? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Finding a Spouse is Like Finding a Steak Sandwich?

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by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn't Wait - Searching for a Steak SandwichEditor's note: Putting the search for a suitable spouse on the same level as finding a consumable commodity. Fundamentalist religion reduces people to objects. … [Read more...]


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