Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Creative Interpretation of the Book of Esther – Part 1

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide The end of chapter 2 of  "Preparing to Be a Help Meet" disturbed me the first time I read it, but I couldn't exactly figure out why.  I mean, yeah, Debi twists the stories of Esther and Ruth, but she does that all the time.  I realized that I resented that Debi messed around with the stories to make both Esther and Ruth seem like passive women who did what men told them rather than active participants in their own lives. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Michael and Debi’s Love Story – Part Three

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide In the two previous posts on Debi and Michael Pearl's 'love' story, Debi discusses how God told her she was going to marry Michael when she was 13 and he was 21.  She spends from when she was about 16 to 20 being Michael's ministry flunky and finally gets his attention by showing up with a pretend fiance.  He's pissed because he doesn't want to lose his flunky to another man. Sounds like a match made in heaven, alright.  Let's dive into the last bit. … [Read more...]

Preparing to be a Help Meet: Billy’s Courtship

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide You may wonder why I didn't title the previous post and this one "Lydia and Billy's Courtship: Part # "  I didn't because the two narratives feel like they were written about two different courtships rather than one event involving two people. Billy's description of courting Lydia is harder to read; not because of Billy or any of his actions, but because his interview is interrupted by comments from the editors - All. The. Time. All emphasis is from the original. "Q: What attracted you to Lydia? A: When I first met Lydia I wasn't what you would call really attracted, nor was I ready for marriage. (...) Our initial … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Lydia’s Courtship

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide Chapter Two begins with this title page: Discovering God's Will Moral to the Story: God often leads us down his path through the counsel of those who are wiser. I agree with wholeheartedly with the moral.  I have been so grateful for excellent advice given lovingly by my parents, siblings, my in-laws, my teachers, professors, people I've worked with and random strangers to name a few. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Mate: God Needs Our Prayers – Part 2

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide For this next paragraph, find a place where you can read aloud to a friend with a good sense of humor.  Let each sentence build a sense of increasing desperation and importance.  Whoever bursts out laughing last wins. God Designed His Will To Come About Through PRAYER Do you pray for those who bear responsibility for your well-being?  Your father will need wisdom to know how to deal with the young man who comes to ask for your hand in marriage. Your pastor might know a young man who would be a good mate for you.  Why would your pastor think to bring this young man to your father's attention?  Have you prayed for your … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Why is it Always Extremes? Where’s the ‘Middle Ground’ in Patriarchy?

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by Russell D. Moore as posted at Ladies Against Feminism and Moore to the Point - What I've Learned in Twenty Years of Marriage. Russell actually makes some decent points about marriage in this piece. But he also illustrates the black and white thinking of many in the Evangelical church. I knew on our first date that I loved her and wanted to spend my life with her. But many told us, “Wait until you can afford it before you get married.” It’s true. We had … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet – Debi and Michael’s Love Story Part One

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide To be clear, Debi and Michael's story is NOT a love story.  There is precious little love involved and a whole heap of red flags. I had just turned thirteen when I first saw him and knew, just simply knew, he was my man.  If he had glanced over and been able to read my mind he would have surely laughed.  (...)The whole community had been talking about the famous, young preacher who had been invited to speak at First Baptist Church's Teen Retreat.  (...) My young mind quickly assessed him.  He seemed bigger than life, a super, in charge type of man. I guessed he must have been at least 21 years old. (...) … [Read more...]

News: Duggars Dealing With Bill Gothard Fallout

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Jezebel.Com has written a horribly funny but thought-provoking  piece on the changes through the years in the Duggar family along with how they are answering the criticisms for following Bill "Grabby Hands" Gothard - How are the Duggars dealing with the Gothard Sex Scandal? So, what follows may be the greatest Duggar based conspiracy theory that you've read this month. Ok, it's not that great but it's a theory. Now, it is well known among Gothard's that the kind of crunchy, curly home-permed hair favored by Michelle and the clan in the early season is based on preferences of Gothard, who loved long, wavy womanly hair and damn the woman who does not possess sacred this crown. Now it may … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet – Background Information

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids Collide I've been learning about the Pearls for the last two years as I've learned more about the Christian Patriarchy movement.    I have found Michael and Debi's books to be laughably bad - at best- and horribly abusive at worst. … [Read more...]

Brave New Life: Introduction

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission To Live Once upon a time there were two girls. One was very sad most of the time, she kept her head down and did what she was told, because she could not imagine ever being strong enough to do anything different. She hardly knew what it meant to dream, to have goals and ambitions, because her life was already mapped out for her by others, she just had to follow the rules and be the person she was supposed to be. … [Read more...]


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