Singleness in Evangelicalism

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by Samantha Field from her blog Defeating the Dragons There was one day in graduate school when I got home from work, went on a very long walk, then I hid in my room, cried, and ate Sam’s Choice vanilla ice cream while I watched Sense and Sensibility. I’m not exactly sure why I felt the need to do that on that day, but the feeling of just being done with singlehood got a little overwhelming. I was lonely, and I just wanted it to be over with. I wanted to be in a relationship. I wanted to be happy. I was only twenty-four years old. Up until that point, I’d had marriage pushed on me pretty heavily– if you’ve been a Christian in America for any length of time, you’ve probably experienced that … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Marriage is More Important Than College or Discovering Who You Are?

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by Kelly Crawford posted both at Ladies Against Feminism and her blog Generation Cedar - 5 Things People Think About Marriage and Growing Up That Are Wrong College and becoming who you want to be and discovering yourself and your career should be much more important than getting married and tying yourself down to a commitment when the discovery of yourself has not yet been found. College is a time for individuals to discover themselves and find their paths in life. Marriage would greatly inhibit this. You cannot grow with another person until you fully know yourself. I am doubtful that anyone ranging from the ages 18-23 has fully found themselves yet. (Comment left here on the blog.) … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Why is it Always Extremes? Where’s the ‘Middle Ground’ in Patriarchy?

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by Russell D. Moore as posted at Ladies Against Feminism and Moore to the Point - What I've Learned in Twenty Years of Marriage.Russell actually makes some decent points about marriage in this piece. But he also illustrates the black and white thinking of many in the Evangelical church. I knew on our first date that I loved her and wanted to spend my life with her. But many told us, “Wait until you can afford it before you get married.” It’s true. We had … [Read more...]

Purity. It’s For Girls

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismGrowing up, my brothers got purity rings too. They, too, were expected to stay pure until marriage. I have often taken comfort in the seeming egalitarian application of purity teachings in my own upbringing. Or so I’ve told myself.But I’m getting frustrated. Because let’s face it, the emphasis is on the girls. … [Read more...]

Sexuality and Shame: Part 3 Sexaltation

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by Kaleesha Williams cross posted from her blog Kaleesha WilliamsI've heard so many sermons about sexual temptation, so much focus there, but they are occasionally balanced with messages about how holy and pure sex is within marriage.  Within marriage only.  Imagine, "Sex is sinful, evil, wicked...  Oh, now you're married--okay, you're free to enjoy yourselves!"   I wonder, what does a piece of paper or a pronunciation of "man and wife" actually change about the messages we've received all our lives regarding sex?  (Or about relationships in general.  Marriage is a very interesting institution, but I shan't go there now.) … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: The Unmarried Are Always Under the Headship of Their Fathers?

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by Suzannah Rowntree at Ladies Against Feminism - Unmarried Women and the Things of the Lord This verse does not command us how things are supposed to be. Rather it describes a tendency, a weakness, among married women to please their husbands above God. The same tendency does not apply as strongly to unmarried women, even in their own families, but if it does, the Lord still tells us we must “hate” our parents and siblings. … [Read more...]

Duggars and Courtship

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by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundA lot of people have pointed out how many Christian groups and churches are anti-gay. Even though these Christians love to say that they love the sinner and hate the sin, it does not remove the pain that a gay person has to face. If a gay teen comes out gay, the church will still pray for him and believe he needs to change. Sure the church claims to love the teen, but he’s still told he is sinning, and there is still that voice that something is wrong with him, and that he needs to change. … [Read more...]

News: Match Made in Heaven

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From Today Moms - 'Match Made in Heaven' Duggar Dad Introduced Daughter to Fiance It's wedding bells for the Duggar family, and daughter Jill has dad to thank.As the clan — the stars of TLC’s hit reality show "19 Kids and Counting” — make courting the theme of the new season, the 22-year-old daughter of Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar has just revealed she is engaged — and that her dad introduced the happy couple. … [Read more...]

Growing Up Duggar – Part 2 Foreword: Winning Souls Via Television

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by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapePages XIII to XVI "Lord, we pray that our family can impact the world for You!" This portion of the Foreword was titled "Racing Against Time" and details how Michelle and Jim Bob prayed the above prayer years before they were anywhere near the public radar screen. They state that the prayer was also humbly asking God to keep all of them on the right track, but in reality there's not much humble about that type of thinking as it presumes that their way is the only right way, more of a 'use us, oh God, because we are the most righteous!' … [Read more...]

News: Jill Duggar Engaged

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From People Magazine - Jill Duggar Engaged to Derick DillardMake way for a Duggar-sized wedding.The famously expansive Duggar clan, stars of TLC's hit reality show 19 Kids & Counting, will be adding a new son-in-law to their crew in the next few months. … [Read more...]


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