Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Where Can I Find A Godly Wife?

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Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Courtship Isn’t Spiritual But It Is Sexual?

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by Doug Wilson of Blog and Mablog from 'His Hand in Marriage' as quoted by Vaughn Ohlman at his blog True Love Doesn't Wait - Courtship: That Volatile Sexual RelationshipEditor's note: This is one of those few times I don't entirely disagree with Vaughn Ohlman. Yes, sexual attraction and chemistry exist and they do play an important part in marriage and who we chose to marry. But life outside the Fundamentalist Christian Bubble is just not as sexually charged and focused as it is inside. Most people don't walk around thinking about sex all the time, unless they are a certain sort of sexually repressed Christian man. … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Voddie Baucham Thinks Marriage is More Important Than Education?

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by Voddie Baucham from his 'Child Training' sermon at Hardin Baptist Church bravely transcribed by R.L. Stollar from Homeschoolers AnonymousEditor's notes: Apparently Mr. Baucham does not consider parents behaving in a responsible way and modeling a good marriage in front of their children to be any sort of preparation for marriage. Which is sad, because no matter how much you lecture, hector or try to teach someone any concept sometimes the best way of all is to simply be an example. Where did this concept in Fundigelicalism that higher education for your child is wrong come from? … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Finding a Spouse is Like Finding a Steak Sandwich?

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by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn't Wait - Searching for a Steak SandwichEditor's note: Putting the search for a suitable spouse on the same level as finding a consumable commodity. Fundamentalist religion reduces people to objects. … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: UnMarried – The Movie?

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by Vaughn Ohlman from his blog True Love Doesn't Wait - UnMarried: The Review A Fantastic Movie; With A Fundamental FlawI'm not going to post the review in its entirely but you'll notice that this film carries the Kevin Swanson seal of approval and Von thinks everyone needs to see it lest our entire bedrock foundation of society (marriage) crumble. … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Marry Your Rapist Unless Your Father Says No?

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by Vaughn Ohlman from his blog True Love Doesn't Wait - Deal BreakersThis posting involves the reasons that fathers really shouldn't be refusing various courtship/betrothal suitors. The bit we're quoting below I've heard various pastors describe mostly as a rape situation (like in Deuteronomy 22:28-29), though a few has said it speaks of a man seducing a young woman. Like everything in the Old Testament it seems to be open to interpretation.  … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Early Marriage Best For Christians?

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by Justin Deeter from Ladies Against Feminism and JustinDeeter.comInterestingly enough, while Mr. Deeter makes a few good points on why he believes Christians should marry young he does eventually move on to Von Ohlman's reason for marrying young: keeping you from falling in/on someone you're not married to's vagina/penis. It really does always boil down to sex with the patriarchy crowd.  … [Read more...]

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Singleness in Evangelicalism

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by Samantha Field from her blog Defeating the Dragons There was one day in graduate school when I got home from work, went on a very long walk, then I hid in my room, cried, and ate Sam’s Choice vanilla ice cream while I watched Sense and Sensibility. I’m not exactly sure why I felt the need to do that on that day, but the feeling of just being done with singlehood got a little overwhelming. I was lonely, and I just wanted it to be over with. I wanted to be in a relationship. I wanted to be happy. I was only twenty-four years old. Up until that point, I’d had marriage pushed on me pretty heavily– if you’ve been a Christian in America for any length of time, you’ve probably experienced that … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Marriage is More Important Than College or Discovering Who You Are?

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by Kelly Crawford posted both at Ladies Against Feminism and her blog Generation Cedar - 5 Things People Think About Marriage and Growing Up That Are Wrong College and becoming who you want to be and discovering yourself and your career should be much more important than getting married and tying yourself down to a commitment when the discovery of yourself has not yet been found. College is a time for individuals to discover themselves and find their paths in life. Marriage would greatly inhibit this. You cannot grow with another person until you fully know yourself. I am doubtful that anyone ranging from the ages 18-23 has fully found themselves yet. (Comment left here on the blog.) … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Why is it Always Extremes? Where’s the ‘Middle Ground’ in Patriarchy?

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by Russell D. Moore as posted at Ladies Against Feminism and Moore to the Point - What I've Learned in Twenty Years of Marriage.Russell actually makes some decent points about marriage in this piece. But he also illustrates the black and white thinking of many in the Evangelical church. I knew on our first date that I loved her and wanted to spend my life with her. But many told us, “Wait until you can afford it before you get married.” It’s true. We had … [Read more...]

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