Why Betrothal Isn’t ‘The Answer’

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by Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeLast week brought the news that Vaughn Ohlman of True Love Doesn't Wait betrothed his son Joshua to a young lady up in Michigan named Laura Camp. I wish both of them well, they look like good well-scrubbed Fundie Christians. They're going to need all the luck and good wishes they can garner considering the explanation of betrothal Josh's dad gave in the wake of the announcement.Marriage isn't easy under the best of circumstances. It's a struggle sometimes to create a union where each is valued for who they are and both partners fit together in complimentary ways. Their type of betrothal sets up a pretty high potential for … [Read more...]

Sunday Shout Out: How Quick is Too Quick?

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 One of our readers on Facebook brought out a good question. She wanted to know what everyone thought about the fact that Joshua Ohlman and Laura Camp only knew each other a grand total of two hours before the betrothal was signed.Is it better to take more time than a few hours to decide if this is the person you are willing to spend the rest of your life with?You can sound off below in the comments or if you wish to write a longer piece for publication on this subject you can drop me a line at CaluluNLQ(at)gmail(dot)com  Results published next Sunday! … [Read more...]

Damaged Goods

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 by Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeTrue Love Doesn't Wait author Von Ohlman has been taking on the writings of one Michael Pearl, author of "To Train Up A Child" and founder of No Greater Joy Ministry.You remember To "Train Up A Child" don't you? That child training book that has been blamed for the beating and starvation death of adoptive child Hana Grace Williams and the deaths of a few other children?  The trial of Hana's adoptive parents started last week. They'd been charged with murder, as they well should be. Michael Pearl and his cruel book also hold some culpability in my mind. But back to the subject. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: The Groom’s View

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by Joshua Ohlman at his father Vaughn Ohlman's site True Love Doesn't Wait - Betrothal Announcement Here is the announcement  that Joshua sent to his home church in Lubbock:Proverbs 18:22 “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.”I would like to praise God for making me a recipient of the blessings found in the verse above. A week ago Friday I had the incredible blessing of flying to Michigan and meeting and betrothing to myself a wonderful woman who had been known as Laura Camp, and who we now call Laura Ohlman (betrothed). … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Teen Pregnancy?

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by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn't Wait - Teen Pregnancy We had great news from one of our friends the other day: one of their teenagers was pregnant!(Yeah, read that again. I actually said it. No, I wasn’t kidding. Good news: teen… pregnant.)It used to be that a pregnant teen was a cause for congratulations. The whole church would gather around her and congratulate her. Oh, wait, I left something out. They would gather around her… and her husband. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: What is Betrothal?

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by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn't Wait - What is Betrothal?(Trigger warning for those recovering from legalism and extreme control by others! You've been warned.) Hosea 2:19-20 And I will betroth thee unto me for ever; yea, I will betroth thee unto me in righteousness, and in judgment, and in lovingkindness, and in mercies. I will even betroth thee unto me in faithfulness: and thou shalt know the LORD. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Betrothal Contracts?

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by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn't Wait - The Betrothal of Joshua and LauraCongratulations to Joshua and Laura on their upcoming nuptialsIt is with great joy in the mighty blessing of the Lord that we, the undersigned, in obedience to God do Covenant or Witness thereto that: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: College Substitutes?

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by Renee Ellison of Ladies Against Feminism and Homeschool How-Tos - College Substitutes Here is a starter list of substitutes for “doing” college:This is a list that leads to a victorious life.  So trained, your young adults will be truly prepared for real life that glorifies God.  When they review their lives in retrospect on their deathbeds they won’t see a shameful chapter of four years of close camaraderie with those who defied Him. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Answering the Botkin Sisters

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by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn't WaitA Response to Visionary Daughters, the website of Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin. Psa 68:6  God setteth the solitary in families: he bringeth out those which are bound with chains: but the rebellious dwell in a dry land.I need to start this post carefully. I have the greatest respect for the Botkins, including the Botkin daughters. Their writing, their films, their vision for their family long term… I am incredibly impressed by much that I see of what they do. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: From Courtship to Betrothal?

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by Jeff Woodward interviewing Joshua Ohlman at True Love Doesn't Wait - Feature: Q&A with Joshua Ohlman Briefly state your belief regarding the path to marriage. How do you believe one should go from being unmarried to married? … [Read more...]


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