Sexuality and Shame: Part 3 Sexaltation

by Kaleesha Williams cross posted from her blog Kaleesha WilliamsI've heard so many sermons about sexual temptation, so much focus there, but they are occasionally balanced with messages about how holy and pure sex is within marriage.  Within marriage only.  Imagine, "Sex is sinful, evil, wicked...  Oh, now you're married--okay, you're free to enjoy yourselves!"   I wonder, what does a piece of paper or a pronunciation of "man and wife" actually change about the messages we've received all our lives regarding sex?  (Or about relationships in general.  Marriage is a very interesting institution, but I shan't go there now.) … [Read more...]

My Abusive Relationship Was Typical

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsTrigger warning for abuse and sexual violence Last week, I wrote an article for xoJane and I shared some things about my past that I haven’t shared on the internet before. I don’t enjoy talking about my abusive relationship at all, and I especially avoid thinking about my last semester at PCC, which was nightmarish with exceedingly few good memories. I was extremely vulnerable in that piece, knowing that there would be people around the internet that would shit on it. … [Read more...]

Pensacola Christian College & Me

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsIf you’ve never meandered around xoJane, well, now is your golden opportunity. I’ve been a loyal reader for almost a year now, and it’s a pretty cool place. So, when an xoJane editor reached out to me and asked if I’d be willing to tell a piece of my story for them, you can imagine that my reaction looked a bit like this: … [Read more...]

News: Match Made in Heaven

From Today Moms - 'Match Made in Heaven' Duggar Dad Introduced Daughter to Fiance It's wedding bells for the Duggar family, and daughter Jill has dad to thank.As the clan — the stars of TLC’s hit reality show "19 Kids and Counting” — make courting the theme of the new season, the 22-year-old daughter of Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar has just revealed she is engaged — and that her dad introduced the happy couple. … [Read more...]

Growing Up Duggar – Part 2 Foreword: Winning Souls Via Television

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapePages XIII to XVI "Lord, we pray that our family can impact the world for You!" This portion of the Foreword was titled "Racing Against Time" and details how Michelle and Jim Bob prayed the above prayer years before they were anywhere near the public radar screen. They state that the prayer was also humbly asking God to keep all of them on the right track, but in reality there's not much humble about that type of thinking as it presumes that their way is the only right way, more of a 'use us, oh God, because we are the most righteous!' … [Read more...]

News: Jill Duggar Engaged

From People Magazine - Jill Duggar Engaged to Derick DillardMake way for a Duggar-sized wedding.The famously expansive Duggar clan, stars of TLC's hit reality show 19 Kids & Counting, will be adding a new son-in-law to their crew in the next few months. … [Read more...]

News: Jill Duggar Courting

From ABC Good Morning America - '19 Kids & Counting' Star Jill Duggar Is Being Courted By Derick Dillard Another Duggar is being courted."19 Kids & Counting" star Jill Duggar, 22, is now being courted by Derick Dillard, 25. She is the second of the Duggar daughters to enter into a romantic relationship, as Jessa, 20, has been involved with Ben Seewald since last year. … [Read more...]

Nightline Prime and Purity Balls

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons I’ve seen a few documentaries about “Purity Balls” (which, every time I say that, my partner sniggers and I glare at him), and some are better than others. ABC’s Nightline Prime 20-minute documentary of the Wilson’s “14th Annual Father-Daughter Purity Ball” is not one of the better ones. The interviewer seemed to be either amused or baffled, and the only questions featured during the program seem to indicate a lack of awareness of what the underlying culture is– although she seemed to be catching on toward the end. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: To That Girl Who Just Broke Off Her Courtship

by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn't WaitTrigger warning: Hard core patriarchal views that may make your nauseous! [The following post is purely fictional. No reference to any specific living person should be implied.]Ok, so you broke it off with what’s-his-name. That guy that, a few days or weeks ago you plastered all over your Facebook wall and spent dizzying hours telling your girlfriends about. We all understand why you did it. The guy turned out to be a jerk. From so far away we can’t tell exactly what kind of jerk, and you have very properly not cared to share that all over your Facebook page, but a jerk of some sort. There are so many types of jerks, but  he was one of them … [Read more...]

By Its Cover: The Duggar Book Signing

 by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't Rapeor White Privilege, Judgmentalism and Duggars, Oh Boy!Warning: This is long and I talk a great deal about how my daughter was treated by “Good Christians”. These are my impressions, not necessarily the views of anyone else. I didn't say much about Michelle Duggar. Saving that for another post since I'm still sorting out my thoughts upon meeting her.Yesterday I took a little trip from my bungalow in Washington DC/Northern Virginia suburbia to another Northern Virginia section of suburbia to see TLC's “19 Kids & Counting” Duggars up close and in person. I took my college-aged daughter Laura from … [Read more...]