Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – I Don’t Like Him Anymore

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Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Physical & Emotional Attraction?

Answering

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Avoiding An Abuser?

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by Natalie from Visionary Womanhood - Deal Breakers: Advice to Unmarried Women (and Daughters) How To Avoid Marrying An Abuser … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Is Porn a Marriage Deal-Breaker?

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by John Piper from Scott Brown Online - Is My Boyfriend's Porn a Marriage Deal-Breaker?Does Piper have a point or is he totally out there making wrong assumptions? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Daughters Intimidating Suitors?

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by Jenn Wilkin at her blog the beginning of wisdom - on daughters and dating: how to intimidate suitorsHere’s the problem with shotgun jokes and applications posted on the fridge: to anyone paying attention, they announce that you fully expect your daughter to have poor judgment. Be assured that your daughter is paying attention.  And don’t be shocked if she meets your expectation. You might want to worry less about terrorizing or retro-fitting prospective suitors and worry more about preparing your daughter to choose wisely. And that means building a wall.Instead of intimidating all your daughter’s potential suitors, raise a daughter who intimidates them just fine on her own. Because … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet – Background Information

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideI've been learning about the Pearls for the last two years as I've learned more about the Christian Patriarchy movement.    I have found Michael and Debi's books to be laughably bad - at best- and horribly abusive at worst. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Is This How You Should Speak About Your Spouse?

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by Spencer Harmon from his blog Unspoken - My Wife Has Tattoos: Marriage, New Birth and the GospelThis has been all over the internet this weekend, provoking many different reactions: some people thinking it's awesome and those that think it's awful. Someone on our NLQ Support group on Facebook said it should have been titled 'King Cophetua meets Beggar Maid' What do you think dear readers? … [Read more...]

Growing Up Duggar – Part 2 Foreword: Winning Souls Via Television

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by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapePages XIII to XVI "Lord, we pray that our family can impact the world for You!" This portion of the Foreword was titled "Racing Against Time" and details how Michelle and Jim Bob prayed the above prayer years before they were anywhere near the public radar screen. They state that the prayer was also humbly asking God to keep all of them on the right track, but in reality there's not much humble about that type of thinking as it presumes that their way is the only right way, more of a 'use us, oh God, because we are the most righteous!' … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: To That Girl Who Just Broke Off Her Courtship

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by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn't WaitTrigger warning: Hard core patriarchal views that may make your nauseous! [The following post is purely fictional. No reference to any specific living person should be implied.]Ok, so you broke it off with what’s-his-name. That guy that, a few days or weeks ago you plastered all over your Facebook wall and spent dizzying hours telling your girlfriends about. We all understand why you did it. The guy turned out to be a jerk. From so far away we can’t tell exactly what kind of jerk, and you have very properly not cared to share that all over your Facebook page, but a jerk of some sort. There are so many types of jerks, but  he was one of them … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Tell My Wife To Have Sex With Me!

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, Feminism(Trigger Warning for intimate partner rape)Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 161—164In this post we begin on Debi’s chapter “To Love Their Husbands.” Remember that Debi is working her way through the things older women are commanded to teach younger women in Timothy 2. You want to know what this entire chapter on wives loving their husbands is about? I bet you can guess. Sex. That’s right, I’m not surprised either. I do need to start with a warning, though. If you’ve ever experienced intimate partner rape, I’d suggest you either read carefully or skip this post altogether. … [Read more...]


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