Growing Up Duggar – Part 2 Foreword: Winning Souls Via Television

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapePages XIII to XVI "Lord, we pray that our family can impact the world for You!" This portion of the Foreword was titled "Racing Against Time" and details how Michelle and Jim Bob prayed the above prayer years before they were anywhere near the public radar screen. They state that the prayer was also humbly asking God to keep all of them on the right track, but in reality there's not much humble about that type of thinking as it presumes that their way is the only right way, more of a 'use us, oh God, because we are the most righteous!' … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: To That Girl Who Just Broke Off Her Courtship

by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn't WaitTrigger warning: Hard core patriarchal views that may make your nauseous! [The following post is purely fictional. No reference to any specific living person should be implied.]Ok, so you broke it off with what’s-his-name. That guy that, a few days or weeks ago you plastered all over your Facebook wall and spent dizzying hours telling your girlfriends about. We all understand why you did it. The guy turned out to be a jerk. From so far away we can’t tell exactly what kind of jerk, and you have very properly not cared to share that all over your Facebook page, but a jerk of some sort. There are so many types of jerks, but  he was one of them … [Read more...]

The Ten Men

by Vyckie Garrison of No Longer QuiveringI seriously need to stop reading the writings of contemporary Patriarchs ... I thought the Persevero News article that I posted earlier today which defends child abusers was bad (and it is!), but Vaughn Ohlman's latest is equally infuriating!! … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Finding Mr. Right

by Ladies Against Feminism - Advice To Young Ladies - Pick The Right Man A good woman will have no interest in flattering a man’s vanity and a good man will have no interest having his vanity flattered and little interest in those who seek to flatter him. He knows to well that vanity is the enemy of his virtue which comes by way of His duty to God. A good man will not give up his sense of duty for a woman who will so often misrepresent what a good man truly is with her flattery. A good man looks for a woman who … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Christians Should Fight ‘Religious Wars’?

Franklin Graham at Billy Graham Evangelical Association - Duck Dynasty and the Ducking Church I appreciate the Robertson family’s strong commitment to biblical principles and their refusal to back down under intense media pressure over Phil Robertson’s comments in a recent interview. As the Robertson controversy winds down—at least for now—I have been amazed at how many churches have apparently “ducked” out on the issue (sin). Some were even quick to condemn Phil Robertson. … [Read more...]

True Love Doesn’t Wait

by Rosie Franklin cross posted from her blog Disrupting Dinner PartiesTrigger warning- Christian virginity/purity culture throughout (which is absolutely not sarcasm as a trigger warning). __________________Also, I told you not to read this, Mom._______________ I talked a bit Tuesday about how I lost my virginity, in my post on rape culture. I sort of mentioned but didn’t go into detail about the fact that the loss of my virginity was somewhat emotionally unmooring for me, in addition to the manner in which I “lost” it being awful. So today I’m going to talk about what I was taught about sex and virginity. … [Read more...]

What “Fireproof” and “Twilight” Have in Common

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons During my undergrad days, one of my friends convinced me to read the Twilight series. At first I rolled my eyes at the “vampire books,” but I did read them— flew through them, really. I strongly, strongly identified with Isabella Swan– but when I tried to explain it to my friends, all that I could come up with was that “we were both clumsy.” My friends laughed at me, or rolled their eyes, so eventually I shut up about it. I was never able to figure out exactly what it was about Bella that tugged at me so much. I knew it had something to do with her relationship with Edward– I was frequently able to draw direct parallels to my rela … [Read more...]

Class, College, and Courtship: Why the next generation of Quiverfull will probably be poorer than their parents

by The Graduate I think that part of the reason that our family was never really considered true homeschoolers by some of our peers is because we had money.  My dad is a brilliant businessman, and his success certainly did drive a wedge between us and our peers, and we were always viewed as different.  It is true that we did the same things to save money that other homeschool families did, but we did them as our hobbies, not out of necessity.  We never struggled with making the mortgage or worried about our cars breaking down. … [Read more...]

Good Intentions Do NOT Success Make

by Joe Sands cross posted from his blog Incongruous CircumspectionVaughn Ohlman, the patriarch of the Ohlman family - literally, loves to tell the world how we have it all wrong.  How marriage in the hands of "young people" is the reason why marriage doesn't work.  That, if only we followed the ancient Jewish story of ole' Abe and his son, Isaac, all marriages would either be brilliantly perfect, or mostly work. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Ready For Courtship?

by Michelle Duggar during TLC's "19 Kids & Counting" & at ParentablesQuestion from a "19 Kids and Counting" fan on Facebook: How do you decide when one of the children is ready for courtship? In my home, we like to think very carefully about courtship and getting to know potential husbands and wives. Why would you consider really getting to know someone closely if you didn’t think that there would be a potential for marriage? A person really needs to ask themselves, are they at the point in their life where they are ready for marriage? If they are, they need to be careful in how they handle this whole idea of getting to know someone because the emotions and the hormones that are … [Read more...]