Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – What Do I Do Now?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Trust Your Own Feelings?

by C. S. Lewis as quoted by Vaughn Ohlman at True Love Doesn't WaitEditor's note: Of course we know that Vaughn is sharing this paragraph for a two fold purpose. 1) To claim that feelings of love have no place in the decision of whom to marry and 2) to make that fundamentalist claim that feelings are not important at all, that you have to deny them. We all know what this type of emotional denial and thought crimes leads straight to. It's never mentally healthy to deny your own thoughts and emotions. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Early Marriage or You’re a Used Up Whore?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - The Waiting GameEditor's note: Okay, okay, so perhaps Nancy didn't call older brides whores. But she did say that people who marry later are coming into the marriage 'violated', which is sort of her polite way of saying 'slut' or 'whore'. She's pushing the same idea that Von Ohlman and that disgusting Biblical Gender Roles guy promote, marry very young because if you wait you might commit the sin of lust. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 3 – Have Your Babies In Your Teens?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles.com - Women's Ovaries Don't Agree With FeminismEditor's note: Now he blames 'feminism' for the rise in older maternal age and the reason that 'selfish women' think that they are entitled to some personal happiness the goals such as careers and educations. Completely ignores the fact that pre-feminism and pre-birth control that women of all ages died in childbirth and that constant breeding does not produce 'healthy children.' … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Have Your Babies In Your Teens?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles.com - Women's Ovaries Don't Agree With FeminismEditor's note: There is simply so much that is awful and typical of the quiverfull tendency to allow daughters to marry early that we're going to be examining this in parts like we do sometimes with the worst of Michael Pearl's writings. Apparently Biblical Gender Roles, like other patriarch-promoting types like Von Ohlman, believe that you should marry off your girls at peak fertility, which means not too long after they start their monthly cycles. He starts off the original article claiming that girls as young as 14 have less problems with pregnancy and childbirth than women starting in … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – How Good Is Good Enough For A Potential Man?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Raising Sons to Marry Young?

by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn't Wait - Raising a Son to be MarriedEditor's note: Would it not be a better thing for society in general if we all raised our sons to be well rounded individuals ready to contribute to society and life on this planet instead of raising them to marry and start spewing out children immediately? Whatever happened to helping your son mature, settle into a means to support himself, and eventually a family, ensure he's educated, knows how to take care of himself, instead of having him marry right out of the family home with zero life experience? Going from control by mommy and daddy to a marriage that daddy oversees with no personal autonomy? Learning … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Brothers As Matchmakers Pre Screening Dudes So Dad Doesn’t Have To?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy - Need a Spouse...ANYONE?Editor's note: So now Debi's adding another layer that a potential spouse for a daughter must go through, the brothers. In one breath she decries the 'current complicated courtship hoops' that young men must go through to get to know a young woman and in the next breath adds this new complication of brothers. Why is it that things which are uncomplicated, simple and natural out in the world of unsaved heathens take on a convoluted crazy form in Evangelical Quiverfull? It's exhausting just thinking about it. … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Where Can I Find A Godly Wife?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Help! I’m Falling In Love With ‘GASP’! An Atheist!?

by Paula Hendricks from Lies Young Women Believe - I'm Falling in Love with an AtheistEditor's note: Oh no! Because it's just not possible that two people could ever possibly respect and love one another if they don't agree on faith? I'm sure that will come as a huge surprise to the many inter faith couples out there that have been successfully married for many years. If your faith is so shallow that it's challenged by anyone not of the same faith then perhaps you need to examine exactly why that is. … [Read more...]


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