Quoting Quiverfull: Happy Valentines Day?

February 14, 2013 By 14 Comments
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by Anna Sophia & Elizabeth Botkin from Visionary Daughters -February 13, 2013 Valentine’s Day may be a happy time for couples, but it’s often a painful reminder for single Christian women of what they’re still praying for, hoping for, and – sigh – waiting for. Many of us don’t have a valentine

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Shedding The Burqa: Part 1

February 13, 2013 By 8 Comments
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by Cindy Foster It would be the last sermon we would ever endure as members of the Baptist Taliban. We hadn’t planned for it to be, even though by that time, we were painfully aware that our leaving was inevitable. It was just a matter of how and when. My husband already

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Two Simple Statements

February 9, 2013 By 1 Comment
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by Samantha By the time I was a sophomore at an extremely conservative Christian college, I had gone through twelve years at an IFB church and been manipulated and bullied by quiverful and patriarchal teachings. My family had been excommunicated from the church, and friends I had

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Quoting Quiverfull: Role of a Help Meet?

February 7, 2013 By 7 Comments
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Michael Pearl in “In Search of a Help Meet” Be warned, there is a general misunderstanding, among both men and women, as to the nature of a help meet. Eve was not created to just carry extra weight on the trail, or to speed up the process

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Betrothed: A Love Story

February 5, 2013 By 14 Comments
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Looks like the Christian Culture War is currently alive and well in the Indie film world. There’s a fund raiser going on right now on the Indiegogo.com website to fund a film about courtship named “Betrothed: A Love Story”. It’s being billed as a documentary film and a romantic comedy. Here’s a short synopsis of [...]

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