Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Touching Before Marriage?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 1 Chapter 5

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAll quotes from the book are in blue textNew chapter: Wounding Friends or Kissing Enemy? Reforming our Philosophy of RelationshipsAre "wounding friends" and "kissing enemies" two existing categories?  Are they mutually exclusive?  This doesn't bode well.... … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How Far is Too Far?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Let Your Friends and Family Pick Your Mate?

by Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles - How the Modern Practice of Christian Dating is Cruel to Men as always linked through Do Not LinkEditor's note - Larry finally comes out and spells out the only way in his mind for two people to decide to marry, by committee meeting. Followed by a quickie wedding so Mr. Bridegroom can control his brain and his gonads. Such weak silly men in Mr. Solomon's world! … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Being Careful

Our series of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Physical & Emotional Attraction?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: When is it ‘Intentionally Available’ and When is it ‘Stalking’?

by Kristen Clark from Girl Defined - How to be Intentionally Available Without Chasing BoysEditor's note: Remember all those screeds by the Botkin sisters, Von Ohlman and others in the Quiverfull Evangelical Christian movement about girls keeping their hearts pure waiting for courtship?  This is a bit different. The author started out by pointing out that Ruth pursued Boaz in a serious way to indicate she wanted him for her husband and she goes on to explain how a 'mature' Christian girl is allowed to do the same. The problem being is that some of this advice comes across like something someone obsessed might do instead of  a 'mature' person. Life is so much simpler outside the E … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Finding a Spouse is Like Finding a Steak Sandwich?

by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn't Wait - Searching for a Steak SandwichEditor's note: Putting the search for a suitable spouse on the same level as finding a consumable commodity. Fundamentalist religion reduces people to objects. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 1 – Pie in the Sky

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAfter the last chapter, a girl might be thinking about using electronic communication - get to know a guy without worrying about accidentally dragging his sexual feeling into the picture.WRONG!The real name of this chapter should be "INTERWEBS IS EVIL!" … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Marry Your Rapist Unless Your Father Says No?

by Vaughn Ohlman from his blog True Love Doesn't Wait - Deal BreakersThis posting involves the reasons that fathers really shouldn't be refusing various courtship/betrothal suitors. The bit we're quoting below I've heard various pastors describe mostly as a rape situation (like in Deuteronomy 22:28-29), though a few has said it speaks of a man seducing a young woman. Like everything in the Old Testament it seems to be open to interpretation.  … [Read more...]


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