Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Being Careful

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Our series of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Physical & Emotional Attraction?

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Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: When is it ‘Intentionally Available’ and When is it ‘Stalking’?

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by Kristen Clark from Girl Defined - How to be Intentionally Available Without Chasing BoysEditor's note: Remember all those screeds by the Botkin sisters, Von Ohlman and others in the Quiverfull Evangelical Christian movement about girls keeping their hearts pure waiting for courtship?  This is a bit different. The author started out by pointing out that Ruth pursued Boaz in a serious way to indicate she wanted him for her husband and she goes on to explain how a 'mature' Christian girl is allowed to do the same. The problem being is that some of this advice comes across like something someone obsessed might do instead of  a 'mature' person. Life is so much simpler outside the E … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Finding a Spouse is Like Finding a Steak Sandwich?

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by Vaughn Ohlman from True Love Doesn't Wait - Searching for a Steak SandwichEditor's note: Putting the search for a suitable spouse on the same level as finding a consumable commodity. Fundamentalist religion reduces people to objects. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 1 – Pie in the Sky

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAfter the last chapter, a girl might be thinking about using electronic communication - get to know a guy without worrying about accidentally dragging his sexual feeling into the picture.WRONG!The real name of this chapter should be "INTERWEBS IS EVIL!" … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Marry Your Rapist Unless Your Father Says No?

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by Vaughn Ohlman from his blog True Love Doesn't Wait - Deal BreakersThis posting involves the reasons that fathers really shouldn't be refusing various courtship/betrothal suitors. The bit we're quoting below I've heard various pastors describe mostly as a rape situation (like in Deuteronomy 22:28-29), though a few has said it speaks of a man seducing a young woman. Like everything in the Old Testament it seems to be open to interpretation.  … [Read more...]

News: Jack Schaap Trying To Squirm Out Of Sentence

While dress codes are not the issue in the Jack Schaap conviction the same attitudes of sexualizing a teenager and trying to blame her for his own attitudes towards her are the same.

Now Jack Schaap is claiming that he was improperly represented by his legal staff at his trial for violation of the Mann Act and sex with an underaged girl. Schaap is claiming his attorneys promised him a sentence of no more than ten years, yet the judge gave him twelve years. It was fully within the rights of the judge to decide the length of the sentence regardless of what prosecutors  or defense team members asked for as a sentence. … [Read more...]

1971-1972 Good Baptist Boys Don’t Dance

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by Bruce Gerenscer cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardNinth grade school picture, wearing the welfare glasses I got in 1971. It took me all of 4 weeks to earn enough money to get a pair wire rimmed glasses. I was so embarrassed to wear these glasses. Everyone knew our family was on welfare.It’s September of 1971 and I am fourteen and a ninth grade student at Central Junior High School in Findlay, Ohio. It’s time for gym class and today we are going to square dance. Except I won’t be square dancing because the church I attended, Trinity Baptist Church, considered dancing a sin. … [Read more...]

News: Duggars Dealing With Bill Gothard Fallout

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Jezebel.Com has written a horribly funny but thought-provoking  piece on the changes through the years in the Duggar family along with how they are answering the criticisms for following Bill "Grabby Hands" Gothard - How are the Duggars dealing with the Gothard Sex Scandal?So, what follows may be the greatest Duggar based conspiracy theory that you've read this month. Ok, it's not that great but it's a theory. Now, it is well known among Gothard's that the kind of crunchy, curly home-permed hair favored by Michelle and the clan in the early season is based on preferences of Gothard, who loved long, wavy womanly hair and damn the woman who does not possess sacred this crown. Now it may … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet – Background Information

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideI've been learning about the Pearls for the last two years as I've learned more about the Christian Patriarchy movement.    I have found Michael and Debi's books to be laughably bad - at best- and horribly abusive at worst. … [Read more...]


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