Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 1 – Pie in the Sky

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAfter the last chapter, a girl might be thinking about using electronic communication - get to know a guy without worrying about accidentally dragging his sexual feeling into the picture.WRONG!The real name of this chapter should be "INTERWEBS IS EVIL!" … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Marry Your Rapist Unless Your Father Says No?

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by Vaughn Ohlman from his blog True Love Doesn't Wait - Deal BreakersThis posting involves the reasons that fathers really shouldn't be refusing various courtship/betrothal suitors. The bit we're quoting below I've heard various pastors describe mostly as a rape situation (like in Deuteronomy 22:28-29), though a few has said it speaks of a man seducing a young woman. Like everything in the Old Testament it seems to be open to interpretation.  … [Read more...]

News: Jack Schaap Trying To Squirm Out Of Sentence

While dress codes are not the issue in the Jack Schaap conviction the same attitudes of sexualizing a teenager and trying to blame her for his own attitudes towards her are the same.

Now Jack Schaap is claiming that he was improperly represented by his legal staff at his trial for violation of the Mann Act and sex with an underaged girl. Schaap is claiming his attorneys promised him a sentence of no more than ten years, yet the judge gave him twelve years. It was fully within the rights of the judge to decide the length of the sentence regardless of what prosecutors  or defense team members asked for as a sentence. … [Read more...]

1971-1972 Good Baptist Boys Don’t Dance

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by Bruce Gerenscer cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardNinth grade school picture, wearing the welfare glasses I got in 1971. It took me all of 4 weeks to earn enough money to get a pair wire rimmed glasses. I was so embarrassed to wear these glasses. Everyone knew our family was on welfare.It’s September of 1971 and I am fourteen and a ninth grade student at Central Junior High School in Findlay, Ohio. It’s time for gym class and today we are going to square dance. Except I won’t be square dancing because the church I attended, Trinity Baptist Church, considered dancing a sin. … [Read more...]

News: Duggars Dealing With Bill Gothard Fallout

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Jezebel.Com has written a horribly funny but thought-provoking  piece on the changes through the years in the Duggar family along with how they are answering the criticisms for following Bill "Grabby Hands" Gothard - How are the Duggars dealing with the Gothard Sex Scandal?So, what follows may be the greatest Duggar based conspiracy theory that you've read this month. Ok, it's not that great but it's a theory. Now, it is well known among Gothard's that the kind of crunchy, curly home-permed hair favored by Michelle and the clan in the early season is based on preferences of Gothard, who loved long, wavy womanly hair and damn the woman who does not possess sacred this crown. Now it may … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet – Background Information

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideI've been learning about the Pearls for the last two years as I've learned more about the Christian Patriarchy movement.    I have found Michael and Debi's books to be laughably bad - at best- and horribly abusive at worst. … [Read more...]

The Six Inch Rule: Thou Shalt Not Touch

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by Bruce Genercser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardImagine for a moment, that you are sitting in the pew of an Independent Fundamentalist Baptist (IFB) church. You are 16 years old and sitting next to you is your 17-year-old girlfriend. Like normal teenagers, you are sitting as close as possible to your girlfriend and you are discreetly, cleverly holding handsThe pastor is getting ready to preach and he asks everyone to turn to 1 Corinthians 7:1,2. With a thunderous voice, the pastor says, THE BIBLE SAYS: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Can Men and Women Simply Be ‘Friends’?

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Did you know that Debi Pearl has another book out "Preparing To Be A Helpmeet"? At the No Greater Joy Ministries website there is a small site for the book where you can ask questions and get answers about all those things plaguing you about your role as a helpmeet.Someone named Pumpkindoodle asked a question about non-sexual/non-romantic friendships between men and women and someone named Daddysgirlleh replied. … [Read more...]

I’m a Feminist Because of Men

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsDuring my sophomore year, my male piano instructor announced he was leaving Pensacola Christian College, and I asked him why. One of the reasons he gave stuck with me, especially over the next few years as he was proven right many times. He claimed that PCC’s administration did not treat women with dignity– which at first I completely dismissed. But my junior year, a job opening became … [Read more...]

Purity. It’s For Girls

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismGrowing up, my brothers got purity rings too. They, too, were expected to stay pure until marriage. I have often taken comfort in the seeming egalitarian application of purity teachings in my own upbringing. Or so I’ve told myself.But I’m getting frustrated. Because let’s face it, the emphasis is on the girls. … [Read more...]


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