The Six Inch Rule: Thou Shalt Not Touch

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by Bruce Genercser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardImagine for a moment, that you are sitting in the pew of an Independent Fundamentalist Baptist (IFB) church. You are 16 years old and sitting next to you is your 17-year-old girlfriend. Like normal teenagers, you are sitting as close as possible to your girlfriend and you are discreetly, cleverly holding handsThe pastor is getting ready to preach and he asks everyone to turn to 1 Corinthians 7:1,2. With a thunderous voice, the pastor says, THE BIBLE SAYS: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Can Men and Women Simply Be ‘Friends’?

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Did you know that Debi Pearl has another book out "Preparing To Be A Helpmeet"? At the No Greater Joy Ministries website there is a small site for the book where you can ask questions and get answers about all those things plaguing you about your role as a helpmeet.Someone named Pumpkindoodle asked a question about non-sexual/non-romantic friendships between men and women and someone named Daddysgirlleh replied. … [Read more...]

I’m a Feminist Because of Men

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsDuring my sophomore year, my male piano instructor announced he was leaving Pensacola Christian College, and I asked him why. One of the reasons he gave stuck with me, especially over the next few years as he was proven right many times. He claimed that PCC’s administration did not treat women with dignity– which at first I completely dismissed. But my junior year, a job opening became … [Read more...]

Purity. It’s For Girls

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismGrowing up, my brothers got purity rings too. They, too, were expected to stay pure until marriage. I have often taken comfort in the seeming egalitarian application of purity teachings in my own upbringing. Or so I’ve told myself.But I’m getting frustrated. Because let’s face it, the emphasis is on the girls. … [Read more...]

More Purity Ball Photos

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Last week when NLQ posted the purity ball photos by photography David Magnusson it seemed that was a lone example of creepy purity portraits. At least until another site managed to collect a pile of random ones including a purity contract to be signed by the father and daughter.Such a sad contrast, beautiful little girls, inappropriately intimate fathers. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Winning Souls More Important Than Sexual Abuse?

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by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy - Debi Pearl Weighs in on the IBLP Situation What I am saying is that God raised up a man, a fallen sinful man, and used that man to pull together thousands of believers for a greater good. What I am saying is that someday soon we will all stand before the throne of God to give an answer. All of us. The man. The folks on the website that rejoiced in the fall. Me. … [Read more...]

Cersei Lannister, Rape Culture, and a Lot of Me Flipping the Bird in General

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsTrigger Warning: Sexual violence I’ve read G. R. R. Martin’s A Song of Ice and Fire up through Feast of Crows, and I’m currently reading Dance of Dragons, albeit slowly. The books are a struggle for me to read, as an abuse and rape survivor. I do enjoy them, although I caution people to engage with Martin’s world critically. He’s been hailed by a lot of people as a “feminist” writer, but I am extremely hesitant to think of him in those terms (read Sady Doyle’s piece there– it’s both hysterically funny and insightful). … [Read more...]

Purity Portraits

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Photographer David Magnusson took an intriguing series of portraits of fathers and daughters in their Purity Ball finery. They are posted at Flavorwire - Striking, Creepy Photos of Christian "Purity Balls" America: land of the free, home of the… thoroughly fucking weird? It’s hard to know what else to say about these striking and frankly terrifying portraits by Swedish photographer David Magnusson, which capture the institution of the Purity Ball: a religious rite wherein girls pledge not to have sex until they’re married. All the photos (which we spotted at Feature Shoot) depict the girls and their fathers, who glow with pride at the thought that their little girl won’t be despoiled until s … [Read more...]

Sexuality and Shame: Part 3 Sexaltation

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by Kaleesha Williams cross posted from her blog Kaleesha WilliamsI've heard so many sermons about sexual temptation, so much focus there, but they are occasionally balanced with messages about how holy and pure sex is within marriage.  Within marriage only.  Imagine, "Sex is sinful, evil, wicked...  Oh, now you're married--okay, you're free to enjoy yourselves!"   I wonder, what does a piece of paper or a pronunciation of "man and wife" actually change about the messages we've received all our lives regarding sex?  (Or about relationships in general.  Marriage is a very interesting institution, but I shan't go there now.) … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Is This How You Should Speak About Your Spouse?

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by Spencer Harmon from his blog Unspoken - My Wife Has Tattoos: Marriage, New Birth and the GospelThis has been all over the internet this weekend, provoking many different reactions: some people thinking it's awesome and those that think it's awful. Someone on our NLQ Support group on Facebook said it should have been titled 'King Cophetua meets Beggar Maid' What do you think dear readers? … [Read more...]


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