Cersei Lannister, Rape Culture, and a Lot of Me Flipping the Bird in General

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsTrigger Warning: Sexual violence I’ve read G. R. R. Martin’s A Song of Ice and Fire up through Feast of Crows, and I’m currently reading Dance of Dragons, albeit slowly. The books are a struggle for me to read, as an abuse and rape survivor. I do enjoy them, although I caution people to engage with Martin’s world critically. He’s been hailed by a lot of people as a “feminist” writer, but I am extremely hesitant to think of him in those terms (read Sady Doyle’s piece there– it’s both hysterically funny and insightful). … [Read more...]

Purity Portraits

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Photographer David Magnusson took an intriguing series of portraits of fathers and daughters in their Purity Ball finery. They are posted at Flavorwire - Striking, Creepy Photos of Christian "Purity Balls" America: land of the free, home of the… thoroughly fucking weird? It’s hard to know what else to say about these striking and frankly terrifying portraits by Swedish photographer David Magnusson, which capture the institution of the Purity Ball: a religious rite wherein girls pledge not to have sex until they’re married. All the photos (which we spotted at Feature Shoot) depict the girls and their fathers, who glow with pride at the thought that their little girl won’t be despoiled until s … [Read more...]

Sexuality and Shame: Part 3 Sexaltation

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by Kaleesha Williams cross posted from her blog Kaleesha WilliamsI've heard so many sermons about sexual temptation, so much focus there, but they are occasionally balanced with messages about how holy and pure sex is within marriage.  Within marriage only.  Imagine, "Sex is sinful, evil, wicked...  Oh, now you're married--okay, you're free to enjoy yourselves!"   I wonder, what does a piece of paper or a pronunciation of "man and wife" actually change about the messages we've received all our lives regarding sex?  (Or about relationships in general.  Marriage is a very interesting institution, but I shan't go there now.) … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Is This How You Should Speak About Your Spouse?

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by Spencer Harmon from his blog Unspoken - My Wife Has Tattoos: Marriage, New Birth and the GospelThis has been all over the internet this weekend, provoking many different reactions: some people thinking it's awesome and those that think it's awful. Someone on our NLQ Support group on Facebook said it should have been titled 'King Cophetua meets Beggar Maid' What do you think dear readers? … [Read more...]

Duggars and Courtship

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by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundA lot of people have pointed out how many Christian groups and churches are anti-gay. Even though these Christians love to say that they love the sinner and hate the sin, it does not remove the pain that a gay person has to face. If a gay teen comes out gay, the church will still pray for him and believe he needs to change. Sure the church claims to love the teen, but he’s still told he is sinning, and there is still that voice that something is wrong with him, and that he needs to change. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Stay Sweet?

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by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Sour Grapes or Sweet?I feel very sad when I see mothers with a sour face. Down in the mouth. Always a frown. And I see a lot of them. This is not God's picture of a mother. In Psalm 128:3 God paints a picture of the wife in a home that is blessed of the Lord. It tells us that she is a " fruitful vine" in the very heart of her home. Not only does this wife find joy in her home, but she is a fruitful vine, bringing forth luscious sweet fruit. The grapes of a wild unpruned vine are usually bitter. The fruit of a cultivated vine are sweet. … [Read more...]

My Abusive Relationship Was Typical

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsTrigger warning for abuse and sexual violence Last week, I wrote an article for xoJane and I shared some things about my past that I haven’t shared on the internet before. I don’t enjoy talking about my abusive relationship at all, and I especially avoid thinking about my last semester at PCC, which was nightmarish with exceedingly few good memories. I was extremely vulnerable in that piece, knowing that there would be people around the internet that would shit on it. … [Read more...]

Lourdes Torres, Christian Homeschooling and Consent

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismI recently came upon an excellent example of what I was talking about when I wrote my “The Tale of Two Boxes” post several years ago. Homeschool leader Chris Jeub had this to say in a recent blog post titled “Patriarchy Has Got To Go“: In a nutshell, Phillips is being sued by his former nanny, someone he knew for over a decade and was very close to the Phillips family. Her lawyers have graphic details of Phillips forcing himself sexually, and Phillips’ lawyers are denying little of it, claiming “consensual” contact between adults.For those of us in the Christian homeschool community, this is just as bad as guilty. Phillips i … [Read more...]

News: Media Starting to Link Duggar Family to Doug Phillips Finally

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The Daily Beast reported this about the link between the Duggars and Doug Phillips of Vision Forum - Sex Scandal Rocks The Duggars' Christian Patriarchy MovementThe far-right Christian Patriarchy—brought to American audiences by the Duggar family—is on the verge of collapse after a series of alleged sex scandals involving the movement’s leaders. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Stay At Home Daughters Are Slaves?

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by Suzannah Rowntree at Ladies Against Feminism - Is Stay-At-Home Daughterhood Biblical? But there was one thing missing from my convictions on “stay-at-home” daughterhood. Folks—particularly Christian peers—would remind me that the Bible doesn’t specifically command, describe, or endorse the concept, and therefore one could not make it a rule for everyone. Up until recently, I found this reasoning pretty fair. None of the books I read on the subject of daughterhood and the family made more than a persuasive argument from Scripture—certainly nothing I found convincing. Most of the factors in my own decision had been personal, and while I loved the life so much, I couldn’t recommend it to oth … [Read more...]


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