It’s Not That Complicated: Part 4 Chapter 6

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAll quotes from the book are in blue textLast section in Chapter Six!  Yay!Overarching Themes:You've probably become afraid of dressing attractively since you read the section on modesty. … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 3 Chapter 6

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideQuotes from the book in blue textChapter 5 went really fast.  Chapter 6 feels like it will never end.Overarching Themes:Modesty in women starts with denying your own skills.... "The subject of modesty has already been covered from head to toe by other, much wiser authors, so we'll keep this short." (pg. 102) … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Touching Before Marriage?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

It’s Not That Complicated: Part 1 Chapter 5

by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideAll quotes from the book are in blue textNew chapter: Wounding Friends or Kissing Enemy? Reforming our Philosophy of RelationshipsAre "wounding friends" and "kissing enemies" two existing categories?  Are they mutually exclusive?  This doesn't bode well.... … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – How Far is Too Far?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 1 … [Read more...]

Godly Gertrude and the Harding University Dress Code

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserThis graphic perfectly illustrates the puritanical culture found in many Evangelical churches. Women are considered lust magnets, sure to attract weak, pathetic Christian men who have little control over their sexual desires. Starting with primary school age, females are taught to never, ever expose any of the sexual parts of their bodies–breasts, cleavage, bare shoulders, legs, and ass. In other words, girls and women are expected to dress similar to burka-wearing Muslims. The only difference is the head covering. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Low Hanging Fruit and Delaying Marriage?

by Jeff Woodward from Let Them Marry - Girls Are Like ApplesEditor's note: Can you stand any more belabored apple puns? This is written by the guy at Vaughn Ohlman's site that created the whole girls are like apples meme in response to some other girls and apples meme floating around Facebook. While he makes some good points if you ignore the fact that he seems to think that girls are inanimate objects to use like apples, his main point is that too many apples languish unpicked and untasted on the tree, just like young people have stopped marrying so young. … [Read more...]

Christian Conservatives Push Child Marriage With Creepy Meme Comparing Girls to Apples

by Vyckie Garrison NLQ Founder at Raw Story “Girls are like apples on trees. Their fathers are the farmers, whose job is to care for them. He must protect his apples from pests and disease. He must guard them against thieves who may pick his apples prematurely. Neither those at the top nor those at the bottom can help their location. But, when each reaches peak ripeness, it is the farmer’s job to harvest that fruit and give it to whom he will, to those in need. So there is nothing wrong with the apples still on the tree and nothing wrong with the boys who seek them. But it is the farmer’s duty to provide for both, in due season.” … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Dressing ‘Modestly’ Protects You From Creeps?

by Zack Clark from Girl Defined - Smart Dudes Aren't Looking at Your BodyEditor's note: I beg to differ. I don't care if you're covered up from neck to ankle, there are always going to be some men that will look and lust over that exposed inch of ankle skin. Cover that ankle skin and some guys will be drooling over your ear lobes. Plus creepy guys are going to approach you no matter what. Better to teach about sexual consent and how to deal gracefully with pushy guys that will be trying to hit on you uninvited than to claim if you dress modestly enough you'll be protected against those types. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Why Hand Holding in Courtship is a Slippery Slope to Sin?

by Anonymous from their blog Necessarily Anonymous - How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love Arranged Marriages Part 2Editor's note: This is a newer quiverfull marry 'em off while they are young once daddy picks the spouse blogger I found through our old pal Vaughn Ohlman. I'm always dismayed to see Christians so hung up on every single small thing that they have to stop, study scripture and then extrapolate what they've read into ever more strict rules and don'ts. That type of legalism is a killer. It doesn't 'save' people from sin, it only makes them sneak around in a guilty fashion. … [Read more...]


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