Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – I Don’t Like Him Anymore

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Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Dianna Anderson’s ‘Damaged Goods’ Book Review

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons I’ve been looking forward to Dianna Anderson’s Damaged Goods: New Perspectives on Christian Purity for well over a year now, so when it came in the mail a few weeks ago I was thrilled to pieces. I have so much respect for Dianna’s writing (today’s piece on Christianity and Empire is a must-read), and I was happy that someone like her would be tackling evangelical purity culture in a book. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Adopted Kids Are Sexual Predators & Deviants?

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by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Avoiding VacuumsEditor's note: Curiously Victorian-esque language by the lady asking the question, which makes me think this letter was another suspicious Pearl invention, just like so many of the published letters Debi and Michael claim to receive asking for advice. Takes a completely different yet just as wrong tact on the subject of adoption that those in the Rescue Adoption world. … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet: Part 3 – The Wedding

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideToday, we get to meet Yetta, the bride that Debi was so impressed by.  She's been married for two weeks at the time of the interview. … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Physical & Emotional Attraction?

Answering

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Answering “Preparing To Be A Help Meet” – Is Hugging A Stumbling Block To Guys?

Answering

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Purity Rings Reflect Your Respect of God?

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by Kristen Clark from A Lovely Calling (formerly Young Keepers of the Home) - Should Christian Girls Wear Purity Rings?Editor's note: How you treat your purity is a display of your relationship with God? Sounds a little too too simplistic. Purity rings - What are your thoughts on those? … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet – Blog – Touching Before Marriage

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideDue to a crazy-busy schedule, I've fallen off my pace of blogging Preparing to be a Help Meet because typing in the quotes from the book is surprisingly time-consuming. In lieu, I offer my most choice selections from the blog with the same name.What levels of hell have Mike and Debi wrought? Apparently they've moved beyond beating the shit out of children and started messing with an entire generation's sexual life.... … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: When is it ‘Intentionally Available’ and When is it ‘Stalking’?

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by Kristen Clark from Girl Defined - How to be Intentionally Available Without Chasing BoysEditor's note: Remember all those screeds by the Botkin sisters, Von Ohlman and others in the Quiverfull Evangelical Christian movement about girls keeping their hearts pure waiting for courtship?  This is a bit different. The author started out by pointing out that Ruth pursued Boaz in a serious way to indicate she wanted him for her husband and she goes on to explain how a 'mature' Christian girl is allowed to do the same. The problem being is that some of this advice comes across like something someone obsessed might do instead of  a 'mature' person. Life is so much simpler outside the E … [Read more...]

Excessive Modesty Makes Me Feel Objectified

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission To Live This last weekend we went to a large park with the kids and as we piled out of the van I noticed a Mennonite family was there. A teenage girl followed a toddler around the park, both of them wearing the long plain dresses that hid every shape of their young bodies. The mother sat on a park bench quietly watching while the husband and brother stood nearby arms folded, grimly surveying the area. I watched a young girl about age 9 climbing quietly up and down the play structures, her ankle-length dress billowing around her, her hair tucked into a small bonnet. … [Read more...]


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