Preparing To Be A Help Meet – Blog – Touching Before Marriage

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideDue to a crazy-busy schedule, I've fallen off my pace of blogging Preparing to be a Help Meet because typing in the quotes from the book is surprisingly time-consuming. In lieu, I offer my most choice selections from the blog with the same name.What levels of hell have Mike and Debi wrought? Apparently they've moved beyond beating the shit out of children and started messing with an entire generation's sexual life.... … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: When is it ‘Intentionally Available’ and When is it ‘Stalking’?

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by Kristen Clark from Girl Defined - How to be Intentionally Available Without Chasing BoysEditor's note: Remember all those screeds by the Botkin sisters, Von Ohlman and others in the Quiverfull Evangelical Christian movement about girls keeping their hearts pure waiting for courtship?  This is a bit different. The author started out by pointing out that Ruth pursued Boaz in a serious way to indicate she wanted him for her husband and she goes on to explain how a 'mature' Christian girl is allowed to do the same. The problem being is that some of this advice comes across like something someone obsessed might do instead of  a 'mature' person. Life is so much simpler outside the E … [Read more...]

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Excessive Modesty Makes Me Feel Objectified

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by Melissa cross posted from her blog Permission To Live This last weekend we went to a large park with the kids and as we piled out of the van I noticed a Mennonite family was there. A teenage girl followed a toddler around the park, both of them wearing the long plain dresses that hid every shape of their young bodies. The mother sat on a park bench quietly watching while the husband and brother stood nearby arms folded, grimly surveying the area. I watched a young girl about age 9 climbing quietly up and down the play structures, her ankle-length dress billowing around her, her hair tucked into a small bonnet. … [Read more...]

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Christian Cliches “Don’t Cause Your Brother to Stumble”

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by Kristen Rosser cross posted from her blog Wordgazer's WordsThis is the beginning of a series on various catchwords and cliches that Christians (particularly evangelical ones) are fond of using.  Like most oversimplifications, however, they usually give an inaccurate or one-sided view of the particular issue they purport to be about-- and often, they are based on misunderstandings of the Bible text(s) they are taken from. … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Avoiding An Abuser?

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by Natalie from Visionary Womanhood - Deal Breakers: Advice to Unmarried Women (and Daughters) How To Avoid Marrying An Abuser … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: No Personal Agency in Chosing Your Clothes?

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by Shoshanna Pearl Easling from No Greater Joy magazine - Prudent but not a PrudeEditor's note: This reads so sad on so many levels. The kids in the Pearl household had only used clothing four sizes too big? Based upon this I cannot ever see mother and daughter buying that perfect outfit for the special occasion together, or the joy that comes when you finally get that one piece of clothing you'd been longing for forever. There's nothing wrong with being thrifty or even buying second hand, but it sounds like all clothing choices for the Pearl children were practical only. And the claims of not being a prude? Has anyone ever seen a Pearl women in anything but a longish skirt and loose … [Read more...]

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Buckling That Swash – Please?

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by SJ Reidhead cross posted from her blog The Pink Flamingo Last week, the operatic world was in something of a flutter, at least many female opera fans were.  It was quite simple.  You take 1 incredibly good looking man with the best baritone voice of our generation, and put him in that shirt, and we lose our minds. Trust me, part of it is THE SHIRT.  There should be a law requiring men wear shirts like this. They are romantic, in every sense of the word: romance. … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Being Faithful For Your Future Husband?

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by Bethany Baird from Girl Defined - Being Faithful to a Man You've Never MetEditor's note: One of the big things impressed upon girls in Quiverfull and the Christian Patriarch Movement is staying 'pure' in every way for some future husband supposedly out there waiting for you. I have noticed that similar pressure to conform is almost never placed upon the young males in this movement. Why is that? … [Read more...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Rules For Modesty?

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by Kate Schell from her blog kateschell.comEditor's note: Kate is not a quiverfull evangelical Christian but she is doing an interesting series on the whole Modesty movement in evangelical Christianity called 'Immodest Proposals' that is a great read for anyone in recovery from toxic modesty teachings in Christianity. Featuring the list of 'don'ts' from her site. … [Read more...]

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Not Quoting Quiverfull: Dressing So Men Will Notice?

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by Dianne E. Anderson - What Christian Men Don't Understand About BoobsEditor's note: Dianne has a book coming out in little more than a week about the whole Purity Culture - Rape Culture theology endemic to Evangelical Christianity. The book is titled 'Damaged Goods: New Perspectives on Christian Purity' and it is available for preorder now on Anderson's website. … [Read more...]

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