The Jonathan Nichols Story: Growing Up Gay in the IFB Church

April 9, 2013 By 1 Comment
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by Bruce Gerencser What follows is a brief excerpt of a story about Jonathan Nichols. Jonathan grew up in the Newark Baptist Temple,  the Independent Fundamentalist Baptist church ((IFB) pastored by my wife’s uncle, James Dennis.  The Pastor (Jamie) Overton

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A Quick and Dirty Sex Ed Guide for Quiverfull Daughters

April 6, 2013 By 5 Comments
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by Becoming Worldly   This post is NSFW (not safe to read at work). I got the idea to write this because I read this and this and something saying that only 67% of women in some study of “mainstream Americans” reported having an orgasm

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Saturday News Links: April 6, 2013

April 6, 2013 By 1 Comment
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Michigan is trying to pass a religious exemption bill that would allow health care providers to withhold care that violates their own personal religious beliefs. Example, any doctor that thinks childrens vaccines are not trusting in God could legally refuse to give recommended

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CTBHHM: Smile, Giggle and Simper

April 5, 2013 By 9 Comments
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by Libby Anne Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 28-32 The rest of Debi’s chapter on “a merry heart” is taken up with her response to a letter from a follower. Debi spends four full pages responding. The longer I read, the sadder I got. I apologize in advance. First, the letter:

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Beauty: In the Eye of the Beholder

April 4, 2013 By 81 Comments
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by Calulu Recently I came across a very disturbing blog posting and another and another and another. It was from a blog that I’d quoted recently on No Longer Quivering for our Quoting Quiverfull feature. The post I used from that blog was one where the blogger’s husband tried to say it was alright for [...]

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