Pray It Away

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by CaluluOne of the saddest legacies of Fundamentalist Evangelical Patriarchal Christianity is that of the way mental illness and other serious issues are treated.Instead of being urged to seek appropriate help for serious conditions such as depression, suicidal thoughts, eating disorders, or autism most of the … [Read more...]

The Main Thing is to Keep the Mane Thing the Main Thing

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by MariWithin a few days of my youngest brother’s birth, my hair turned curly.I had had wavy hair since I actually got hair at about age 2-1/2, but as soon as little Timmy made his appearance, those waves turned into a full head of spiral curls.No, I didn’t get a perm. … [Read more...]

Rethinking Birth Control & Abortion

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by CaluluA few days ago our Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network member Libby Anne of Love, Joy, Feminism wrote a compelling post called 'How I Lost Faith in the "Pro Life" Movement'. She laid out how she'd gone from a staunch member of the Pro Life movement to a Progressive Pro Choice position over the years. The evidence she presents shows that increased access to birth control reduces the abortion rates. Banning abortion doesn't do any good towards reducing the number of abortions either.I can see that. In my Quiverfull years I was a crisis phone line volunteer for a pro life clinic.  I saw statistics that indicated that abortion numbers actually fell during the years it's been … [Read more...]

Proud to be a Tent Peg

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By Vyckie GarrisonHoly sugar ... I should know better than to actually read the Above Rubies magazine from which I have been too lazy to cancel my subscription.  But this morning I couldn't resist skimming through the pages to catch up on Colin & Nancy Campbell's ever-growing stockpile of Holy War ammunition ... er, quiver full of arrows.Whereas, every AR article used to inspire and motivate me to fight the good fight, now it all reminds me of how my desire to love and serve the Lord wholeheartedly was twisted and exploited to scam me into embracing and supporting the Patriarchy.Take this brief article by Esther MacDonald for example:Proud to be a Tent Peg A tent peg is … [Read more...]

Sexuality Project: Sex Education and the Body Question 2

by SierraThe following is an installment of the Religious Fundamentalism and Sexuality Project. Read the previous installment here. You are also invited to join the project.Young Lindsay Lohan making a face. Sex Education and the Body Q. 2: How did your parents and/or church respond to your questions (if any)? How did they (and you) understand and react to puberty? Calulu My parents could not be approached for any questions involving sex I learned around the time I turned eight. One day I innocently asked what a certain ‘dirty’ word meant only to be told by my mother to ask my father. Once my father came home I asked him and was told that a) he didn’t know and b) if I EVER sai … [Read more...]

The Sexuality Project – Part 2

by Sierra The Religious Fundamentalism and Sexuality Project has (finally) returned! Last time, we met Calulu, Jenn, Meggie, Parker, Shadowspring and Vyckie. Unfortunately, Shadowspring will not be able to continue her story this fall. As a result, I’ll be adding Libby Exline’s answers to this group in her place. Libby’s introduction is below, along with her answer to the first question. Throughout the project, as before, you’ll be able to follow those of the respondents who have blogs by clicking on their names. I highly recommend checking them out to learn more about the writers and their lives in religious fundamentalism. You are also invited to join the project! I have two more groups … [Read more...]

On a Lighter Note

by MariThe only time we ever got new clothes was on our birthdays and Christmas.At this point in my life, I totally understand that. I don’t see the point in buying each kid a bunch of new clothes when they’re going to outgrow them in a matter of weeks or months.I don’t think I really cared all that much about it at the time either.But, one day, one of the neighbors gave us a gift certificate to K-Mart. (This was back when K-Mart was cool. I still have a soft spot in my heart for K-Mart because of this!) We went on a good ol’ shopping spree.I got a purple corduroy skirt and purple t-shirt set.When my parents asked my little brother what he wanted, he said, “Puppy pants … [Read more...]

Millipede Part 32 How Did I Get Here? Part 3

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by MillipedeIn my case, the path started when I became involved in various "patriot" groups.Ironically, I was at first very careful to weed out the chauvinists and the misogynists. How women were viewed and treated was a make or break issue with me. My husband at the time was like most "average" guys meaning that he believed(or claimed to) gender equality to some degree. As in my previous experience, it was a mixed bag, some people were great, but sure enough we ran into a few rabid patriarchs. I remember one man, a preacher saying that women who were serving in the army ought to be ashamed of themselves and should instead, be at home changing diapers. Afterwords, my husband and I … [Read more...]

Why I Find Perverse Pleasure in the Sexual Peccadilloes of Evangelical Leaders

by Bruce GerencserI am quite indifferent to the sexual peccadillos of others. What consenting adults do sexually is none of my business. I think so-called sexual “sins” like adultery and fornication find their foundation in the Bible and I reject the Bible as a moral or ethical standard.We are sexual creatures. Desiring to have sex is as much a part of who we are as eating and drinking. Sexual activity, regardless of orientation, is normal and it not surprising when sexual activity overflows the banks of the Christian moral river.It doesn’t surprise me that Dinesh D’Souza had sex with a woman other than his wife. Recent reports say that not only was D’Souza committing what his Chr … [Read more...]

Evangelical Christian Marriage: Hawking the Product

by SierraIn evangelical Christian culture, marriage is a commodity. Marriage books are sold like gardening manuals or cheat sheets for the SATs. The sales pitch for marriage in Christian culture is more intense than any you’ll ever experience on a used car lot. Christians are made to believe that they’re God’s designated curators of Marriage, That Holy and Venerable Institution, and that falling down on the job can undermine the entire fabric of society. Just look at these book titles! Marriage is about way more than you and your partner: Save a Marriage, Save Our NationWhy Marriage MattersMarriage On TrialMarriage is also sold as the cure-all for emotional emptiness – s … [Read more...]


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