Mama’s Choice – Part 5: Baby Fever!

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by Vyckie Garrison"I want another baby!"A quick perusal of Quiverfull family blogs illustrates the familiar feeling of "baby fever" - that intense desire for a newborn baby to love and nurture!No matter how many arrows are already in their quiver, Quiverfull moms still report feeling as though their bodies crave another baby every month during ovulation - often it's a full-time desire. I remember not being able to hold another mom's baby without my mind screaming to me, "I want another baby!!"Why the desperate need for more?Partly - we really do love babies. Also, this "gotta have one" response has been conditioned by pro-natal articles such as "101 Reasons for Having … [Read more...]

Millipede: Part 28

by MillipedeAs January gave way to February, I noticed that my ex and I spoke for shorter lengths of time. He seemed busy. I didn't give it much though, after all we were just friends and nothing more.Then came the day that we had meet at the courthouse to renew our homesteader's tax credit. Although I had been paying the property taxes, since we had both our names still on the title, we both had to sign the renewal forms. As the matter has now become a legal one, I must be mindful of what I type. Suffice it to say, my ex suddenly denied ever agreeing to certain things pertaining to property division, things that we had BOTH agreed on when we broke up. In fact he was making a grab … [Read more...]

Mama’s Choice – Part 4: Buying It Wholesale

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by Vyckie GarrisonShortly after recognizing the spiritually abusive nature of the Quiverfull movement, I wrote:I’ve had a sick feeling in my stomach lately.  It’s the feeling that comes along with a growing realization that the Quiverfull worldview and lifestyle which I felt that I had carefully considered and thoughtfully adopted is, in actuality, a product called “biblical family values” which is being aggressively marketed as an investment to safeguard our loved ones from becoming collateral damage in today’s war against the family. …Seems that I should have been immune to the marketing strategies of those who ruthlessly engender fear and dissatisfaction so they can offer their … [Read more...]

Mama’s Choice – Part 3: Ultimatum

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by Vyckie GarrisonWhile we're on the topic of Choice - although I've written about this before, I must say it again: what choices do devoted Christian women really have?"If He is not Lord of all, He is not Lord at all.""What is most important?" Nancy Campbell asks Christian women.  "When we refuse to have children, we deprive God, Eternity, our husbands, ourselves, grandparents, our children, the Church, and the World." In this view, no woman can legitimately claim to love the Lord with all her heart, soul, mind and strength, if she withholds her womb from His service. (God's Visions for Families: What the Bible Says About Having Children by Nancy Campbell, Above Rubies, 1995 - … [Read more...]

Mama’s Choice – Part 2: Spirit Led, or Alien Impregnation?

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by Vyckie GarrisonWhen Michelle Duggar got pregnant despite being on birth control, and subsequently lost the baby, the belief that - by using hormonal birth control - she had destroyed the precious life of their unborn child led Michelle and her husband, Jim Bob, to search the scriptures and pray. The result was a firm conviction to trust the Lord with their family planning. Michelle pitched the Pill - a decision which has led to the Duggars becoming one of America's most prolific couples.Erika Shupe was convicted to leave her family planning in the Lord's hands, but due to financial hardships and the desire for a healthy body, she was not able to fully commit her reproductive life … [Read more...]

The (Polished) Lives of Others

by Broken DaughtersI remember dreaming about life the way I had seen it in those P/QF books and magazines and occasional home making blogs. It’s funny because it was never that way at our house. But I always thought that one day, I would live one of those beautiful lives.I’d have a pantry filled with homemade juices and marmalade and sauces and relishes. I’d have a beautiful, antique and yet modern kitchen. I’d have a great view from my kitchen windows, and I’d wear a beautiful apron. I’d be… hm. One of those fairytale housewives, I guess.My life would be quiet, relaxed. I’d be busy decorating a beautiful home, not really worrying about money and how to get by. My husband would be … [Read more...]

Mama’s Choice – Part 1: For the Bible Tells Me So

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by Vyckie Garrison Get out a concordance (or search online) and look up the words "contraception," "birth control," "condoms," "the pill," "natural family planning," "sterilization," … no results? That's because the bible does not directly address the topic of birth control.Do a Google search for "the bible and birth control," and you might be surprised to discover that even John Piper and company do not insist that the bible forbids married Christian couples to use birth control - choosing instead to emphasize biblical principles such as stewardship, prudence, reason, and the sovereignty of God while maintaining that children are indeed a blessing from the Lord.Sure you can find … [Read more...]

Jack Schaap’s Plea Wheeling & Dealing

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Looks like the deal Schaap signed on off gives the judge the option of sentencing him to a maxim of ten years in jail. That's way more than I thought he might have coming.Also law enforcement are still investigating Hyles-Anderson College since Schaap had been vice president of the school and his victim took classes there. No word on exactly what they are looking into at the college.No word yet on what went down during Jack Schaap's initial court appearance this afternoon.Stuff Fundies Love - Plea Deals (When Denial Just Isn't Working Anymore)Christian Post - Jack Schaap  of First Baptist Hammond Facing Ten Years in Prison for Teen AffairWhile I was reading through the … [Read more...]

IFB Jack Schaap Arrest & Plea Deal

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Yesterday First Baptist Church of Hammond, Indiana's long time pastor Jack Schapp was arrested on federal charges. He  was charged with having transported a minor across for state lines with the intent of  engaging in sexual activities along with a few addition charges. The FBI's investigation of Schaap led to him being charged in U. S. District Court in Hammond, Indiana in violation of the Mann Act.Apparently the Feds offered Schaap a plea deal and he took it. Under the plea deal Schaap admitted to sex with a sixteen year old girl,  that the girl had been under his care and for bonus points, he'd used a computer to persuade the victim to have sex with him.Where's "NBC's Dateline: To … [Read more...]

Burqas Anyone?

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by CaluluMy daughter and I had a very unexpected thing happen on Friday night. We were in a local fast food joint picking up dinner and ran afoul of a group. Laura had shown up unexpectedly along with her brother and his two best friends. I'd only cooked for my husband and myself so out the door it was to pick up take out.Now all the young adults wanted Chick Fil A, not my favorite place even before the Chick Fil A Appreciation Day but hey, the company weren't the ones sponsoring that day and I don't have the awesome super power to dictate my guests taste bud preferences.As we pulled into the restaurant parking lot I noticed that there was an older school bus painted some … [Read more...]


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