Quoting Quiverfull: The ‘Me’ Monster Mom?

by Erin Harrison from No Greater Joy Magazine - The 'ME' Monster Later, I met this man, a guy who was working with Mark on a job. Something drew me to him. He looked at me and told me, even as I smiled, that there was a sadness in my eyes. It was like a gift. I opened up to this person I did not even know, and he told me how sinful I was. Me? Sinful? I was sinned against as an innocent child. I was rejected by nasty people. I was hurt and in pain. How could I be to blame in this? At first it made me angry. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Don’t Divorce Your Abuser?

from Ladies Against Feminism and Christian Worldview - What Should an Abused Spouse Do?Trigger warning for harmful advice. The posting at Ladies Against Feminism and Christian Worldview has a very triggering photograph of abuse.My suggestion is that you tell your husband that you want to be married to him, and that your goal is reconciliation, but that you are no longer willing to live under abuse. He has a choice to make. He needs to seek help, counseling and accountability through a local … [Read more...]

Cults, Christianity, Toxic Beliefs and Health

by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixI recently separated from a religious cult that I grew up in. During the time I was questioning the beliefs of this cult, I realized that many of these beliefs unfortunately are also foundational beliefs in modern day evangelical Christianity as well. So I ended up leaving not only the cult, but Christianity also. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Stay Sweet?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Sour Grapes or Sweet?I feel very sad when I see mothers with a sour face. Down in the mouth. Always a frown. And I see a lot of them. This is not God's picture of a mother. In Psalm 128:3 God paints a picture of the wife in a home that is blessed of the Lord. It tells us that she is a " fruitful vine" in the very heart of her home. Not only does this wife find joy in her home, but she is a fruitful vine, bringing forth luscious sweet fruit. The grapes of a wild unpruned vine are usually bitter. The fruit of a cultivated vine are sweet. … [Read more...]

Then and Now

by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixI'm becoming more and more aware that I don't need to "aware" of my beliefs in order for them to affect my life.My beliefs shape the way my life is branching out right at this very moment, even if many of these beliefs were formed many years ago and I don't give them much thought today. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Smile or Be Tired and Fearful?

by Nancy Campbell cross posted from Above Rubies - Fill Your Home With SmilesA downcast face will lock you into tiredness or anxiety. A happy face will ignite a spark of joy in your heart. A miserable face will sink you into self-pity.Put on a smile, even if it is the last thing you feel like doing, and you will feel your heavy burden lift.Proverbs 15:12 MLB says, "A happy heart makes the face look sunny." … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Fred Phelps Sr. of Westboro Baptist Dead

According to the website Towleroad the former head of Westboro Baptist Church Fred Phelps Sr. has passed on Wednesday evening. Earlier in the week the media had been reporting that Mr. Phelps was was expected to die at any moment.Our sincerest condolences to his son Nathan Phelps, long-time NLQ friend. Losing a parent, even an estranged parent, is emotionally painful. Please be kind to yourself and remember the good memories of your father. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Getting Busier Cures Depression?

From No Greater Joy -When You Need a Miracle by Erin Harrison During those black years I felt it would never end. Maybe you didn’t bring into your marriage the baggage I did, and maybe your husband is a mean, lazy jerk or even a pervert, but pity, despair and bitterness will not set you free from your own state of nothingness, lack of productivity, wanting of challenge, or any real rewards. Do you know what I am talking about—working and never seeing the end … [Read more...]

Pensacola Christian College and Sexual Abuse Victims

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The Dragons I’ve never named the college I attended for undergrad– not here, not anywhere else online. I have never brought it up here on my blog because I didn’t want it to become about the specific place I went to college. The problems that exist there exist at most other fundamentalist colleges, and I didn’t want anyone pigeonholing me. I was also  trying to avoid the harassment I personally know comes with critiquing this college in public. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Allow Smiling Only?

by Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies - Filled With Joy As we shared Family Devotions this morning I thanked each of our lovely Above Rubies helpers for coming into the kitchen each morning with a smile on their face, filled with happiness and joy. They fill our home with joy as they seek to be more and more like Jesus. And, it proves they have been trained well by their parents. … [Read more...]