Review: I Fired God: My Life Inside–and Escape from–the Secret World of the Independent Fundamental Baptist Cult by Jocelyn Zichterman

May 8, 2013 By Leave a Comment
I Fired God

by Calulu When I first received this book I chuckled over the title, “I Fired God” because it seemed both humorous and sacrilegious at the same time. Firing God? How is it even possible? I quickly found out that the author should have fired her IFB God much sooner. Before reading “I Fired God” my [...]

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Quoting Quiverfull: Significant Financial Contribution?

April 6, 2013 By 4 Comments
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From the Prairie Muffin Manifesto Prairie Muffins make significant economic contributions to their households in many ways. They are careful with the hard-earned money that their husbands bring home, wisely weighing expenditures to ensure that they stretch

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An Open Letter to Linda Hyles Murphrey

April 5, 2013 By 53 Comments
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by Jenny Weber A guest post cross posted from Jenny’s blog I’m Having A Thought Here TRIGGER WARNING! This might trigger those of you struggling to recover from abuse heaped on by former church members and clergy Dear Linda: You open your open letter to the dear past and present members of First Baptist Church, [...]

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Stress, Pride, Shame and Frogs

March 30, 2013 By Leave a Comment
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by Cindy Foster In February of 2002 we attended our first five day stress in the ministry workshop.  We were invited by our close friends of near 30 years who founded this desperately needed ministry near 30 years ago.

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Quoting Quiverfull: Adoption & The Duggars?

March 27, 2013 By 14 Comments
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by Michelle Duggar in ET’s “The Duggars Considering Adoption” “The kids are definitely pushing towards wanting us to open our home up to another child or more,” Michelle says. “They see how much we have been blessed with and how little so many

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