Elvis Came to Church

April 24, 2013 By 4 Comments
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by Bruce Gerencser What follows is a humorous and tragic story of a man I met in church. In 2003, my family and I moved to Clare, Michigan so that I could assume the pastorate of Victory Baptist Church. (a Southern Baptist church) This was the last church

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Quoting Quiverfull: Unequally Yoked in Marriage?

April 21, 2013 By 8 Comments
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by Mark Cowperthwaite of Biblical Families “So You’re Looking For a Wife?” When considering 2 Corinthians 6:14-18, even the tenor of Paul’s letters to the church at Corinth in general, there is no hint that it would be anything short of folly

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Help For Those With Doubts

April 18, 2013 By 12 Comments
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by Bruce Gerencser You are a Christian. You put your faith and trust in Jesus Christ. You have been baptized and you are a member in good standing of

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On Being Your Husband’s “Playmate”

April 16, 2013 By 7 Comments
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by Libby Anne Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 42-44 This section follows Debi’s story about the time Mike tried to show off, ended up spilling a sack of garbage, and then marched off in embarrassment leaving her to clean it up. The moral of Debi’s story was the last part,

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Preying on Those Most Vulnerable

April 15, 2013 By 32 Comments
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by Calulu Last week someone sent a link for a sect that calls itself “Biblical Families”. At first glance they seem like the usual patriarchal fundamentalist flavor of Christianity, like a thousand other versions of Christianity. In fact, this is how they describe themselves -

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