Before There Was Me: Part 4

September 11, 2012 By 12 Comments

by Mari And Then There  Were Two My second brother, Andrew was born nearly two years after Jonathan. Today, I’d say my favorite part about Andy is that he’s daddy to a special little 2-year old girl and a precious 3-week old baby girl. And of course, husband to a wonderful lady. Another thing I [...]

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Millipede: Part 26

September 10, 2012 By 3 Comments

by Millipede I stood there looking at my ex turned “roommate”.  By either title, I would be stuck with his problems. Winter and all it’s problems loomed ahead. For some reason, I thought of the book,The Shinning. The description of Danny’s thoughts as he realizes that the hotel is haunted and that he and his [...]

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“Biblical” Parenting, Criticism #2: An Extremely Controlling Parent

September 9, 2012 By 9 Comments

by Latebloomer To briefly review, my first criticism of Reb Bradley’s book “Child Training Tips” discussed the way his advice pushed parents toward the worst possible interpretation of their child’s behavior at the expense of mercy and understanding.  Now here is my second criticism. Criticism #2:   Parents are urged to exercise an extreme level [...]

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Before There Was Me: Part 3

September 8, 2012 By 4 Comments

by Mari The House I’d like to take a moment to thank my parents for making my story an easy one to tell. I say “easy” because when they picked their nest, they stuck with it — and that has made dividing my life into chapters really simple. Well, at least for this particular part [...]

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Before There Was Me: Part 2

September 6, 2012 By 14 Comments

by Mari Before we go any further in my story, we must introduce the church. My parents attended a church called Meadow Ridge Bible Chapel (henceforth known as “chapel”) in West Fargo, North Dakota. I’m not familiar with the history of this church, nor with which (if any) denomination the church is affiliated. By the [...]

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