“Biblical” Parenting, Criticism #2: An Extremely Controlling Parent

September 9, 2012 By 9 Comments

by Latebloomer To briefly review, my first criticism of Reb Bradley’s book “Child Training Tips” discussed the way his advice pushed parents toward the worst possible interpretation of their child’s behavior at the expense of mercy and understanding.  Now here is my second criticism. Criticism #2:   Parents are urged to exercise an extreme level [...]

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Before There Was Me: Part 3

September 8, 2012 By 4 Comments

by Mari The House I’d like to take a moment to thank my parents for making my story an easy one to tell. I say “easy” because when they picked their nest, they stuck with it — and that has made dividing my life into chapters really simple. Well, at least for this particular part [...]

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Before There Was Me: Part 2

September 6, 2012 By 14 Comments

by Mari Before we go any further in my story, we must introduce the church. My parents attended a church called Meadow Ridge Bible Chapel (henceforth known as “chapel”) in West Fargo, North Dakota. I’m not familiar with the history of this church, nor with which (if any) denomination the church is affiliated. By the [...]

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News Links September 5, 2012

September 5, 2012 By Leave a Comment

Sometimes churches need to be reminded that if they campaign for a certain party or candidate they put their tax exempt status at risk – ChicoER – Editorial: Church runs afoul of rules There’s an interesting article by Jenny Rae Armstrong over at Red Letter Christians about Patriarchy, Pop Culture, and Pornograpy Thoughts on handling [...]

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“Biblical” Parenting: Introduction

September 3, 2012 By 21 Comments

by Latebloomer Every once in a while, I realize something shockingly obvious, something that confronts yet another false assumption that has managed to cling to my mind even as I’ve moved further and further away from my fundamentalist Christian roots. In the whole Bible, there is not a single verse that credits parents for having [...]

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