Bonding and Bondage in Abusive Relationships

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch the ShepherdIn case you're wondering why you can't "just get over it" from a painfully abusive or damaging or destructive relationship: Trauma bonding makes any relationship harder to end, harder to heal, harder to find freedom from through forgiveness, than the loss of a true love. The neural pathways burned into a brain in trauma bonding are laid down in powerful fear/anxiety hormonal rushes leaving even comparatively good memories with the person colored with the stains of those traumatic events. The loss of anyone we have loved -- whether they have treated us very well indeed or in a deplorable manner -- is something that will heal … [Read more...]

We Can’t Ignore Domestic Violence

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch The ShepherdOriginally posted in the Fall of 2012.It's happened again, another horrifying and tragic episode of domestic violence in our community, leaving several dead and one critically injured. In the Orlando area alone, eleven people in the past several weeks have been killed because of domestic violence. We read these so often in the news that it's easy to become numb and then turn the channel, turn the page, click the next link to think about something a little more cheerful. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Godless Sluts Wear Yoga Pants?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Women Wanting to Do What is Right in Their Own EyesEditor's note: Flipping out over yoga pants? Since when did wearing comfortable clothing translate into rebellion against men and God? There are many men that walk around in utili-kilts or short shorts in this area of the world in the summer time, yet I never see hordes of women being tempted into lust over this. You know it's a day ending in 'Y' when Lori says nasty denigrating blaming things about other women. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Women Should Not Vote?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife as found on Sarah's DaughterEditor's note: Keep in mind in this season where Donald Trump and his supporters want women to lose the right to vote and #Repeal19 is trending on Facebook as a topic that lots of female cultural enforcers do not think women should have the right to vote either. Zsuzsanna Anderson has stated it a few times in her blog. Not surprisingly Lori Alexander jumps on the no votes for women cause. She's supporting things written by MRA supporter Vox Day. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Do Not Make Spanking a Last Resort?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Spank as a Last ResortEditor's note: This piece was written in the wake of several deaths of children who were abused, neglected and disciplined to death. In each home a copy of Michael Pearl's 'To Train Up A Child' was found with law enforcement saying that the discipline outlined in the book may have played a part in the deaths of Hana Grace Williams and Lydia Shatz. These deaths brought unwanted public media attention to the abusive methods of the Pearls. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: The No Spanking Movement is Part of the New World Order?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Spank and Save a ChildEditor's note: This was written in the wake of allegations that Pearl's book 'To Train Up A Child' was found in the homes of several families that abused their children to death, Hana Grace Williams and Lydia Shatz. It's breathtakingly convoluted conspiracy theory that Mr. Pearl has worked out to justify his worldview instead of being open to examine the possibility that he might have contributed to the death of children. Nothing like being deceived and filled with martrybating. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Suffering Makes You More Holy?

by Anonymous from Sow With Vision - Sowing While Suffering | Bitter WatersEditor's note: This is another one of those toxic reoccurring themes in Quiverfull: that suffering is somehow redemptive. Right after they tell you that your illness is punishment from God from unconfessed sin or generational curse. Or perhaps you weren't using the right essential oils or you drank too much soda. While there's only a little blaming for the suffering in this piece the thought that suffering and serious affliction somehow makes one more holy and closer to God is just as toxic and wrong. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Denying a Link to Lydia Shatz and Hana Grace Williams?

by Debi Pearl from No Greater Joy - A Call to StandEditor's note: We've all seen Michael Pearl's official statement about the deaths of children whose parents followed his child training book 'To Train Up A Child'. We featured it here along with Debi's hysterical calling for the death of those that opposed them prayer request last year. Here's Debi complaining about the press linking their ministry and advice to the deaths of children. Towards the end of the piece she even manages to say that people that oppose their training methods are like Hitler's supporters and she mentions Hitler right off the bat. Does anyone know what 'lesbian homeschool website' she keeps referencing in this … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Homeschooling Keeps Creeps Off Your Daughters?

by Zsuzsanna Anderson of Are They All Yours?!? - Here or There?Editor's note: Now Zsuzsanna is claiming that keeping your girls homeschooled prevents out of wedlock pregnancies and molestation.  All of which is laughable if you look at the many times it's emerged that there are patriarchs that rape their daughters and sons, like Josh Duggar, that molest their sisters in the CPM. Obviously it is no guarantee either.  … [Read more...]

Navigating Risks and Bounded Choice

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog Every Breaking WaveDuring my last trip to Costa Rica we stopped for lunch that first day at a Frutas by the side of the road. These little open air fruit stands are everywhere in Central America when you venture beyond the larger cities.Neither Jim nor I knew what to expect. We were lured into stopping by the gorgeous display of tropical fruits. We hadn't eaten a thing since the airport in Fort Lauderdale, Florida very early that morning and were pretty hungry. Tropical fruits suddenly sounded like a splendid idea in that moment.Turns out that the Frutas had more than just fruit. They had all sorts of foods and snacks including a … [Read more...]