The Most Blaring Contradiction Of All

April 1, 2013 By Leave a Comment
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by Cindy Foster Recently, I read a poignantly and transparently written post at ‘Stuff Fundies Like’ titled “Pining for the Leeks and Garlic”.  Anyone with knowledge of the Old Testament accounts of Moses and the Children of Israel’s 40 year wilderness journey will immediately recognize the title’s significance. I’ve followed SFL

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Stress, Pride, Shame and Frogs

March 30, 2013 By Leave a Comment
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by Cindy Foster In February of 2002 we attended our first five day stress in the ministry workshop.  We were invited by our close friends of near 30 years who founded this desperately needed ministry near 30 years ago.

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How Male Dominated Religion Bleeds Women

March 14, 2013 By 22 Comments
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by Cindy Foster My husband, Paul, and I were enjoying some Mexican food at a restaurant near where we were staying in Houston last night. Sitting at a table in very close proximity to ours was a Muslim family.  We see a lot of Muslim families these days, but more so

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Shedding the Burqa Part 2

March 1, 2013 By 2 Comments
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by Cindy Foster While I waited in the car with the kids, my husband stayed behind and told The Preacher that we would be leaving. This was actually the second time he told him.  The first was the day The Preacher administered ‘The Shunning’

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I’m Coming Out

February 25, 2013 By 6 Comments
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by Cindy Foster Ok.  I am finally coming out! I’ve been wanting to do this for a very long time.  It won’t be much of a surprise to many of you since I have posted links to articles

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