Why I Find Perverse Pleasure in the Sexual Peccadilloes of Evangelical Leaders

October 20, 2012 By 10 Comments

by Bruce Gerencser I am quite indifferent to the sexual peccadillos of others. What consenting adults do sexually is none of my business. I think so-called sexual “sins” like adultery and fornication find their foundation in the Bible and I reject the Bible as a moral or ethical standard. We are sexual creatures. Desiring to [...]

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Jack Schaap: Isolated Incident or the One That Got Caught?

October 13, 2012 By 41 Comments
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by Calulu I haven’t updated NLQ much with the latest on Jack Schaap and his ongoing legal confloption. Yesterday I was perusing the news on Jack Schaap, the former pastor of the First Baptist Church of Hammond, Indiana to see what had gone down on his plea arraignment on September 27, 2012. Schaap not only [...]

Filed Under: Accountability, Adultery, Alienation, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Birth Control, Boundaries, Bounded Choice, Child Abuse, Coercive Religious Groups (Cults), Complimentarianism, Control, Dominionism / Christian Reconstruction, Drinking the Koolaid, Elitism, Father Worship, Fear Based Theology, Fear of Hell, Formulaic Religion, Fundamentalism, Gender Equality, Group Think, Hot Topics, Hyles-Anderson College, Independent Fundamental Baptist Churches (IFB), Isolation, Issues, J.O.Y (Self Denial), Jack Hyles, Jack Schaap, Judgementalism, Legalism, Male Headship, Manipulation, Markers of a Cult, Marketing "Biblical Family Values", Marriage Covenant, Mega Churches, Men are Visual, Mental / Emotional Health, Motherhood, Mutuality, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Psalm 127 / Quiverfull: Be Fruitful & Multiply, Purity, Quiverfull & the Bible, Quiverfull Discernment, Quiverfull in the News, Quiverfull Leaders, Quiverfull Ministries, Quiverfull Topics, Rock Star Pastors, SASBN, Self-Abnegation / Martydom, Self-Loathing, Self-Preservation Factor, Self-Righteousness, Shame, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Issues, Submission, The Godly Woman, The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network, Toxic Relationships, Umbrella of Authority, Uncategorized, Who Was That Masked Man by Calulu Tagged With: , , , , , , 41 Comments

An Open Letter to Ellie Ponder Woman

August 5, 2012 By 44 Comments
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by Calulu Dear Ellie Ponder Woman– Listen Please! Several days ago I was directed to your blog by a friend and before I knew it I was drawn in. I read every entry, particularly those involving the struggles in your marriage with incidents of domestic violence. You stated that you wanted to glorify God through [...]

Filed Under: A Woman's Choice, Accountability, Adultery, Alienation, Anxiety, Any Cause Divorce, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Boundaries, Coercive Religious Groups (Cults), Confession, Control, Covenant Breaking, Depression, Divorce & Remarriage, Domestic Abuse, Dominionism / Christian Reconstruction, Elitism, Fear of Hell, Fear tactics, Formulaic Religion, Fundamentalism, Group Think, Help Meet, Husbands Love Your Wives, Isolation, Issues, Judgementalism, Kobayashi Maru ~ The No-Win Scenario, Learned Helplessness, Legalism, Like-Minded Fellowship, Maintaining Appearances, Manipulation, Markers of a Cult, Marriage Covenant, Maternal Martyr, Mental / Emotional Health, Motherhood, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Quiverfull Topics, SASBN, Self-Abnegation / Martydom, Self-Loathing, Self-Preservation Factor, Self-Righteousness, Shame, Spiritual Abuse, Spiritual Abuse Survivors, Spiritual Issues, Stockholm Syndrome, Submission, The Godly Woman, The Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network, Toxic Relationships Tagged With: , , , , 44 Comments

Who Was That Masked Man? Part 6

June 3, 2012 By 10 Comments

by Calulu When we last left the Smiths they had reconciled and were determined to make everyone be best friends forever again. Nothing doing. Things ratchet up a few new levels of tension. 9/11 happens. I’m sitting in front of the television having coffee and folding clothes when CNN shows the coverage of the first [...]

Filed Under: A Woman's Choice, Accountability, Adultery, Alienation, Anxiety, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Boundaries, Confession, Control, Depression, Elitism, Femininity vs Feminism, Fundamentalism, Gender Equality, Group Think, Help Meet, Hospitality, Issues, J.O.Y (Self Denial), Jezebel Spirit, Judgementalism, Legalism, Like-Minded Fellowship, Maintaining Appearances, Male Headship, Manipulation, Markers of a Cult, Meek and Quiet Spirit, Mental / Emotional Health, Motherhood, Mr. Command Man, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, Patriarchy, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Proverbs 31 Woman, Quiverfull Topics, Self-Abnegation / Martydom, Self-Righteousness, Servant Leadership, Shame, Spiritual Issues, Submission, The Godly Woman, Titus 2 Woman, Toxic Relationships, Who Was That Masked Man by Calulu Tagged With: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , 10 Comments

Who Was That Masked Man? Part 5

May 29, 2012 By 9 Comments

by Calulu So when we left off Tina was still believing that Tom was coming home. We were having nothing to do with the Smiths and Tom doesn’t come home. What he does do is go to my husband and ask him to talk to me about working a few mornings a week at his [...]

Filed Under: A Woman's Choice, Accountability, Adultery, Alienation, Anxiety, Biblical Manhood & Womanhood, Boundaries, Calling Husband "Lord", Covenant Breaking, Depression, Divorce & Remarriage, Domestic Abuse, Educational Neglect, Elitism, Emotional Incest, Emotional Purity, Enmeshment, Femininity vs Feminism, Formulaic Religion, Fundamentalism, Help Meet, Homeschool, Husbands Love Your Wives, Isolation, Issues, J.O.Y (Self Denial), Judgementalism, Kobayashi Maru ~ The No-Win Scenario, Learned Helplessness, Legalism, Like-Minded Fellowship, Maintaining Appearances, Male Headship, Manipulation, Marriage Covenant, Maternal Martyr, Meek and Quiet Spirit, Mental / Emotional Health, Motherhood, Mr. Command Man, NLQ Miscellany, NLQ Open Comments, NLQ Stories, Parentification of Children, Pater Familias, Patriarchy, Perfectionism, Personal Autonomy, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), Proverbs 31 Woman, Quiverfull Topics, Self-Preservation Factor, Self-Righteousness, Separation - Individuation, Servant Leadership, Shame, Shunning, Socialization, Spiritual Adultery, Spiritual Issues, Stewardship, Stockholm Syndrome, Submission, The Godly Woman, Titus 2 Woman, Toxic Relationships, Umbrella of Authority, Uncategorized, Unequally Yoked, Weaker Vessel, Who Was That Masked Man by Calulu Tagged With: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , 9 Comments