Preparing To Be A Help Meet – Debi and Michael’s Love Story Part One

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideTo be clear, Debi and Michael's story is NOT a love story.  There is precious little love involved and a whole heap of red flags.I had just turned thirteen when I first saw him and knew, just simply knew, he was my man.  If he had glanced over and been able to read my mind he would have surely laughed.  (...)The whole community had been talking about the famous, young preacher who had been invited to speak at First Baptist Church's Teen Retreat.  (...) My young mind quickly assessed him.  He seemed bigger than life, a super, in charge type of man. I guessed he must have been at least 21 years old. (...) … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Pot Meet Kettle – Modesty Standards and Religion?

A bridal hijab. Everyday hijabs aren't that fancy. Isn't she beautiful?

by Bojidar Marinov from The American Vision - Civilization and Self ControlNo wonder Islam seldom teaches self-control in man. While acknowledging the destructive nature of male uncontrolled lust, Islam leaves it to women to protect themselves and society from destruction by choosing their clothing in such a way as to completely shut them off from the world. Men are supposed to remain at the level of immature puberty their whole lives. Women and girls are supposed to act wise and mature from a very early age, exercising external control where men are unable to exercise internal self-control. In the Shariah legislation, a woman is guilty of adultery even when raped. It must be her fault, … [Read more...]

So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next?: The Narcissistic Pastor – How to Recognize a Spiritual Abuser

Chances are any pastor that is a Narcissist is actually whoring out parts of his personality/life

from the website An Irenicon - The Narcissistic PastorSo what does the narcissistic pastor look like?  I’m a humble person, so I’ll merely recount the characteristics of narcissism as identified by Sam Vaknin (himself diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder). His thoughts are in bold. Like I said I’m too humble to know any of this firsthand. Having worked, lived, confided for, and studied with many pastors, however, I know that it touches our profession intimately. Comments following the boldface reflect my actual experiences working in the church. … [Read more...]

News: Duggars Dealing With Bill Gothard Fallout

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Jezebel.Com has written a horribly funny but thought-provoking  piece on the changes through the years in the Duggar family along with how they are answering the criticisms for following Bill "Grabby Hands" Gothard - How are the Duggars dealing with the Gothard Sex Scandal?So, what follows may be the greatest Duggar based conspiracy theory that you've read this month. Ok, it's not that great but it's a theory. Now, it is well known among Gothard's that the kind of crunchy, curly home-permed hair favored by Michelle and the clan in the early season is based on preferences of Gothard, who loved long, wavy womanly hair and damn the woman who does not possess sacred this crown. Now it may … [Read more...]

Preparing To Be A Help Meet – Background Information

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by Mel cross posted from her blog When Cows and Kids CollideI've been learning about the Pearls for the last two years as I've learned more about the Christian Patriarchy movement.    I have found Michael and Debi's books to be laughably bad - at best- and horribly abusive at worst. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Still Trying?

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Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar from The Christian Post - Michelle Duggar Says Conception 'Not Totally Impossible but Most Unlikely' After Visit to OB-GYN Michelle - "Conception is not totally impossible, but most unlikely," Duggar says in the newest episode of "19 Kids & Counting." … [Read more...]

Male Headship and the Problem of Power

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by Kristen Rosser cross posted from her blog Wordgazer's WordsSeveral people have asked me privately to follow up on the radio conversation I participated in on Up For Debate last weekend on the topic "Does God Expect Men to be Spiritual Leaders?"  They asked me to focus specifically on what was said by the caller-in named "Linda."The comments on my blog post about the radio show also were focused on that portion of the broadcast-- so I will say now what I wish I had been prepared and had time to say then. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Godly Response to a Sick Friend?

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by Kelly Reins from Ladies Against Feminism and her blog Ah The Life - A Snippet From a Letter to a Friend I am praying for you. I know it's difficult to be still and I know you know this, that there is great joy having no distractions between ourselves and our great Saviour (sic). There is precious insight in the much afforded quiet time and as much as pills, and herbs, and various other remedies bring relief, it is true that there is an equal amount of relief in walking through sanctification, delighting to do the smallest thing He asks us in faith, and becoming so acquainted with Him, it seems hard to have to part and bring the mind back to the cares of this world. … [Read more...]

The Six Inch Rule: Thou Shalt Not Touch

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by Bruce Genercser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardImagine for a moment, that you are sitting in the pew of an Independent Fundamentalist Baptist (IFB) church. You are 16 years old and sitting next to you is your 17-year-old girlfriend. Like normal teenagers, you are sitting as close as possible to your girlfriend and you are discreetly, cleverly holding handsThe pastor is getting ready to preach and he asks everyone to turn to 1 Corinthians 7:1,2. With a thunderous voice, the pastor says, THE BIBLE SAYS: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: When Patriarchals Misunderstand What ‘Taliban’ Means?

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by Adam Gregorin from his blog Minthegap - Fundamentalist Atheists -  America's Taliban However, there is a vocal minority of Atheists (I term them Fundamentalist Atheists) that seek to eradicate all religion, and these are the focus of this article.It doesn’t take long reading Fundamentalist Atheist’s thoughts to find that they believe that Christians are the American version of the Taliban.  They trot out the ideas that Christians are behind unequal rights for gays and telling women what to do with their bodies, and compare that to the Taliban telling women that they are of no worth and that they must veil themselves from head to toe. … [Read more...]


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