Silencing Techniques

May 6, 2013 By Leave a Comment
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by Kristen Rosser Have you ever had an entire conversation that was not about the thing you wanted to talk about, but about why you needed to stop talking about it? It’s called silencing.

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Quoting Quiverfull: Genetic Claims?

May 5, 2013 By 3 Comments
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by Doug Wilson and posted at Vision Forum “For the sake of argument, we should readily grant homosexual genetic claims. God controls everything, and so we can grant any and all scientific claims about the genetic bases of sin. Accept it all in the providence of God.

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Quoting Quiverfull: Twisted Illogical Logic?

May 4, 2013 By 4 Comments
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by Doug Wilson as posted at Vision Forum “In true repentance, we should invert as many contemporary categories as we can — own the curse of homosexuality upon our parenting, grant the science, and explicitly embrace God’s transformation of our civil order. True repentance in the Church,

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Jinger Duggar Wants Out?

May 3, 2013 By 8 Comments
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Radar Online has been having a long series of Duggar related articles through the years. They posted again about Jinger Duggar’s desire to be in the big city and put up a clip of the Duggar girls speculating on what type of men they would want as husbands. Sounds like they’ve been reading Debi Pearl’s [...]

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Daughter of the Patriarchy: epilogue: What does leaving fundamentalism look like?

May 2, 2013 By 1 Comment
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by Sierra Occasionally, I get asked whether or not I ever actually left my old fundamentalist church. My story on No Longer Quivering followed my journey up to the first year of college. I’ve wrestled with how to explain what happened in a proper narrative form, because the circumstances that led to my cutting ties [...]

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