Quoting Quiverfull: Godless Sluts Wear Yoga Pants?

by Lori Alexander from The Transformed Wife - Women Wanting to Do What is Right in Their Own EyesEditor's note: Flipping out over yoga pants? Since when did wearing comfortable clothing translate into rebellion against men and God? There are many men that walk around in utili-kilts or short shorts in this area of the world in the summer time, yet I never see hordes of women being tempted into lust over this. You know it's a day ending in 'Y' when Lori says nasty denigrating blaming things about other women. … [Read more...]

Navigating Risks and Bounded Choice

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog Every Breaking WaveDuring my last trip to Costa Rica we stopped for lunch that first day at a Frutas by the side of the road. These little open air fruit stands are everywhere in Central America when you venture beyond the larger cities.Neither Jim nor I knew what to expect. We were lured into stopping by the gorgeous display of tropical fruits. We hadn't eaten a thing since the airport in Fort Lauderdale, Florida very early that morning and were pretty hungry. Tropical fruits suddenly sounded like a splendid idea in that moment.Turns out that the Frutas had more than just fruit. They had all sorts of foods and snacks including a … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Listening To Your Wife?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - I Need Her Counsel and JudgementEditor's note: A fascinating look into the abusive nature of the Pearl marriage where Michael admits he needs Debi's ideas. He thought that her having ideas contrary to his was was her 'getting out of her place'. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Protect Those Boundaries to Control Your Children

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Crazy CattleEditor's note: Paging Ms. Mel! Is this the best way you keep cattle in the field? With an electrified fence? I do know someone that is in the Quiverfull movement that did use an electrified fence to keep her children in the yard so that she didn't have to watch them. Mr. Peal can disclaimer this all he likes, but there will always be those that take his stories as instructions. … [Read more...]

Mary Pride denies founding the Quiverfull movement?

by Vyckie Garrison (Editor's Note: This was originally published on NLQ back around three or four years ago. Sharing again as it seems appropriate in light of our recent discussions about Mary Pride)A couple months back, I received an email from Mary Pride -- apparently, she's feeling the pressure since Frank Schaeffer mentioned her in his latest book, Sex, Mom & God, and has been talking in various interviews about her role in founding the Quiverfull and Christian Patriarchy movements with her book, The Way Home: Beyond Feminism and Back to Reality.If you Google "Mary Pride" -- NLQ comes up 4th on the results page -- I'm guessing that's how she ended up emailing me: … [Read more...]

Part 5: Abuse Survey

by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living LiminalPart 5 - Abuse SurveyLate last year, I answered an online survey about spiritual abuse. I would like to share some of those questions and answers here, hoping it will give you a better picture of where I am up to in my journey. … [Read more...]

Abusive Child Discipline Advice?

One of the friends of NLQ wrote a letter asking a certain husband and wife duo who is absolutely beloved by the homeschooling Evangelical world for their advice on raising good Christian children who never rebel. He never identifies exactly who they are, but their identity is obvious.Here's his original query: … [Read more...]

So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next? Tips: Dealing With Face to Face Confrontations

by Suzanne TitkemeyerOne of the biggest challenges I had during my recovery from spiritual abuse was what to say to the people from my old church circle when I'd run into them on the streets of my small town. They'd always want to rip into me on the subject of leaving that church, eager to issue 'Come to Jesus' talks or try and heap condemnation on me. I took to running the other way until I developed a coping strategy that allowed me to interact with them and put them on the spot. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Submission Keeps You From Being Victimized?

by Rebekah (Doug Wilson's daughter) at Femina - On Not Being A Victim 1. Christian women should be characterized by submission. No matter how much cool-shaming is thrown at the concept of headship and submission by the hipper-than-thou crowd, we can’t get around it that the Bible teaches this. Some people scream and run when they hear the word submission, and men like Doug Philips make that reaction understandable. Then over amongst the crowd that’s all gung-ho about submission there is frequently a scary lack of nuance. On the two sides of this question you find people waving their flags saying either, “submission is terrible,” or “submission is wonderful.” But submit is a a word like love. … [Read more...]

Coming Out of the Cult Closet

by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixThe last year has been full of shifts, most of them tumultuous, but most of them ending up being quite positive. In the actual moment, each change didn't feel positive. It felt like I was wearing skin that didn't fit me anymore, and I was trying to wrestle out of it. Much like a critter shedding it's old skin. Painful, itchy, uncomfortable, exhausting. But then each time I shed an old layer, it felt great afterwards to relax and sit in the sun, so to speak with spanking new skin that felt all new and glowing. … [Read more...]