Bonding and Bondage in Abusive Relationships

Watchtheshepherd

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch the ShepherdIn case you're wondering why you can't "just get over it" from a painfully abusive or damaging or destructive relationship: Trauma bonding makes any relationship harder to end, harder to heal, harder to find freedom from through forgiveness, than the loss of a true love. The neural pathways burned into a brain in trauma bonding are laid down in powerful fear/anxiety hormonal rushes leaving even comparatively good memories with the person colored with the stains of those traumatic events. The loss of anyone we have loved -- whether they have treated us very well indeed or in a deplorable manner -- is something that will heal … [Read more...]

Patheos Atheist LogoLike No Longer Quivering and Patheos Atheist on Facebook!

What To Do About Toxic Power In Marriage

Watchtheshepherd

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch The ShepherdDear friends,What can a woman do if she realizes that she is in a controlling, manipulative, intimidating, verbally aggressive, and/or physically violent marriage?Two months ago I wrote a post called Recognizing Pervasive, Poisonous Power in Marriage which gave an analysis of the problem. I based it on concepts found in The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. At the end, I promised a follow up post with suggestions on what she can do. … [Read more...]

Patheos Atheist LogoLike No Longer Quivering and Patheos Atheist on Facebook!

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Listening To Your Wife?

quotingquiverfull

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - I Need Her Counsel and JudgementEditor's note: A fascinating look into the abusive nature of the Pearl marriage where Michael admits he needs Debi's ideas. He thought that her having ideas contrary to his was was her 'getting out of her place'. … [Read more...]

Patheos Atheist LogoLike No Longer Quivering and Patheos Atheist on Facebook!

Quoting Quiverfull: Women Need Micro-Managing From Their Husbands?

quotingquiverfull

by Cane Caldo from Things that We have Heard and Known - Cold Service is the Revenge Dish of VanityEditor's note: Remember that disgraceful guy who had all the photos of scantly clad teenagers at his site Is This Modest? - Minthegap / Adam Gregorian? If you recall he had a pile of Mens Rights buddies we quoted, some of whom have done like Gregorian did to his almost porn Modesty site and pulled down their blogs after being confronted. Here's some of the most disgusting misogyny from a man in the church we've seen in a long time. He makes Michael Pearl seem gentle. Trigger warning if you go to his blog, this posting is all about denigrating a woman in distress who is trying to work … [Read more...]

Patheos Atheist LogoLike No Longer Quivering and Patheos Atheist on Facebook!

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 2 – Don’t Leave Abusive Husband Ever?

quotingquiverfull

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy - Abusive HusbandEditor's note: Today Michael adds his thoughts on abuse and leaving. Not any better than his wife's unfortunately. Trigger warning: This might make you sick to your stomach. Don't say I didn't warn you.  This type of advice is harmful to implement in an abusive marriage and is likely to encourage additional abuse. … [Read more...]

Patheos Atheist LogoLike No Longer Quivering and Patheos Atheist on Facebook!

Quoting Quiverfull: Stay in Abusive Marriage?

Quoting

by Mary Pride from The Way Home as published on Homeschoolers Anonymous - Mary Pride: Don't Divorce Your Drunk, Raging HusbandEditors note: R.L. Stollar is reading this book so you don't have to. It was the original call to women to return home from the workplace to be full time wives and mothers and embrace the theology of Quiverfull before Quiverfull even had a name. … [Read more...]

Patheos Atheist LogoLike No Longer Quivering and Patheos Atheist on Facebook!

“Real Marriage” Review: 65 – 85, ‘The Respectful Wife’

realmarriage4

by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons With a chapter title like that, you just know how much I loved it. I probably should have expected this chapter to be more infuriating than the one devoted to men, but I didn’t. My marginalia has a lot more “WTF” and “BS” (which stands for both bullshitand benevolent sexism; nice how that one worked out) than the last chapter did– and I wish I could talk about a lot more than I have the space for. … [Read more...]

Patheos Atheist LogoLike No Longer Quivering and Patheos Atheist on Facebook!

Quoting Quiverfull: The Ray Rice NFL Scandal Is A Good Opportunity To ‘Spread The Gospel’?

rayrice

by Voddie Baucham from his Facebook statusesFor those of you who don't follow the news or football or NFL let's summarize this: Ray Rice, running back for the Baltimore Ravens NFL team, beat his then fiancee and was suspended for a couple of games until the website TMZ posted the video of the incident. In the video Rice hits his fiancee so hard she's knocked unconscious in a hotel elevator before he drags her out of frame. After the NFL was chided for their slap on the wrist of Rice they then suspended him indefinitely and the Baltimore Ravens team cut him from their team. … [Read more...]

Patheos Atheist LogoLike No Longer Quivering and Patheos Atheist on Facebook!

Quoting Quiverfull: What Does Mentally Justifying Your Own Abuse Look Like?

marriage

from Peaceful Wife's Blog the story of one woman dealing with her husband's addiction to pornography by putting up with the emotional abuse: God Equips and Empowers - Joy Filled WifeShame on you Peaceful Wife (April Cassidy) for condoning this type of scary behavior.  … [Read more...]

Patheos Atheist LogoLike No Longer Quivering and Patheos Atheist on Facebook!

Quoting Quiverfull: Controlling Your Thoughts Again?

Anger 2

by Colin Campbell from Meat For Men - The Pioneering Spirit: Pulling Down Strongholds … [Read more...]

Patheos Atheist LogoLike No Longer Quivering and Patheos Atheist on Facebook!


CLOSE | X

HIDE | X