Then and Now

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixI'm becoming more and more aware that I don't need to "aware" of my beliefs in order for them to affect my life.My beliefs shape the way my life is branching out right at this very moment, even if many of these beliefs were formed many years ago and I don't give them much thought today. … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: What is a Cult? Church of Wells Edition

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According to the Wartburg Watch and Ronald Enroth's book "Church That Abuse" the hallmarks of a cult are - 1.   Control-oriented style of leadership2.   Spiritual elitism3.   Manipulation of members … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Talk to Your Husband About How You Feel? Ha!

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 147-148This chapter starts out fairly tame by Debi’s standards . . . and then turns into a train reck before you have a chance to so much as blink. As a reminder, Debi is now going through the various character traits that Titus 2 instructs the older women to teach to the younger women. This installment begins Debi’s chapter titled “To Be Sober.” … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Earning Your Abuser’s Trust

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love Joy Feminism***trigger warning for domestic violence***This section is called “Earning His Trust,” and calling it that is messed up on about three million levels, as we shall see. It is the story of a young woman named Sunny. … [Read more...]

Spiritual Abuse and Whitewashed Marriage

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by Mere Dreamer cross posted from her blog Love is Not Equal to Love(Editor’s note: Please welcome Mere Dreamer to NLQ and the SASBN! Another great addition to our group!)I grew up in a 3rd world mission where the horror stories of Northern news overshadowed all other impressions of the US, though I determined to move there after graduation in spite of the fear. My 17 year old, culture-shocked self feared the six block walk from the school to work, morbidly certain it was inevitable that I would be kidnapped and raped. … [Read more...]

What “Fireproof” and “Twilight” Have in Common

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by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons During my undergrad days, one of my friends convinced me to read the Twilight series. At first I rolled my eyes at the “vampire books,” but I did read them— flew through them, really. I strongly, strongly identified with Isabella Swan– but when I tried to explain it to my friends, all that I could come up with was that “we were both clumsy.” My friends laughed at me, or rolled their eyes, so eventually I shut up about it. I was never able to figure out exactly what it was about Bella that tugged at me so much. I knew it had something to do with her relationship with Edward– I was frequently able to draw direct parallels to my rela … [Read more...]

CTBHHM: Only Ever Think Good

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by Libby Anne cross posted from her blog Love, Joy, FeminismCreated To Be His Help Meet, pp. 128-132In this section Debi goes into more depth about just what “reverencing” one’s husband actually looks like in practice. Her focus in this section is on thought patterns—basically, she argues that women should brainwash themselves into only ever thinking good of their husbands. Debi starts by outlining what she argues is a common problem for her intended audience: … [Read more...]

How Should Churches Handle Allegations of Abuse?

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardFirst of all, churches shouldn’t “handle” anything.  This is what gets churches, pastors, and church leaders into trouble to start with. Instead of immediately doing the right thing when someone makes an allegation of abuse they often: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Hiring Hitman For Hubby Same as Abortion?

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from Ladies Against Feminism and The Gospel Coalition - Why We Should Legalize Murder for Hire I’ll be the first to admit it; hit men are shady. But they are shady because they are doing work that no one else wants to do, work that is, in fact, illegal. By labeling contract killing a “crime,” we have obscured the fact that hit men provide a valuable service to society. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Divorce and Abuse?

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by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy - Divorce and AbuseThere is a treasure trove of Michael Pearl answering Bible Questions on YouTube and  No Greater Joy. Trigger warning for Christianese and meat butchering. … [Read more...]


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