Triggers: So I Was Spiritually Abused, What Next?

We're starting a new series called "So I Was Spiritually Abused, What Next" with posts about healing, explaining some of the things most people that walk away from spiritual abuse suffer from after leaving as well as information on healing from abuse. We invite anyone that wants to write a post for this series to email Suzanne, NLQ Moderator/Admin at CaluluNLQ(at)gmail(dot)com. … [Read more...]

Then and Now

by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixI'm becoming more and more aware that I don't need to "aware" of my beliefs in order for them to affect my life.My beliefs shape the way my life is branching out right at this very moment, even if many of these beliefs were formed many years ago and I don't give them much thought today. … [Read more...]

Not Quoting Quiverfull: What is a Cult? Church of Wells Edition

According to the Wartburg Watch and Ronald Enroth's book "Church That Abuse" the hallmarks of a cult are - 1.   Control-oriented style of leadership2.   Spiritual elitism3.   Manipulation of members … [Read more...]

Spiritual Abuse and Whitewashed Marriage

by Mere Dreamer cross posted from her blog Love is Not Equal to Love(Editor’s note: Please welcome Mere Dreamer to NLQ and the SASBN! Another great addition to our group!)I grew up in a 3rd world mission where the horror stories of Northern news overshadowed all other impressions of the US, though I determined to move there after graduation in spite of the fear. My 17 year old, culture-shocked self feared the six block walk from the school to work, morbidly certain it was inevitable that I would be kidnapped and raped. … [Read more...]

What “Fireproof” and “Twilight” Have in Common

by Samantha cross posted from her blog Defeating the Dragons During my undergrad days, one of my friends convinced me to read the Twilight series. At first I rolled my eyes at the “vampire books,” but I did read them— flew through them, really. I strongly, strongly identified with Isabella Swan– but when I tried to explain it to my friends, all that I could come up with was that “we were both clumsy.” My friends laughed at me, or rolled their eyes, so eventually I shut up about it. I was never able to figure out exactly what it was about Bella that tugged at me so much. I knew it had something to do with her relationship with Edward– I was frequently able to draw direct parallels to my rela … [Read more...]

How Should Churches Handle Allegations of Abuse?

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardFirst of all, churches shouldn’t “handle” anything.  This is what gets churches, pastors, and church leaders into trouble to start with. Instead of immediately doing the right thing when someone makes an allegation of abuse they often: … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Hiring Hitman For Hubby Same as Abortion?

from Ladies Against Feminism and The Gospel Coalition - Why We Should Legalize Murder for Hire I’ll be the first to admit it; hit men are shady. But they are shady because they are doing work that no one else wants to do, work that is, in fact, illegal. By labeling contract killing a “crime,” we have obscured the fact that hit men provide a valuable service to society. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Divorce and Abuse?

by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy - Divorce and AbuseThere is a treasure trove of Michael Pearl answering Bible Questions on YouTube and  No Greater Joy. Trigger warning for Christianese and meat butchering. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Biblical Character?

by Jeff Owens of Bible Believer Net - The Attributes of a Wife Who Possesses Character 1. A wife with character will be in submission to her husband, … [Read more...]

Domestic Violence in the IFB Church Movement

by Bruce GerencserFirst, let me give readers the definition for domestic violence. The National Domestic Violence Hotline defines domestic violence as: Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner. … [Read more...]


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