Recognizing Pervasive, Poisonous Power in Marriage

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch The Shepherd “There are two kinds of power. One kills the spirit. The other nourishes the spirit. The first is Power Over. The other is Personal Power. Power Over shows up as control and dominance. Personal Power shows up as mutuality and co-creation. Mutuality is a way of being with a person which promotes the growth and well-being of one's self and the other person by means of clear communication and empathetic understanding. Co-creation is a consciously shared participation in life which helps one reach one's goals.” … [Read more...]

Bonding and Bondage in Abusive Relationships

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch the ShepherdIn case you're wondering why you can't "just get over it" from a painfully abusive or damaging or destructive relationship: Trauma bonding makes any relationship harder to end, harder to heal, harder to find freedom from through forgiveness, than the loss of a true love. The neural pathways burned into a brain in trauma bonding are laid down in powerful fear/anxiety hormonal rushes leaving even comparatively good memories with the person colored with the stains of those traumatic events. The loss of anyone we have loved -- whether they have treated us very well indeed or in a deplorable manner -- is something that will heal … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: A Tax on Working Mothers?

by Biblical Gender Roles at Biblical Gender Roles.com – Lindsey Graham Says We Need to Import Other Country’s(SIC) ChildrenEditor's note: So this is more from the piece we quoted last week involving Lindsay Graham saying we would need to import workers to offset the coming large number of baby boomers retiring. In this part BGR's wants the government and our tax system to reward Quiverfull families with lots of children and stay at home mothers, while penalizing any mother with children that does dare to work outside of the home. There's nothing taking into account the fact that for many families, even those where the mother would like to stay home with the children or feels massive gui … [Read more...]

News: Rusty Yates Thinks State of Texas Was Cruel to Andrea Yates

Remember the Andrea Yates story fourteen years ago? If you don't recall it Andrea Yates was a Quiverfull mother who was suffering from post-partum psychosis and killed all five of her children. Everyone around her knew she was significantly mentally ill to the point where her doctor didn't think she should have more children, yet did very little to get her real help. Her husband quietly divorced her two years after the trial, remarried and continued on with his Quiverfull lifestyle by having even more children.Oprah's series "Where Are They Now?" caught up with Rusty and he had this to say about his thoughts on Andrea's trial. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Quiverfull Making Martyrs Out Of Mothers?

by Steven Ertelt from Life News - No  Greater Love: Putting the life of her unborn baby first; mother dies after giving birthEditor's note: Life News uses the death of a woman who from all accounts wasn't Quiverfull to make a point about how good Christian mothers are supposed to carry pregnancies that will end their lives to the end, no matter what the doctors advise. They are canonizing the dead women Suzanne Mazzola as an example to be looked up to instead of a woman who took a risk and paid the price. It was her decision and her's alone to make, but typically Life News ignores that. If they had their way that decision would be made in advance for all women. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: If You Get Sick From “Doing It All” Then God Has Other Plans?

by Jenny Erwin from United Christian Homeschoolers Upstate - Wednesdays Words of Encouragement: May 'He' Get All The GloryFound this through Ladies Against Feminism and Be Not Weary websites. This sounds so very much like the stories of many of us Quiverfull walk-away moms that it's frightening. The difference is that she's still at that place where she cannot admit her own chosen religious lifestyle is causing her great physical harm. I hope she makes the connection soon and does what she needs to do to heal her body. Any life style that is destroying your body cannot be healthy for anyone, it sure doesn't benefit  anyone in the family, it makes it nearly impossible to do the things … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Where Are Those Frozen Embryos Souls While They Are Frozen?

by Adeye from No Greater Joy Mom - A New Date and QuestionsAdeye has shopped around until she found an in vitro clinic that will do the implantation of all four of the frozen embryos at the same time. She's answering questions on her blog, which led me to the question in the title. Are a few frozen cells the same thing as a full formed baby? … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: So Frozen Embryos Are Babies Too?

Remember the recent Quoting Quiverfull that our founder Vyckie Garrison commented on? The lady who already has adopted children and special needs children who is going to behaving more babies from frozen embryos of someone else where the other embryos resulted in children with profound disabilities? Apparently the Internet and it's commenters have given her some push-back instead of showering her with praise for her sacrifices. She's explaining her thoughts in her blog on the 'why'.Another kid collector. Hope things go better for this lady than some of the other Evangelical Christian child collectors. Child collecting is also at the heart of what being Quiverfull means. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Having Needs is Feminism?

by Bambi in her blog In The Nursery of the Nation - When There is No Joy to be Found in MotherhoodSome hints of No Greater Joy's Debi Pearl, her letters and her truly abusive advice is echoed by Bambi here.The letter she received at her blog: I prayed for 2 years to be able to stay home with my daughter and son I was then pregnant with. When my son was born 2 years ago, the Lord answered that prayer. Today I have a 2 and a 4 year old. I'm so thankful to have the privilege of being home with them; however I'm having major problems. I feel like I'm just drained, I find myself not wanting to spend time with them. I just can't take the constant needs, wants, cries, fights, spills and so … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Giving Your Life Away or Maternal Martyrdom?

by Adeye from her blog No Greater Joy Mom - here we are, Lord--send us! as seen on Facebook shared by NLQ Founder Vyckie GarrisonRemarks in italics are from the blog. The others are Vyckie's commentary. "I long to give my life away--every part of me. I want to be so empty on earth and so full of the things of heaven." -- says Quiverfull mom of 9 (6 with disabilities), whom "the Father has chosen" to adopt 4 frozen embryos ... "Twin boys born from the same batch of embryos both have profound special needs."As I frequently say: If you don't mind ending up dead, or wishing you were dead, go ahead and give Christ-like martyrdom a try. … [Read more...]