Millipede Part 17

August 1, 2012 By 5 Comments
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by Millipede This time around it was different on the surface at least. My husband was trying a kinder and gentler approach to his faith. Rather than trying to make his wife follow behind him in the old Patriarchy Parade, my husband was content to go to church by himself. He did encourage me to [...]

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Who Was That Masked Man Part 13 – Finis

July 31, 2012 By 12 Comments

by Calulu Let’s recap: Tom Smith has just spent something like nearly fifteen years meddling in my life under the guise of ‘Christian Brotherhood’ and we’d just left the church we attended with him for a mainstream denomination in our town. He’d led the villagers in a figurative angry mob with torches against us to [...]

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Bad, Evil Psychology Helped Me

July 29, 2012 By 8 Comments

by Latebloomer Growing up, I heard a lot of scoffing at psychology in my family, homeschooling community, and fundamentalist church.  In those circles, the study and application of psychology represented a worthless human attempt to feel happier apart from God and become better without the guidance of the Bible.   The anti-psychology sentiment was so [...]

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The Hangover – Adventures in Recovery

July 27, 2012 By 11 Comments
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by Calulu It seems in spite of our attempts to be completely free of what we’ve suffered at our old church there are some issues that linger, things we need to deal with. Some of those things involve the relationship between my husband and myself. Hangovers. First allow me to say this is not one [...]

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The Marriage Benefits of Leaving Fundamentalism

July 26, 2012 By 7 Comments

by Latebloomer If I had stayed within the constraints of fundamentalism and Christian Patriarchy, my husband and I would absolutely not be happily married today. Our relationship from the very beginning consisted of many departures from the teachings I grew up with. Each of those departures furthered the development, health, and mutual happiness of our [...]

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