Millipede Part 15

July 24, 2012 By 7 Comments
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by Millipede I watched in the oncoming month as my husband’s church world came apart. Everything carried a taint of the break; sermons where a new point of view was explained, the fellowship afterwards that was a shadow of its former self. I watched as my husband hung back while our pastor conversed with the [...]

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Revisiting NLQ FAQ: Should There Be a “You” in Quivering?

July 23, 2012 By 5 Comments

What “Deny Yourself” Means – and Doesn’t Mean by Kristen Rosser ~ aka: KR Wordgazer The founders of No Longer Qivering spelled “Quivering” without a “u“ because, as they say, “There is no ‘you’ in Quivering” – there’s no place for self - and they claim this is a bad thing. But Jesus said that a [...]

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Gloating and Slander: Michael Pearl, Nancy Ann Wilson and Christian Fundamentalist Responses to Criticism

July 20, 2012 By 7 Comments
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by Sierra (Editor’s note: Many of our NLQ writers have sounded off on this situation. To see more visit Libby Anne, and Incongruous Circumspection. There are others who’ve also written of what happened that are worth checking out – Rachel Held Evans, The Friendly Atheist, Sarah Over The Moon,  Dianna Anderson, and Are Women Human.) [...]

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Daughter of the Patriarchy: Ripping the Moorings Part 1

July 19, 2012 By 4 Comments

by Sierra My family’s most diligent deceit never worked on me. My father told me not to worry about money. My mother told me that my focus should be on getting an education. They both told me that they didn’t want me to end up the way they did, ensnared in a financial trap. They [...]

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Who Was That Masked Man Part 12

July 17, 2012 By 5 Comments

by Calulu I think I cried off and on for a solid eighteen months after we switched churches. It was difficult. What made it even worse was the fact that Tom Smith had apparently told everyone in the Del/Mar/Va area that a) we weren’t believers any longer, b) we went to a church of homosexual [...]

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