She Deserved My Undeterred Love

by Joe Sands cross posted from his blog Incongruous CircumspectionTrigger warning: Sexual contentThe day was sweltering hot in the two room studio apartment. The air conditioning, rusting in it's metal encasement, rattled and whined, trying to keep up with the radiant heat of the asphalt coming in the back window. The room smelled slightly, as it always did, of a small gas leak from the old, olive green, stove on the east wall. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: So It’s Not Just Justin Lookadoo?

From Alternet - 5 Christians Who Make Their Living Telling Kids Outrageous Lies About Sex Pam Stenzel: "If you take birth control, your mother probably hates you." Stenzel is a lecturer who, according to her bio, "provide[s] a structured and unambiguous message of abstinence that will mobilize and empower adolescents to make responsible choices" and claims to speak in-person to about  500,000 young people annually. She makes about  … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Sincere Repentance?

by Doug Phillips of Vision Forum - True Repentance But repentance must be sincere. It must spring from “godly sorrow.” Too often “repentance” is the experience of offering a half-hearted and self-serving apology to God and man, mixed with large amounts of blame-shifting, pride, and a desire to be done with the whole matter so you don’t ever have to deal with it again. It is the “I have said I am sorry on my terms and in my way, and there is nothing more I need to do, so if that is not good enough for you, then you are the one in sin” attitude. … [Read more...]

Self Preservation and Mental Health

by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemIn my last post, I made a brief mention of how living in a state of survival affected my mental health. I thought it would be a good idea to expand on this issue, because in my opinion it is the crux of why having quiverfull families and homeschooling in chaos is abusive to the children involved.As I have mentioned before, doing something that causes harm to your child is abusive regardless of your intentions or religious justification. … [Read more...]

It’s Not the Affair That Irks Me, Mr. Phillips

 by Lana Hope cross posted from the blog Homeschoolers Anonymous and her blog Wide Open GroundDoug Philips, president of Vision Forum, and popular advocate of Christian Reconstructionism, Christian Patriarchy, and the Stay-at-Home-Daughter Movement, who has influenced 1000s of homeschool families to not use birth control or send their daughters to college and keep daughters at stay home until they marry, cites some kind of emotional affair as reason he is stepping down from Vision Forum. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: The Grim Harvest of Safe Sex?

Safe Sex, an urban legend … [Read more...]

Chewed Up and Spit Out

by Mari cross posted from her blog Mari's MusesSome people won’t be gotten along with.It’s not that you aren’t trying hard enough.It’s not that you can’t be gotten along with.It’s not that there’s something wrong with you.Some people choose to not be gotten along with. * * * * * … [Read more...]

Taking Back The Pen by Rachel Dawn

Life challenges all of us. This book is meant to empower all people who struggle in life. This book gives the life story of a young girl who faced more trials and heartbreak in life than most will ever endure. It is a story of hope and resilience. There have been many stories written on hardship. This one is unique in the sense that it all happened before reaching 25 years old. The key message is urging people to share their story and to learn from others mistakes no matter how bizarre. Each story has a purpose and each life has worth. This book tells the story of a girl who took the pen back from life and wrote her own story. The key is that just because your life starts a certain way, does … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Mental Illness is Self Focus?

by John Piper from desiring God - 10 Resolutions for Mental Health That night Dr. Kilby had a pastoral heart and a poet’s eye. He pled with us to stop seeking mental health in the mirror of self-analysis, but instead to drink in the remedies of God in nature. He was not naïve. He knew of sin. He knew of the necessity of redemption in Christ. But he would have said that Christ purchased new eyes for us as well as new hearts. His plea was that we stop being unamazed by the strange glory of ordinary things. He ended that lecture in 1976 with a list of resolutions. As a tribute to my teacher and a blessing to your soul, I offer them for your joy. … [Read more...]

The Evangelical Closet

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardMost homes and apartments have closets. We use closets to store things, keep things out of sight, and to maintain order.  Metaphorically, a closet is a state or condition of secrecy, privacy, or obscurity.A few years back my family and I lived in Yuma, Arizona. We lived in a beautiful home, the largest home we have ever lived in. (twice the size our present house) The … [Read more...]