Sometimes Church is the Problem

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by Boze Herrington cross posted from his blog The Talking LlamaIn May 2011 I requested a meeting with a church leader about the terrible time I had been having.I hadn’t eaten, really, in three weeks. I could barely sleep. Some nights I would just sit in my room and cry and cry as I thought about my life, about the kind of man I was, someone whose anger and hatred had left him alone and completely friendless. I cared about ideas more than I cared about people; and I realized I was heading towards the same miserable end as my hero, … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: “Quiet Bombs”?

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by Tim Price of Chalcedon Presbyterian Church posted at Ladies Against Feminism - The Door of Darkness When boys enter into puberty, they discover a door within themselves that has a sign saying, “DO NOT ENTER!” It is the door of sexual exploration and it has been presented to them by their new-found hormones. It is his responsibility to keep that door closed and to even guard it against any outside attempt — , i.e. seduction and temptation, — at prying it open. This is his first “rite of passage” into manhood, the first battle which begins with his own flesh. … [Read more...]

Religious Counsel

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by Anais Chartschenko cross posted from her blog The Monsterium(Please welcome Anais to NLQ and to the SASBN! We're glad she's here!)My rapist had listened to me. I had warned him I was thinking of telling on him. I was getting tired of being his rag doll. He explained very gently that no one would believe me, or if they did they would tell me it was my fault. He decided to demonstrate this. He was very sensitive this way. … [Read more...]

Spiritual Abuse and Whitewashed Marriage

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by Mere Dreamer cross posted from her blog Love is Not Equal to Love(Editor’s note: Please welcome Mere Dreamer to NLQ and the SASBN! Another great addition to our group!)I grew up in a 3rd world mission where the horror stories of Northern news overshadowed all other impressions of the US, though I determined to move there after graduation in spite of the fear. My 17 year old, culture-shocked self feared the six block walk from the school to work, morbidly certain it was inevitable that I would be kidnapped and raped. … [Read more...]

She Deserved My Undeterred Love

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by Joe Sands cross posted from his blog Incongruous CircumspectionTrigger warning: Sexual contentThe day was sweltering hot in the two room studio apartment. The air conditioning, rusting in it's metal encasement, rattled and whined, trying to keep up with the radiant heat of the asphalt coming in the back window. The room smelled slightly, as it always did, of a small gas leak from the old, olive green, stove on the east wall. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: So It’s Not Just Justin Lookadoo?

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From Alternet - 5 Christians Who Make Their Living Telling Kids Outrageous Lies About Sex Pam Stenzel: "If you take birth control, your mother probably hates you." Stenzel is a lecturer who, according to her bio, "provide[s] a structured and unambiguous message of abstinence that will mobilize and empower adolescents to make responsible choices" and claims to speak in-person to about  500,000 young people annually. She makes about  … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Sincere Repentance?

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by Doug Phillips of Vision Forum - True Repentance But repentance must be sincere. It must spring from “godly sorrow.” Too often “repentance” is the experience of offering a half-hearted and self-serving apology to God and man, mixed with large amounts of blame-shifting, pride, and a desire to be done with the whole matter so you don’t ever have to deal with it again. It is the “I have said I am sorry on my terms and in my way, and there is nothing more I need to do, so if that is not good enough for you, then you are the one in sin” attitude. … [Read more...]

Self Preservation and Mental Health

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by Sarah Henderson cross posted from her blog Feminist in Spite of ThemIn my last post, I made a brief mention of how living in a state of survival affected my mental health. I thought it would be a good idea to expand on this issue, because in my opinion it is the crux of why having quiverfull families and homeschooling in chaos is abusive to the children involved.As I have mentioned before, doing something that causes harm to your child is abusive regardless of your intentions or religious justification. … [Read more...]

It’s Not the Affair That Irks Me, Mr. Phillips

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 by Lana Hope cross posted from the blog Homeschoolers Anonymous and her blog Wide Open GroundDoug Philips, president of Vision Forum, and popular advocate of Christian Reconstructionism, Christian Patriarchy, and the Stay-at-Home-Daughter Movement, who has influenced 1000s of homeschool families to not use birth control or send their daughters to college and keep daughters at stay home until they marry, cites some kind of emotional affair as reason he is stepping down from Vision Forum. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: The Grim Harvest of Safe Sex?

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Safe Sex, an urban legend … [Read more...]


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