Sometimes Church is the Problem

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by Boze Herrington cross posted from his blog The Talking LlamaIn May 2011 I requested a meeting with a church leader about the terrible time I had been having.I hadn’t eaten, really, in three weeks. I could barely sleep. Some nights I would just sit in my room and cry and cry as I thought about my life, about the kind of man I was, someone whose anger and hatred had left him alone and completely friendless. I cared about ideas more than I cared about people; and I realized I was heading towards the same miserable end as my hero, … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: “Quiet Bombs”?

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by Tim Price of Chalcedon Presbyterian Church posted at Ladies Against Feminism - The Door of Darkness When boys enter into puberty, they discover a door within themselves that has a sign saying, “DO NOT ENTER!” It is the door of sexual exploration and it has been presented to them by their new-found hormones. It is his responsibility to keep that door closed and to even guard it against any outside attempt — , i.e. seduction and temptation, — at prying it open. This is his first “rite of passage” into manhood, the first battle which begins with his own flesh. … [Read more...]

Vision Forum Inc. – The ‘For Profit’ VF is Closing!

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by Calulu cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't Rape...And so things get a bit more grim for the Phillips.There's been no official word on the closing of the incorporated for profit side of Vision Forum closing after Doug Phillips stepped down after admitting his affair and the closing of the ministry side of Vision Forum, but it looks like that is indeed what is happening. … [Read more...]

Religious Counsel

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by Anais Chartschenko cross posted from her blog The Monsterium(Please welcome Anais to NLQ and to the SASBN! We're glad she's here!)My rapist had listened to me. I had warned him I was thinking of telling on him. I was getting tired of being his rag doll. He explained very gently that no one would believe me, or if they did they would tell me it was my fault. He decided to demonstrate this. He was very sensitive this way. … [Read more...]

Spiritual Abuse and Whitewashed Marriage

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by Mere Dreamer cross posted from her blog Love is Not Equal to Love(Editor’s note: Please welcome Mere Dreamer to NLQ and the SASBN! Another great addition to our group!)I grew up in a 3rd world mission where the horror stories of Northern news overshadowed all other impressions of the US, though I determined to move there after graduation in spite of the fear. My 17 year old, culture-shocked self feared the six block walk from the school to work, morbidly certain it was inevitable that I would be kidnapped and raped. … [Read more...]

She Deserved My Undeterred Love

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by Joe Sands cross posted from his blog Incongruous CircumspectionTrigger warning: Sexual contentThe day was sweltering hot in the two room studio apartment. The air conditioning, rusting in it's metal encasement, rattled and whined, trying to keep up with the radiant heat of the asphalt coming in the back window. The room smelled slightly, as it always did, of a small gas leak from the old, olive green, stove on the east wall. … [Read more...]

Fundamentalist Flashbacks

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by Jonny Scaramanga cross posted from his blog Leaving Fundamentalism(Editor's note: Welcome Jonny to NLQ and the SASBN! We're glad to have you here!)I recently woke up in the middle of the night, gripped by a sudden panic. What if I’m wrong?If I’m wrong, I’m going to hell.I’ve spent the last several years campaigning to raise public awareness of fundamentalist Christian schools that I consider abusive. I went to such a school myself, so I have a dog in this fight. If what they taught me is true, then I have spent these years fighting against God himself. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: How Much More ‘Clear’ Does Doug Phillips Need to Be?

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by Doug Phillips of Vision Forum on Vision Forum Ministries website re his 'sin' that caused the closing of Vision Forum Ministries I would like to express my gratitude for the great kindness so many have shown to my family in the wake of my stepping down as president of Vision Forum Ministries. My family has been greatly encouraged by many loving notes we have received. With that in mind, I want to be so very clear about the rightness of this transition, and I want to clear up some matters which have been brought to my … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Sincere Repentance?

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by Doug Phillips of Vision Forum - True Repentance But repentance must be sincere. It must spring from “godly sorrow.” Too often “repentance” is the experience of offering a half-hearted and self-serving apology to God and man, mixed with large amounts of blame-shifting, pride, and a desire to be done with the whole matter so you don’t ever have to deal with it again. It is the “I have said I am sorry on my terms and in my way, and there is nothing more I need to do, so if that is not good enough for you, then you are the one in sin” attitude. … [Read more...]

Is Clergy Sexual Infidelity Rare?

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by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardDoug Phillips, of Vision Forum/Vision Forum Ministries, recently confessed that he had an inappropriate sexual relationship with a woman who is not his wife. (see my previous post in this) Defenders of Phillips have taken to their blogs, websites, Twitter, and Facebook, to do damage control on the behalf of Phillips and the patriarchal movement. One such defender is Voddie Baucham, the African-American version of Doug Phillips, sans the scandal. Baucham is an Independent Baptist pastor.  (you can find Baucham’s website here) … [Read more...]


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