Duggars and Courtship

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by Lana Hope cross posted from her blog Wide Open GroundA lot of people have pointed out how many Christian groups and churches are anti-gay. Even though these Christians love to say that they love the sinner and hate the sin, it does not remove the pain that a gay person has to face. If a gay teen comes out gay, the church will still pray for him and believe he needs to change. Sure the church claims to love the teen, but he’s still told he is sinning, and there is still that voice that something is wrong with him, and that he needs to change. … [Read more...]

News: Faith Healing or Child Abuse?

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by M. Dolon Hickmon at onFaith - For Sect in Idaho, Faith Healing Becomes Faith Killing Although detested by God, the worship of Molek crops up among so-called believers in both the Old and New Testaments. Often referred to as “passing their sons and daughters through the fire,” the sacrifices were notably always children. Described as exceptionally painful, these innocent deaths were usually witnessed by the parents, who shared sympathetically in their own child’s suffering. By enduring, the adults hoped to prove their faith and earn favor from a deity. … [Read more...]

So I’ve Been Spiritually Abused, What Next? Tips: Dealing With Face to Face Confrontations

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by Suzanne TitkemeyerOne of the biggest challenges I had during my recovery from spiritual abuse was what to say to the people from my old church circle when I'd run into them on the streets of my small town. They'd always want to rip into me on the subject of leaving that church, eager to issue 'Come to Jesus' talks or try and heap condemnation on me. I took to running the other way until I developed a coping strategy that allowed me to interact with them and put them on the spot. … [Read more...]

My Abusive Relationship Was Typical

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by Samantha Field cross posted from her blog Defeating The DragonsTrigger warning for abuse and sexual violence Last week, I wrote an article for xoJane and I shared some things about my past that I haven’t shared on the internet before. I don’t enjoy talking about my abusive relationship at all, and I especially avoid thinking about my last semester at PCC, which was nightmarish with exceedingly few good memories. I was extremely vulnerable in that piece, knowing that there would be people around the internet that would shit on it. … [Read more...]

Coming Out of the Cult Closet

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by AJ cross posted from her blog I Am PhoenixThe last year has been full of shifts, most of them tumultuous, but most of them ending up being quite positive. In the actual moment, each change didn't feel positive. It felt like I was wearing skin that didn't fit me anymore, and I was trying to wrestle out of it. Much like a critter shedding it's old skin. Painful, itchy, uncomfortable, exhausting. But then each time I shed an old layer, it felt great afterwards to relax and sit in the sun, so to speak with spanking new skin that felt all new and glowing. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Victim Blaming

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by Doug Wilson from Blog and Mablog - Vice, Victims and Vision ForumRe: Doug Phillips and Lourdes Torres Given that, either his sexual attentions were entirely unwelcome, or they were not. If they were not unwelcome, then the affair appears to have been one of complicated and unconsummated adultery, with two participants. She was an adult, and so if his attentions were not entirely unwelcome, she was a player in the vice, not a victim. The victim in this would have been Beall, with two people victimizing her. … [Read more...]

News: Bill Gothard’s Mea Culpa

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A statement from Bill Gothard has gone up on his website in the last 24 hours in which he attempts to explain himself. I have withheld this statement in order to honor the request of the Board of Directors to wait until an initial review has taken place. As the review continues, I now want to make this statement.God has brought me to a place of greater brokenness than at any other time in my life. It is a grief to realize how my pride and insensitivity have affected so many people. I have asked the Lord to reveal the underlying causes and He is doing this. … [Read more...]

News: Media Starting to Link Duggar Family to Doug Phillips Finally

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The Daily Beast reported this about the link between the Duggars and Doug Phillips of Vision Forum - Sex Scandal Rocks The Duggars' Christian Patriarchy MovementThe far-right Christian Patriarchy—brought to American audiences by the Duggar family—is on the verge of collapse after a series of alleged sex scandals involving the movement’s leaders. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Shut Up If A Church Leader Sins?

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by Stacy McDonald from Ladies Against Feminism and Your Sacred Calling - Something To Think About What exactly is it that causes that perverse glee to spring up in the heart of man when he sees another person fail? It’s evident on the front of every tabloid. We love to see someone else fatter than us, dumber than us, or seemingly more wicked than us. … [Read more...]

News: Pastor Accused of Using Nanny as Sex Object

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Written by Chelsea Schilling and reposted from World Net Daily. Lawsuit claims religious leader promised to marry young woman after wife dies(Warning: This story contains explicit descriptions of alleged sexual conduct described in a lawsuit and may be offensive to some readers.)The former leader of a popular Christian ministry – who resigned from his position after confessing to an “inappropriate” relationship – is now the subject of a lawsuit that claims he “methodically groomed” and made unwanted sexual contact with a young woman after serving as an authority figure in her life for more than a decade. … [Read more...]


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