Sometimes Church is the Problem

by Boze Herrington cross posted from his blog The Talking LlamaIn May 2011 I requested a meeting with a church leader about the terrible time I had been having.I hadn’t eaten, really, in three weeks. I could barely sleep. Some nights I would just sit in my room and cry and cry as I thought about my life, about the kind of man I was, someone whose anger and hatred had left him alone and completely friendless. I cared about ideas more than I cared about people; and I realized I was heading towards the same miserable end as my hero, … [Read more...]

Teenage Brides and Titus 2 Women of the Homeschool Apostates

by Heather Doney cross posted from her blog Becoming WorldlyToday the big American Prospect “Homeschool Apostates” story came out. A number of us have been working with Kathryn Joyce for some time on the issue and so while I only had a short segment in it, an interview on social awkwardness as a formative experience, the piece is the most comprehensive one to exist on this advocacy work I am helping spearhead as of yet, and it really highlights the issues in a way that I find to be deeply meaningful and sincerely hope will help raise awareness and bring about improvement. … [Read more...]

John Piper’s Defense of the Genocidal Christian God

by Bruce Gerenscer cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardThere are many reasons people choose to leave Christianity. Contrary to what apologists for Christianity suggest, deconversion stories have many elements and are rarely the same. That said, there are four elements that show up in most deconversion stories:The existence of evil The existence of suffering God acting contrary to the commands he gives people God commanding people to act contrary to the commands he gives to people … [Read more...]

Seven Signs of Spiritual Abuse

by Boze Herrington cross posted from his blog The Talking Llama(Please welcome Boze to NLQ and the Spiritual Abuse Survivor Blogs Network! He's an awesome addition!)For about five years during and after college I was trapped in a dangerous Charismatic religious community. Living in a spiritually abusive environment is like a nightmare that you can’t wake out of. It can be hard to tell right from wrong, left from right. The people you trust the most could betray you at … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: “To Train Up A Child” Harmful?

by Michael Pearl from No Greater Love "The alleged presence of the book makes it no more responsible for Hanna’s death than the presence of a weight loss book in the home of an overweight person is responsible for their obesity." Posted by CNN on their front page yesterday."To Train Up a Child" linked to deaths … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Always a Battle?

by Rachel D Ramer of CRI - Christian Families on the Edge Author Reb Bradley, however, echoes the Pearls: “Keep your objective in mind — subjection of their will.…Teach your children to obey without being told ‘why.’”11 Authors William and Colleen Dedrick also concur: “When your child disregards or disobeys your command, he breaks fellowship with you and … [Read more...]

Religious Counsel

by Anais Chartschenko cross posted from her blog The Monsterium(Please welcome Anais to NLQ and to the SASBN! We're glad she's here!)My rapist had listened to me. I had warned him I was thinking of telling on him. I was getting tired of being his rag doll. He explained very gently that no one would believe me, or if they did they would tell me it was my fault. He decided to demonstrate this. He was very sensitive this way. … [Read more...]

Spiritual Abuse and Whitewashed Marriage

by Mere Dreamer cross posted from her blog Love is Not Equal to Love(Editor’s note: Please welcome Mere Dreamer to NLQ and the SASBN! Another great addition to our group!)I grew up in a 3rd world mission where the horror stories of Northern news overshadowed all other impressions of the US, though I determined to move there after graduation in spite of the fear. My 17 year old, culture-shocked self feared the six block walk from the school to work, morbidly certain it was inevitable that I would be kidnapped and raped. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Requiring Obedience?

by John Piper from his blog Desiring God - Parents, Require Obedience of Your ChildrenRescue from Foolish Parenting The defiance and laziness of unbelieving parents I can understand. I have biblical categories of the behavior of the spiritually blind. But the neglect of Christian parents perplexes me. What is behind the failure to require and receive obedience? I’m not sure. But it may be that these nine observations will help rescue some parents from the folly of laissez-faire parenting. … [Read more...]

The Delusional Followers of Convicted Felon Jack Schaap

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Way ForwardJust when I think the Independent Fundamentalist Baptist (IFB) church movement can go no lower into the muck they surprise me. Delaine Rae, a recent guest post writer, a former IFB preacher’s kid, sent me a link to a Jack Schaap FAN page. I kid you not.  This page was started AFTER Schaap’s arrest and conviction and has comments as recent as a few days ago. … [Read more...]


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