Review: I Fired God: My Life Inside–and Escape from–the Secret World of the Independent Fundamental Baptist Cult by Jocelyn Zichterman

May 8, 2013 By Leave a Comment
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by Calulu When I first received this book I chuckled over the title, “I Fired God” because it seemed both humorous and sacrilegious at the same time. Firing God? How is it even possible? I quickly found out that the author should have fired her IFB God much sooner. Before reading “I Fired God” my [...]

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CTBHHM: How To Be an Abused Woman

May 7, 2013 By 3 Comments
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by Libby Anne Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 54-55 ***trigger warning*** Debi starts this passage by laying out what she calls “God’s Blueprint for Marriage.” She first quotes several verses:

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CTBHHM In Which Debi Reveals Her Mandate

April 28, 2013 By 8 Comments
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by Libby Anne Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 51-53  Remember that Debi has just poisoned the well against trusting one’s feelings, listening to mainstream society, or giving a hearing to the arguments of Christian feminists. She continues with this: Can we, ordinary housewives and mothers, jump into the arena and compete with these [...]

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CTBHHM: Remember, It Could Be Worse!

April 20, 2013 By 2 Comments
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by Libby Anne Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 45-47 I wanted to send my testimony because you have greatly encouraged me. I send it with my husband’s approval. Debi finishes her section on thankfulness

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CTBHHM: Subordinate, But Not Inferior

March 15, 2013 By 4 Comments
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by Libby Anne Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 23-24 The role of being a perfectly fit helper does not make one inferior to the leader. Okay, so think back to everything we’ve read so far. Debi says that women

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