Justice is No Lady: Chapter 11: Jack, the One I Lost

June 6, 2012 By 16 Comments
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by Tess Willoughby When Jack was just a baby, Nate had rejected Jack’s personality, and had set out to beat and berate it out of him. When Jack reached middle school age, or perhaps a little bit before, the seeds that his father had planted suddenly sprouted. Jack began to come unraveled. “Something is wrong [...]

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Millipede Part 7

June 5, 2012 By 11 Comments
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by Millipede This is not to say that my years embracing Patriarchy were all bad. Despite many bad changes and warning signs, there were moments of joy. Staying at home was fun. I promised myself to stay busy so as it was all too tempting to sit around. I made myself a “work” schedule complete [...]

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Rebuilding

June 4, 2012 By 12 Comments
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by Bruce Gerencser Nine years have passed since I preached my last sermon, since my wife was called the “pastor’s wife.” Almost four years have passed since my wife and I determined to stop attending church. We are now among the “unchurched”, casualties of a life spent in Evangelical Christianity. Worse yet, at least according [...]

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Who Was That Masked Man? Part 6

June 3, 2012 By 10 Comments

by Calulu When we last left the Smiths they had reconciled and were determined to make everyone be best friends forever again. Nothing doing. Things ratchet up a few new levels of tension. 9/11 happens. I’m sitting in front of the television having coffee and folding clothes when CNN shows the coverage of the first [...]

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Raised Quiverfull: Introductory Questions

June 2, 2012 By 3 Comments

by Libby Anne Welcome to Raised Quiverfull! Nine young adults who grew up in the Christian Patriarchy and Quiverfull movements have come together to answer a series of questions about their experiences. All of these young adults have since questioned and left these ideologies and have chosen their own life paths. The goal of the [...]

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