It's about STRONG WOMEN

by Vyckie  My oldest daughter, Angel and my mom, Lou Ann. So many of the visitors who are reading the stories on this blog have left a comment to the affect that, "You & Laura are amazingly strong women."I've actually done some thinking about that ~ and wanted to share a bit of it here.We have been "strong," yes ~ but is that such a good thing? For myself, I finally realized that being so strong enabled me to live a life that was not healthy for me or my children ~ or for my ex-husband for that matter. As long as I could "handle it" ~ I did.Allow me to boast for just a minute about how "strong" I was.I was so "strong" that I bore seven children ~ six of them in eleven years ~ … [Read more...]

QUIVERFULL: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement ~ A Review

by VyckieThe reason I am telling my story now (as opposed to 10 years from now when my kids are grown up and I actually have time to write), is because I came across this article on Alternet and read with interest about the people and the teachings which our family had followed for many years. I was kind of amazed that someone on that liberal news site knew about this movement ~ so I posted a comment on the article ~ and that's how I got in touch with Kathryn Joyce, author of Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement.I pre-ordered the book and as I read it, I kept saying aloud, "I know these people!" All the names were familiar to me ~ Nancy Campbell, Mary Pride, Doug … [Read more...]

It's a KID COLLECTING COMPETITION

by VyckieHazelle with her little lamb collection. When I was "trusting the Lord with our family planning." I never called my children "kids" ~ they were PRECIOUS LAMBS, because as Nancy Campbell explained, "kids" are what neglectful goats have while lambs are the offspring of sheep.A few random thoughts on the topic of having lots of kids:*** Recently I took my children and a neighbor girl to the theater to watch Race to Witch Mountain. Sitting in the dark watching the previews, I noticed a lady coming up the aisle with a whole bunch of kids in tow. Naturally, I started counting. One, two, three ... I wondered if these were all her kids, or did she have some of her children's friends … [Read more...]

It's about MARTYRDOM

by VyckieJust look how self-indulgent I've become! LOL No, seriously ~ I didn't eat that entire funnel cake by myself ~ I had six helpers, so we got two pastries (one Bavarian creme and one strawberry) to share ;)As much as I like to say that I'm pretty clueless these days ~ "I can tell you what I don't believe, but as far as knowing anything, I really don't see how I could" ~ there is at least one thing that I've learned which I'll hopefully hang onto and try not to forget:Martrydom is not very practical for mothers ~ in fact, it could just get you killed!As a Christian, I was convinced that considering my own needs and desires would be selfish and un-Christlike. I remember a … [Read more...]

It's about SUPERIORITY

 by Vyckie(Hey, Berea & Chassé ~ don't kill me for posting this picture, okay? LOL!)Now, I never would have admitted this before ~ not to myself and certainly not to the general public ~ but the really big draw of the whole Quiverfull/patriarchy movement was the hope of living such an exemplary life that my husband and my children would one day rise up and call me "Blessed" ~ and that in The End, the Lord Jesus himself would say, "Well done, my good and faithful servant." I wanted to be the very best Christian that I could possibly be.A popular topic of conversation in our home went like this: "Are we better than all the people who don't live the way we do?" Referring, of c … [Read more...]


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