Religious Child Abuse: An Unending Source of Sadness

by M. Dolon Hickmon author of the book '13:24 - A Story of Faith and Obsession'In addition to supernatural benefits, religions often promise what amounts to a program of self-improvement. Ingredients may include prayer, studying scripture and attending regular meetings. Such paths often also call for personal sacrifice, whether in the form of tithes and offerings or through performing unpaid labor such as proselytizing door-to-door. For their efforts, the faithful are promised an array of tangible and intangible remunerations: health and wealth, relief of depression or anxiety, eternal life and so forth. For many, one particularly alluring promise is that of a fool-proof formula for … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: African Americans Are The ‘Real Racists’?

by Zsuzsanna Anderson from her blog Are They All Yours? - Joyous Kwanzaa? No Thanks!Editor's note: Every now and then one of the Quiverfull leaders will slip up and state that one of the aims of the Quiverfull movement is to outbreed darker races. Nancy Campbell has admitted it a couple of times along with a few others. Turns out, surprise, surprise, that Zsuzsanna Anderson, wife of pastor Steven L. Anderson is also a bigot against blacks. … [Read more...]

Bonding and Bondage in Abusive Relationships

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch the ShepherdIn case you're wondering why you can't "just get over it" from a painfully abusive or damaging or destructive relationship: Trauma bonding makes any relationship harder to end, harder to heal, harder to find freedom from through forgiveness, than the loss of a true love. The neural pathways burned into a brain in trauma bonding are laid down in powerful fear/anxiety hormonal rushes leaving even comparatively good memories with the person colored with the stains of those traumatic events. The loss of anyone we have loved -- whether they have treated us very well indeed or in a deplorable manner -- is something that will heal … [Read more...]

How Should Churches Handle Allegations of Abuse?

by Bruce Gerencser cross posted from his blog The Life and Times of Bruce GerencserHow should churches handle allegations of abuse? Let me state right up front that I do not think churches shouldn’t “handle” anything.  This is what gets churches, pastors, and church leaders into trouble to start with. Instead of immediately doing the right thing when someone makes an allegation of abuse, pastors and church members often: … [Read more...]

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Appropriate Touching?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Delusions of Spanking?

by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy - LaughingEditor's note: This was written back when the deaths of Hana Grace Williams and Lydia Shatz were all over the news with  news media speculating of the links between Michael Pearl's book 'To Train Up A Child' and a pile of dead children. Michael is attempting to justify his method of child beating as a legitimate way to raise children instead of the law-breaking child abuse it actually is. Dream on, Michael, because I'm seeing almost no children raised in extreme Christianity such as yours becoming anything beyond a manual laborer or the chronically under employed. Doctors? Lawyers? Psychiatric workers? I need a legitimate citation of his … [Read more...]

Deadly Submission – Why Guys Like Biblical Gender Roles Matter & the Damage They Cause

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeETA Monday 11-23-15 Have to admit I was completely wrong on this one. They have arrested three guys for this murder with no apparent connection to Davey Blackburn. Breaking news from Fox 59~~~~~~~~~We've followed Biblical Gender Roles for about six months now. Gasping in shock at some newer more outrageous statement of his, laughed at some of the things coming out of mouth like that disastrous Alan Combs interview he did. But one thing we have not done here at NLQ is realize how his contemptuous words against women in marriage could have serious influence on unhappy husbands and possibly lead to tragic … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why is Modern Medicine Denigrated?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.We've all seen the Quiverfull families that refuse all modern medicine, sometimes with rather dire consequences. I'm thinking of a lady at my former church that had a very treatable form of cancer yet refused all treatments because she believed that medicine was idolatry and that God would heal her. She's been six feet under for quite some time now, dying in horrible agony. Her husband took the insurance money from her death to buy a yellow Corvette, and marry a much younger better looking woman after the death of his wife. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: A Tax on Working Mothers?

by Biblical Gender Roles at Biblical Gender Roles.com – Lindsey Graham Says We Need to Import Other Country’s(SIC) ChildrenEditor's note: So this is more from the piece we quoted last week involving Lindsay Graham saying we would need to import workers to offset the coming large number of baby boomers retiring. In this part BGR's wants the government and our tax system to reward Quiverfull families with lots of children and stay at home mothers, while penalizing any mother with children that does dare to work outside of the home. There's nothing taking into account the fact that for many families, even those where the mother would like to stay home with the children or feels massive gui … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Upside Down World – LAF Now Claiming Unwed Pregnancies Not Sinful?

by Chad Ashby as quoted by Ladies Against Feminism - Brothers and Sisters, Unwed Pregnancy is Not a SinEditor's note: While I agree with Ashby that there should not be blaming, shaming or condemnation when someone turns up pregnant out of wedlock it's  not been my experience that places like PRCs or even the pages of LAF are very safe places. This is exactly the kind of ridiculous hypocrisy that the world looks down upon in the churches, saying one thing, doing exactly the opposite.  Even the places that treat unwed expectant mothers well tend to turn and blame them the moment the baby is born and the mother attempts to sign up for any social network benefits. You cannot have it both w … [Read more...]


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