Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Appropriate Touching?

Another installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 18 … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 1 – Delusions of Spanking?

by Michael Pearl of No Greater Joy - LaughingEditor's note: This was written back when the deaths of Hana Grace Williams and Lydia Shatz were all over the news with  news media speculating of the links between Michael Pearl's book 'To Train Up A Child' and a pile of dead children. Michael is attempting to justify his method of child beating as a legitimate way to raise children instead of the law-breaking child abuse it actually is. Dream on, Michael, because I'm seeing almost no children raised in extreme Christianity such as yours becoming anything beyond a manual laborer or the chronically under employed. Doctors? Lawyers? Psychiatric workers? I need a legitimate citation of his … [Read more...]

Deadly Submission – Why Guys Like Biblical Gender Roles Matter & the Damage They Cause

by Suzanne Titkemeyer cross posted from her blog True Love Doesn't RapeETA Monday 11-23-15 Have to admit I was completely wrong on this one. They have arrested three guys for this murder with no apparent connection to Davey Blackburn. Breaking news from Fox 59~~~~~~~~~We've followed Biblical Gender Roles for about six months now. Gasping in shock at some newer more outrageous statement of his, laughed at some of the things coming out of mouth like that disastrous Alan Combs interview he did. But one thing we have not done here at NLQ is realize how his contemptuous words against women in marriage could have serious influence on unhappy husbands and possibly lead to tragic … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why is Modern Medicine Denigrated?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.We've all seen the Quiverfull families that refuse all modern medicine, sometimes with rather dire consequences. I'm thinking of a lady at my former church that had a very treatable form of cancer yet refused all treatments because she believed that medicine was idolatry and that God would heal her. She's been six feet under for quite some time now, dying in horrible agony. Her husband took the insurance money from her death to buy a yellow Corvette, and marry a much younger better looking woman after the death of his wife. … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: A Tax on Working Mothers?

by Biblical Gender Roles at Biblical Gender Roles.com – Lindsey Graham Says We Need to Import Other Country’s(SIC) ChildrenEditor's note: So this is more from the piece we quoted last week involving Lindsay Graham saying we would need to import workers to offset the coming large number of baby boomers retiring. In this part BGR's wants the government and our tax system to reward Quiverfull families with lots of children and stay at home mothers, while penalizing any mother with children that does dare to work outside of the home. There's nothing taking into account the fact that for many families, even those where the mother would like to stay home with the children or feels massive gui … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Upside Down World – LAF Now Claiming Unwed Pregnancies Not Sinful?

by Chad Ashby as quoted by Ladies Against Feminism - Brothers and Sisters, Unwed Pregnancy is Not a SinEditor's note: While I agree with Ashby that there should not be blaming, shaming or condemnation when someone turns up pregnant out of wedlock it's  not been my experience that places like PRCs or even the pages of LAF are very safe places. This is exactly the kind of ridiculous hypocrisy that the world looks down upon in the churches, saying one thing, doing exactly the opposite.  Even the places that treat unwed expectant mothers well tend to turn and blame them the moment the baby is born and the mother attempts to sign up for any social network benefits. You cannot have it both w … [Read more...]

Quoting Quiverfull: Part 4 – Have Your Babies In Your Teens?

by Biblical Gender Roles from Biblical Gender Roles.com - Women's Ovaries Don't Agree With FeminismEditor's note: Clearly BGR, or as NLQ SASBN member Bruce Gerencser likes to call him Coward Behind The Screen CBtS, believes the same false logic as Nancy Campbell that our world is under populated and some big disaster will happen unless we all have huge families of many children. That's not so, this is another lie that fundamentalist quiverfull Christians believe that has no scientific basis in fact. … [Read more...]

Answer to my Critics: My Childhood Opened My Eyes

by Joe Sands cross posted from his blog Incongruous Circumspection Editor's note: Some translations here. Billy Boy G is Bill Gothard, Swine Beads are Michael and Debi Pearl and Ezzo-kimos are followers of Gary Ezzo. Trigger warnings for descriptions of child abuse.Recently, I was accused of only speaking out against Billy Boy G. and his patriarchal ilk because I have a vendetta against my life as a child.  While I do not disagree that half of my childhood was pure torture, I vehemently disagree with that accusation.Here's a summing up of my childhood: … [Read more...]

What To Do About Toxic Power In Marriage

by Virginia Knowles cross posted from her blog Watch The ShepherdDear friends,What can a woman do if she realizes that she is in a controlling, manipulative, intimidating, verbally aggressive, and/or physically violent marriage?Two months ago I wrote a post called Recognizing Pervasive, Poisonous Power in Marriage which gave an analysis of the problem. I based it on concepts found in The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. At the end, I promised a follow up post with suggestions on what she can do. … [Read more...]

NLQ Question of the Week: Why is ‘Home Birth’ so Promoted as the Godly Way?

This is a new series we have started running on Thursdays. Examining some of the questions involving long held Quiverfull theology and life.One thing we've seen here at NLQ in both the stories told by some of our writers and in the words of cultural enforcers of Quiverfull such as Debi Pearl and Nancy Campbell is a dislike or disdain for giving birth in the hospital. Even when there are tragic circumstances that might have been prevented with prior prenatal care with a licensed physician and at a health care facility --- like what happened with Carri Chmielewski. … [Read more...]