Bill Gothard has negatively affected my life…Part 1

May 21, 2013 By Leave a Comment
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by Shadow Spring I started this blog to have a space to write about how patriarchal fundamentalist thought had affected my marriage and resulted in disaster on many levels. The truth is that patriarchal fundamentalist thought had already wreaked havoc on my life before I even met my husband,

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Domestic Violence in the IFB Church Movement

May 20, 2013 By Leave a Comment
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by Bruce Gerencser First, let me give readers the definition for domestic violence. The National Domestic Violence Hotline defines domestic violence as: Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner.

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CTBHHM: Disappointed Old Failures

May 19, 2013 By Leave a Comment
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by Libby Anne Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 58-59 The title of this section is “Disappointed Old Failures,” and it follows last week’s section in threatening women with disaster and shipwreck if they fail to follow Debi’s advice. Or, God’s advice. Debi clearly thinks they’re they same thing.

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But Bruce, Don’t Women CHOOSE to Stay in Fundamentalism?

May 17, 2013 By 3 Comments
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by Bruce Gerencser It’s not that simple. We all tend to think it is just a matter of choice or an act of the will when we see people enmeshed in Fundamentalist religions or bizarre ideologies that we have no personal experience with.

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This is NOT Homeschooling: Is HSLDA Part of a “Bible-Based Cult”?

May 15, 2013 By 9 Comments
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by Heather Doney This may be the most important and most scary post on homeschooling that I have ever written. It feels like something out of a Margaret Atwood novel and I am numb as I write this, so please bear with me. The title of this post is not rhetorical. It is a question [...]

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