Help For Those With Doubts

April 18, 2013 By 12 Comments
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by Bruce Gerencser You are a Christian. You put your faith and trust in Jesus Christ. You have been baptized and you are a member in good standing of

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The Jonathan Nichols Story: Growing Up Gay in the IFB Church

April 9, 2013 By 1 Comment
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by Bruce Gerencser What follows is a brief excerpt of a story about Jonathan Nichols. Jonathan grew up in the Newark Baptist Temple,  the Independent Fundamentalist Baptist church ((IFB) pastored by my wife’s uncle, James Dennis.  The Pastor (Jamie) Overton

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Good Baptists Don’t Dance 1971-72

March 31, 2013 By Leave a Comment
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by Bruce Gerencser It’s September of  1971 and I am fourteen and a ninth grade student at Central Junior High School in Findlay, Ohio. Seven months later, in April of 1972, my parents divorced, and a  few months after that Mom married her first cousin and Dad married a 19-year-old who had a little girl.

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The Voice of Russia: America Edition

March 25, 2013 By Leave a Comment
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Today some of our own NLQ SASBN best were interviewed about their lives and experiences in the Quiverfull Movement for the radio program The Voice of Russia America Edition on the Jamila Bey program. Our own Vyckie Garrison

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Sunday Challenge – How Has Your Self Body Image Changed?

March 24, 2013 By 3 Comments
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Introducing the NLQ Sunday Challenge! What it’s all about is you, you writing in and sharing your take on the topic picked for the week, sharing your hard earned wisdom with others. Just write up as little or as much as you feel like saying on that subject, email it to

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