On Being Your Husband’s “Playmate”

April 16, 2013 By 7 Comments
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by Libby Anne Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 42-44 This section follows Debi’s story about the time Mike tried to show off, ended up spilling a sack of garbage, and then marched off in embarrassment leaving her to clean it up. The moral of Debi’s story was the last part,

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CTBHHM: In Which Mike Spills the Garbage

April 13, 2013 By 6 Comments
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  Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 40-42 Debi’s goal in this passage is to show how thanksgiving produces joy. She starts with a story called “My Jolly Playmate.” This story is sort of divided into three parts: the first part continues Debi’s pattern of urging women to just be happy rather than actually [...]

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The Jonathan Nichols Story: Growing Up Gay in the IFB Church

April 9, 2013 By 1 Comment
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by Bruce Gerencser What follows is a brief excerpt of a story about Jonathan Nichols. Jonathan grew up in the Newark Baptist Temple,  the Independent Fundamentalist Baptist church ((IFB) pastored by my wife’s uncle, James Dennis.  The Pastor (Jamie) Overton

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CTBHHM: Contentment Is All That Matters

April 8, 2013 By 7 Comments
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by Libby Anne Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 35-38 This section is titled “A Thankful Spirit.” Debi begins by contrasting two examples. Here is the first one: I know women who remain perpetually discontented

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CTBHHM: Smile, Giggle and Simper

April 5, 2013 By 9 Comments
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by Libby Anne Created To Be His Help Meet, pp. 28-32 The rest of Debi’s chapter on “a merry heart” is taken up with her response to a letter from a follower. Debi spends four full pages responding. The longer I read, the sadder I got. I apologize in advance. First, the letter:

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